S/O--Should the married men apologize to me?

[Anonymous]

I have been aggressively pursued, and lied to, by married men. I am single and find that it is morally offensive to approach me as a married man. You are lying about not having multiple sex partners and generally waste my time on useless dates. Should we require that married me be outed and apologize to the women they pursue?

[Anonymous]

Uh you can’t make somebody apologize unless they’re your child. That’s weird.

But I would definitely tattle on them to their wives. You’re strangers, it won’t hurt your relationship, and the married guys deserve it for lying to you.

[Anonymous]

God, you are not special. I was preyed on by married men all throughout my 20s-30s. No. I don’t expect an apology. I didn’t give them the time of day. I was disgusted by their behavior.

The guy is married. Period. No thought of pursuing him or taking him up on his offers. I don’t care wth he claimed. I had a strong father figure whom I loved and encouraged me in very way—coached my team sports, encouraged my pursuit of a career in science, and treated my mother with respect and modeled a loving marriage.

You are trying to start a stupid debate to make OW victims. They may be messed in the head as a result of childhood, but so are the men they cheat with.

[Anonymous]

Why would I want apologies from them?! I want to never ever see or talk to them again as long as I live.

[Anonymous]

Isn't it THEIR WIVES who deserve an apology?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uh you can’t make somebody apologize unless they’re your child. That’s weird.

But I would definitely tattle on them to their wives. You’re strangers, it won’t hurt your relationship, and the married guys deserve it for lying to you.

You missed that this is a spin-off.
Also, outing them to their wives requires a level of investment and time most people do not want to deal with. Usually, women want to get these losers out of their lives — NOT insert herself in their marriage. Plus there’s the very real possibility that the wife lashes out at YOU. Not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it THEIR WIVES who deserve an apology?

Sure, they do too. The women who these men pursue and lie to also deserve an apology. These men are scum though so it’s unlikely anyone they hurt will get a real apology.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh you can’t make somebody apologize unless they’re your child. That’s weird.

But I would definitely tattle on them to their wives. You’re strangers, it won’t hurt your relationship, and the married guys deserve it for lying to you.

You missed that this is a spin-off.
Also, outing them to their wives requires a level of investment and time most people do not want to deal with. Usually, women want to get these losers out of their lives — NOT insert herself in their marriage. Plus there’s the very real possibility that the wife lashes out at YOU. Not worth it.

You’re right I did miss that.

But I have seen social media posts about women outing married men who propositioned them. They are delightful. I wouldn’t say somebody should do it, but I would. It’s worth the crazy wife risk.

[Anonymous]

If you’re losing precious dating time to married men, that’s on you. It’s not that hard to spot the married ones and the presumption that you somehow missed The One while you were messing around is the second dumbest thing I’ve heard today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been aggressively pursued, and lied to, by married men. I am single and find that it is morally offensive to approach me as a married man. You are lying about not having multiple sex partners and generally waste my time on useless dates. Should we require that married me be outed and apologize to the women they pursue?

It's funny, after I got divorced, how many women I dated had slept with married men. Some of them did it when they were married themselves. A few of the women had been fooled, and some guys are great at that charade. But many had done it willingly, knowing he was married. These were not typical low-class uneducated slut women either, many of them were professionals and WOC.

It was also interesting how many women I have met have slept with their boss for either a raise or a promotion. It explains a lot of what I have seen in the workplace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh you can’t make somebody apologize unless they’re your child. That’s weird.

But I would definitely tattle on them to their wives. You’re strangers, it won’t hurt your relationship, and the married guys deserve it for lying to you.

You missed that this is a spin-off.
Also, outing them to their wives requires a level of investment and time most people do not want to deal with. Usually, women want to get these losers out of their lives — NOT insert herself in their marriage. Plus there’s the very real possibility that the wife lashes out at YOU. Not worth it.

You’re right I did miss that.

But I have seen social media posts about women outing married men who propositioned them. They are delightful. I wouldn’t say somebody should do it, but I would. It’s worth the crazy wife risk.

I'm wife that would want to know!!! Out his *ss, better to know before it gets too far along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been aggressively pursued, and lied to, by married men. I am single and find that it is morally offensive to approach me as a married man. You are lying about not having multiple sex partners and generally waste my time on useless dates. Should we require that married me be outed and apologize to the women they pursue?

It's funny, after I got divorced, how many women I dated had slept with married men. Some of them did it when they were married themselves. A few of the women had been fooled, and some guys are great at that charade. But many had done it willingly, knowing he was married. These were not typical low-class uneducated slut women either, many of them were professionals and WOC.

It was also interesting how many women I have met have slept with their boss for either a raise or a promotion. It explains a lot of what I have seen in the workplace.

They cheat in numbers as high as men. This board always focuses on the 'a*shole men', but if you follow there are so many OW that post on this board, many married too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been aggressively pursued, and lied to, by married men. I am single and find that it is morally offensive to approach me as a married man. You are lying about not having multiple sex partners and generally waste my time on useless dates. Should we require that married me be outed and apologize to the women they pursue?

It's funny, after I got divorced, how many women I dated had slept with married men. Some of them did it when they were married themselves. A few of the women had been fooled, and some guys are great at that charade. But many had done it willingly, knowing he was married. These were not typical low-class uneducated slut women either, many of them were professionals and WOC.

It was also interesting how many women I have met have slept with their boss for either a raise or a promotion. It explains a lot of what I have seen in the workplace.

They cheat in numbers as high as men. This board always focuses on the 'a*shole men', but if you follow there are so many OW that post on this board, many married too.

And many posts from men whose wives have cheated on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been aggressively pursued, and lied to, by married men. I am single and find that it is morally offensive to approach me as a married man. You are lying about not having multiple sex partners and generally waste my time on useless dates. Should we require that married me be outed and apologize to the women they pursue?

It's funny, after I got divorced, how many women I dated had slept with married men. Some of them did it when they were married themselves. A few of the women had been fooled, and some guys are great at that charade. But many had done it willingly, knowing he was married. These were not typical low-class uneducated slut women either, many of them were professionals and WOC.

It was also interesting how many women I have met have slept with their boss for either a raise or a promotion. It explains a lot of what I have seen in the workplace.

Yuck that's because you need to raise the bar in life buddy. Screen them online before you meet for coffee fyi.

It doesn't speak well of anyone who surrounds themselves with low lifes. Food for thought!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been aggressively pursued, and lied to, by married men. I am single and find that it is morally offensive to approach me as a married man. You are lying about not having multiple sex partners and generally waste my time on useless dates. Should we require that married me be outed and apologize to the women they pursue?

It's funny, after I got divorced, how many women I dated had slept with married men. Some of them did it when they were married themselves. A few of the women had been fooled, and some guys are great at that charade. But many had done it willingly, knowing he was married. These were not typical low-class uneducated slut women either, many of them were professionals and WOC.

It was also interesting how many women I have met have slept with their boss for either a raise or a promotion. It explains a lot of what I have seen in the workplace.

Yuck that's because you need to raise the bar in life buddy. Screen them online before you meet for coffee fyi.

It doesn't speak well of anyone who surrounds themselves with low lifes. Food for thought!

I think he was just 'sleeping with them' so didn't care about their moral character or planning a future with them. Sad, but like 99% of men you will find on the Internet dating sites.