middle-age loner
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Anonymous
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Any early forties, single males on here really discouraged that so many of the women (in similar age range) are divorced and NOT looking to ever get re-married? I have no problem dating divorced women my age, with or without kids, but from what I read here, few of them actually want to re-couple. They only want companions or activity partners. Not another husband.
As an aside, I hate all the references to guys that have never been married as "damaged goods"...yes, I did have a significant anxiety disorder for most of my thirties...so there is that. I would still be a good partner for someone now that I have sought-received therapy! Sigh. 
Not sure what to do...I really needed the therapy in my twenties so I could meet someone in my thirties. I missed the boat. F$ck! |
Anonymous
| Fool me once... she said. |
Anonymous
| I have a few single female friends pushing 40. Most realize kids won’t happen. How are you meeting people? I know it’s hard now but I’d say meet real people in real life. Online dating seems like some post apocalyptic hellscape to me. |
Anonymous
That’s life! But don’t think the grass is always greener. It’s not as evidenced by so many unhappy guys on here. You want a relationship go where the single women are, or do it on a dating ap. A lot of my friends would look at your situation and say you have it pretty sweet, you spend your money on what you want, no one counts your beers, you can sit all day on Sunday and watch golf without getting the stink eye. 
Life’s what you make it, friend. Count your blessings and just keep asking different women out. You’ll be rejected a lot because that’s what happens but you’ll find one or a dozen that want to be with you. |
Anonymous
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You need to show your post to your therapist.
You don’t want kids why do you need to be a husband? What is wrong with a companion? |
Anonymous
Well OP, my guess is that you’re a better catch than this guy who just wants to spend his time getting drunk and watching golf. Zzzz... |
Anonymous
OP here. Well, up until a couple of years ago, I wasn't. But now it is so hard at this age. Most of the activities I know of, like social sports, are for much younger people. |
Anonymous
Not helpful or funny. |
Anonymous
You're not married, are you? |
Anonymous
Well, I would consider adoption as well if she did not have kids, and was open to it. |
Anonymous
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A guy like OP should be dating women in their 20s, not 40s.
A number of the mid-50s women I have met through OLD have been married two or three times. |
Anonymous
I am one of these(divorced early 40s). No need to remarry. Date 30-35 if you are open to having a child—most women want them. |
Anonymous
| If you met my husband's ex, you'll see why he didn't want to get married again (but obviously eventually did). |
Anonymous
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I was (as most friends and relatives said) a faithful, loving wife for 16 years to someone. Waited for him with dinners, stories and our son each evening. Had no limitations in bedroom. He turned out to be a long-term adulterer and a jerk, and I barely escaped mentally sane. I've got a job and over $3mln in net assets after the divorce. I can't even think about remarrying again, and only care about spending time with my teenage son and elderly mother - people who truly love me. Wouldn't mind getting a puppy, when my life settles a little bit more after the divorce.
I don't even have any sexual desires toward men anymore, and enjoy watching steamy lesbian movies when 2 smart women fall in love. Do you think I will ever sleep with a man? |
Anonymous
They got burnt and tired from growing up kids, and don't want to take care of anyone again. You need to date younger women who are more naive. |