Coach Texting Players

[Anonymous]

I saw this post on the general sports forum and it made me wonder....if a coach is texting or calling your kid one on one, is that a "safesport" violation? Is this allowed? I am not asking people if they think this is right or wrong. There are two sides...letting kids take control of themselves and the people who bring up all the bad things that can happen I understand both sides. I'm asking if anyone knows if this is a violation that could get the coach in trouble. My kid's coach does this....often. I check my kid's phone, etc. I do trust the coach, so this is more about, can the coach get in trouble if someone reports him? I wouldn't want to see him get in trouble over this. Thanks

[Anonymous]

In the safesport training I took this is a violation. A parent or second adult should always be cc:ed or included on the text trail.

[Anonymous]

yes, but the coaches also groom the parents to have them believe that is it time for their children to be responsible enough and it is part of the team culture.

[Anonymous]

My son has texted with his last two basketball coaches. I don't think that there is any rule about it in Bball but I could be wrong. In both cases I was/am fine with it. Neither coach is some kind of role model but I have no issue with them providing basketball pointers to my kid individually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son has texted with his last two basketball coaches. I don't think that there is any rule about it in Bball but I could be wrong. In both cases I was/am fine with it. Neither coach is some kind of role model but I have no issue with them providing basketball pointers to my kid individually.

Right. I agree with you but what if this coach is doing something similar for another kid and, for some reason, the parent gets pissed at him...for playing time let's just say...and goes to the club/league/state/whoever and complains about the 1v1 texts, etc. I don't want to see the coach get in trouble for trying to help kids individually.

[Anonymous]

I'd be thrilled not to be the middleman anymore...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son has texted with his last two basketball coaches. I don't think that there is any rule about it in Bball but I could be wrong. In both cases I was/am fine with it. Neither coach is some kind of role model but I have no issue with them providing basketball pointers to my kid individually.

Right. I agree with you but what if this coach is doing something similar for another kid and, for some reason, the parent gets pissed at him...for playing time let's just say...and goes to the club/league/state/whoever and complains about the 1v1 texts, etc. I don't want to see the coach get in trouble for trying to help kids individually.

I get that. The coach may be trying to just do his job, but it makes sense to look out for him/her because people can be vindictive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes, but the coaches also groom the parents to have them believe that is it time for their children to be responsible enough and it is part of the team culture.

This is true, and is a pet peeve. It is mainly just a convenience for the coach to avoid accountability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son has texted with his last two basketball coaches. I don't think that there is any rule about it in Bball but I could be wrong. In both cases I was/am fine with it. Neither coach is some kind of role model but I have no issue with them providing basketball pointers to my kid individually.

Right. I agree with you but what if this coach is doing something similar for another kid and, for some reason, the parent gets pissed at him...for playing time let's just say...and goes to the club/league/state/whoever and complains about the 1v1 texts, etc. I don't want to see the coach get in trouble for trying to help kids individually.

I get that. The coach may be trying to just do his job, but it makes sense to look out for him/her because people can be vindictive

Exactly. That's what I've been trying to say. So can a coach get in trouble...like fired...from their club for doing this? Is every club different or is there an overarching requirement that says this is a violation. If it's club by club, I think the coach is OK. But if it's some state rule, then, yes, I'm worried some vindictive parent can get them in trouble.

[Anonymous]

What age are we talking?
I know every situation is different but If its strictly sport related Im ok with it.
Teaching kids thru sports to be leaders, critical thinkers, and independent decision makers is a lost art these days thanks to so many parents raising snow flakes for kids.
I would say monitor it be dont intervene as long as appropriate.

[Anonymous]

I agree that age is a factor-- with soccer primarily because at a certain point you are playing by rules where you are a starter or you aren't...playing time is essentially set. I know at the club level where my kids play now (HS teens), if you are unhappy you have to switch clubs. Most would never switch because they know they have the best opportunity at this club, this team. Even though in basketball playing time isn't set, there are starters in each position and then a rotation through. I'd say 11 and under a coach would not be smart to directly communicate with kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What age are we talking?
I know every situation is different but If its strictly sport related Im ok with it.
Teaching kids thru sports to be leaders, critical thinkers, and independent decision makers is a lost art these days thanks to so many parents raising snow flakes for kids.
I would say monitor it be dont intervene as long as appropriate.

OP here. I already said...I AM FINE WITH IT. I'm worried that another parent might "turn him in" if it's illegal. SO whether you are OK with it or I'm OK with it is irrelevant. And for what I'm talking about, age doesn't matter...well, yes, it does...we are talking about minors I suppose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son has texted with his last two basketball coaches. I don't think that there is any rule about it in Bball but I could be wrong. In both cases I was/am fine with it. Neither coach is some kind of role model but I have no issue with them providing basketball pointers to my kid individually.

Right. I agree with you but what if this coach is doing something similar for another kid and, for some reason, the parent gets pissed at him...for playing time let's just say...and goes to the club/league/state/whoever and complains about the 1v1 texts, etc. I don't want to see the coach get in trouble for trying to help kids individually.

Why can't the coach talk to him at practice or after the game? It seems like it would be a more effective way to communicate this information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What age are we talking?
I know every situation is different but If its strictly sport related Im ok with it.
Teaching kids thru sports to be leaders, critical thinkers, and independent decision makers is a lost art these days thanks to so many parents raising snow flakes for kids.
I would say monitor it be dont intervene as long as appropriate.

OP here. I already said...I AM FINE WITH IT. I'm worried that another parent might "turn him in" if it's illegal. SO whether you are OK with it or I'm OK with it is irrelevant. And for what I'm talking about, age doesn't matter...well, yes, it does...we are talking about minors I suppose.

We don't know, why don't you email the head of the league and ask what the rule is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What age are we talking?
I know every situation is different but If its strictly sport related Im ok with it.
Teaching kids thru sports to be leaders, critical thinkers, and independent decision makers is a lost art these days thanks to so many parents raising snow flakes for kids.
I would say monitor it be dont intervene as long as appropriate.

OP here. I already said...I AM FINE WITH IT. I'm worried that another parent might "turn him in" if it's illegal. SO whether you are OK with it or I'm OK with it is irrelevant. And for what I'm talking about, age doesn't matter...well, yes, it does...we are talking about minors I suppose.

Relax douche.. By you saying minors tells me you might actually be one of those snow flake parents. Just mind your business and dont be a snitch. Loose lips sink ships and have brought down many college programs. If there's no abuse going on there's no need for you to step in.