Coach Texting Players

[Anonymous]

As said above, normalizing excluding the parents creates fertile ground for manipulation.

Not following explicit instructions from the club shows poor judgment at minimum and is grounds to terminate the coach.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How about be honest with your kids. Tell them trust nobody fully!! Not your coach, teacher, priest , uncle, cousin, neighbor, scout leader. Tell them there are people who have bad intentions and anything outside The parameter you set is wrong and needs to be addressed. As parents we cannot stop the intentions of "predators". However we can prepare our kids by teaching them whats out there and how to avoid and take action if these situations ever occur.

Right. Because kids will speak up against a well liked coach that controls your playing time and risk not playing in college. It’s even harder if a parent likes the Coach.

Be a better parent bro. Teach your kids right from wrong teach them when they are young they need to speak up against things.

Wish we were perfect like you and your children. Reality is that damage is done by the time it’s reported to you. Monitoring was the point . Predators first build a trusting relationship before any offense happens. But go ahead and trust your child.

No one is perfect. That said, lame sorry excuses like yours perpetuate the problem. It’s easy to infer you do not do a good job at parenting.

[Anonymous]

Based on responses, a smart coach will protect themselves and include a parent on all texts back and forth with kids under the age of 18. Protects the coach, the club, and the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based on responses, a smart coach will protect themselves and include a parent on all texts back and forth with kids under the age of 18. Protects the coach, the club, and the kid.

All coaches under US soccer and state organizations are required to do this (actually beyond 18 if the athlete is still playing).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I coach girls and we text. Then again, they’re in HS so they’re mature.

If you are for real, you have a bad judgment.

Sure. That’s why they adore me and their parents are switching clubs to join mine.

But go ahead and wear the moral correctness gown, Chad.

You are an idiot.

One false accusation and you are toast

Never drive or be alone 1 on 1 and always include a parent on a text.

[Anonymous]

^with one of the players

Parents are taught to watch for coaches that take a special interest in their kid. Grooming

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I coach girls and we text. Then again, they’re in HS so they’re mature.

If you are for real, you have a bad judgment.

Sure. That’s why they adore me and their parents are switching clubs to join mine.

But go ahead and wear the moral correctness gown, Chad.

You are an idiot.

One false accusation and you are toast

Never drive or be alone 1 on 1 and always include a parent on a text.

Agree with the driving or otherwise being alone 1 on 1 with a kid, but texting is self-protective against false accusations. Unlike a phone call or 1 on 1 conversation, where a kid might claim a coach said something he or she didn't actually say, with texts there's a written record of the entire communication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I coach girls and we text. Then again, they’re in HS so they’re mature.

If you are for real, you have a bad judgment.

Sure. That’s why they adore me and their parents are switching clubs to join mine.

But go ahead and wear the moral correctness gown, Chad.

You are an idiot.

One false accusation and you are toast

Never drive or be alone 1 on 1 and always include a parent on a text.

Agree with the driving or otherwise being alone 1 on 1 with a kid, but texting is self-protective against false accusations. Unlike a phone call or 1 on 1 conversation, where a kid might claim a coach said something he or she didn't actually say, with texts there's a written record of the entire communication.

Texts are misinterpreted all of the time. Why take a chance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I coach girls and we text. Then again, they’re in HS so they’re mature.

If you are for real, you have a bad judgment.

Sure. That’s why they adore me and their parents are switching clubs to join mine.

But go ahead and wear the moral correctness gown, Chad.

You are an idiot.

One false accusation and you are toast

Never drive or be alone 1 on 1 and always include a parent on a text.

Agree with the driving or otherwise being alone 1 on 1 with a kid, but texting is self-protective against false accusations. Unlike a phone call or 1 on 1 conversation, where a kid might claim a coach said something he or she didn't actually say, with texts there's a written record of the entire communication.

Texts are misinterpreted all of the time. Why take a chance?

Texts can be deleted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I coach girls and we text. Then again, they’re in HS so they’re mature.

If you are for real, you have a bad judgment.

Sure. That’s why they adore me and their parents are switching clubs to join mine.

But go ahead and wear the moral correctness gown, Chad.

You are an idiot.

One false accusation and you are toast

Never drive or be alone 1 on 1 and always include a parent on a text.

Agree with the driving or otherwise being alone 1 on 1 with a kid, but texting is self-protective against false accusations. Unlike a phone call or 1 on 1 conversation, where a kid might claim a coach said something he or she didn't actually say, with texts there's a written record of the entire communication.

Texts are misinterpreted all of the time. Why take a chance?

Texts can be deleted

yes and no, they can be deleted from parents, but if investigators ever need them, they can get them

[Anonymous]

For those who don't think this happens at all levels of sports and unless you live under a rock and didn't hear about this

https://www.cnn.com/2021/02/26/us/john-geddert-victims-react/index.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those who don't think this happens at all levels of sports and unless you live under a rock and didn't hear about this

https://www.cnn.com/2021/02/26/us/john-geddert-victims-react/index.html

US gymnastics is a bastion of grooming populated by the awful people- shocking, truly a shocking revelation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I coach girls and we text. Then again, they’re in HS so they’re mature.

If you are for real, you have a bad judgment.

Sure. That’s why they adore me and their parents are switching clubs to join mine.

But go ahead and wear the moral correctness gown, Chad.

You are an idiot.

One false accusation and you are toast

Never drive or be alone 1 on 1 and always include a parent on a text.

Agree with the driving or otherwise being alone 1 on 1 with a kid, but texting is self-protective against false accusations. Unlike a phone call or 1 on 1 conversation, where a kid might claim a coach said something he or she didn't actually say, with texts there's a written record of the entire communication.

Yes, texting turns into great evidence, but usually that is after the fact. It is a bad idea to have players text 1v1 without including the parents. Once the texts start to be hidden it is going to be to late soon.