middle-age loner

[Anonymous]

Keep an open mind on women in different socio-economic classes or in professions that may not match up with your level of education.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m also a divorced woman in her 40’s who has no desire to remarry. I do want (and currently have) a long term companion but I don’t see how remarriage is going to enhance my life at all. I have financial security, good health insurance, a good job and I raised my kids. I can have the security of a long term companion without the legal document. There are way more pros to staying single than cons.

Why is marriage so important to the OP? If he is looking to start a family he needs to date much younger.

OP here. I want a family. I suppose younger is the better option to that end, but I just have a hard time believing a 32 or 33 yo would want to date someone significantly older (at least one that is not a stud or super wealthy). That is why I think maybe adoption or even just being a stepdad might work well for me. So.many.regrets.

Thanks for the input, regardless.

OP, how much of a "loner" are you? Do you have any close friends?

OP here. I am pretty introverted, but that does not mean I want ZERO human contact. Not sure if that makes sense. Anxiety is not helping, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m also a divorced woman in her 40’s who has no desire to remarry. I do want (and currently have) a long term companion but I don’t see how remarriage is going to enhance my life at all. I have financial security, good health insurance, a good job and I raised my kids. I can have the security of a long term companion without the legal document. There are way more pros to staying single than cons.

Why is marriage so important to the OP? If he is looking to start a family he needs to date much younger.

OP here. I want a family. I suppose younger is the better option to that end, but I just have a hard time believing a 32 or 33 yo would want to date someone significantly older (at least one that is not a stud or super wealthy). That is why I think maybe adoption or even just being a stepdad might work well for me. So.many.regrets.

Thanks for the input, regardless.

OP, how much of a "loner" are you? Do you have any close friends?

OP here. I am pretty introverted, but that does not mean I want ZERO human contact. Not sure if that makes sense. Anxiety is not helping, either.

OP. While you are looking for a woman, can I suggest trying to help yourself get over anxiety and your social phobias? You probably have some time to focus on these issues. Join some meetup group or something to work on them? I just think it will be easier when you actually meet someone you like. You don't have to be the life of the party, but if you are shy you are never really going to be able to communicate well with the person you might want to spend the rest of your life with.