Why are men like this?

[Anonymous]

I've noticed that the more I withhold sex/physical stuff, the more men are into me.

I just started "dating" a guy who is way out of my league. He's used to dating 20s hotties, while I'm a mid-30s single mom. I was upfront with him that I wasn't going to put out, I wasn't interested in flirting, I wanted to get to know him as a person first before getting physically involved. He's made a couple moves and I shut it down immediately.

Dude can't get enough of me. Calls me multiple times a day. Constantly wants to FaceTime or hang out. He cancels plan with other women to spend time with me, but has never cancelled on me.

Last night he admitted he likes that I'm not easy. He complains that the other women he's seeing are TOO into him, use sex to try to win him over, and can't hold a conversation without sexual undertones.

Looking back, the times men have been the most into me was when I had very strict rules about not getting physical too soon.

What's up with this, guys? Is it the thrill of the chase? Madonna/whore complex? You want what you can't have?

[Anonymous]

Conquest. Stop wasting your time with him.

[Anonymous]

Men love a challenge.

"Be mean, keep em keen" as the saying goes.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's ready to settle and play house. How old is he? If you're mid 30s and he's mid 40s he may not want move in a 25 year old

[Anonymous]

While you are holding out he is also working on many others in his stable. Once he sleeps with you, he will back off some based on where you rank in his stable. Eventually they all get replaced for various reasons but don't think it has anything to do with you. He is the one who is addicted to the chase. The harder the chase the bigger the challenge the higher the satisfaction of the conquest but not because the conquest may or may not be good it bed, it is about the conquest. .

[Anonymous]

Yeah the women that put out first time after meeting on dating apps aren’t high quality. That veejay has been everywhere. Loose Latousse.

[Anonymous]

I don't think this is specific to men.

[Anonymous]

Just...ew

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah the women that put out first time after meeting on dating apps aren’t high quality. That veejay has been everywhere. Loose Latousse.

The veej regains it's shape. Stupidy oopidy.

[Anonymous]

I react the opposite way when someone says something like that to me. As an example, someone once said to me that we wouldn't have sex on the first date. I certainly wasn't expecting to and it just seemed odd to me that she felt the need to say it. Nothing wrong with taking time to get to know someone before the physical stuff but to me it's just something that doesn't need to be said unless what you mean is it's going to be a really long time (like months) before there's physical stuff.

Unrelated and maybe I'm old fashioned but I think it's rude to cancel plans with other people to hang with someone else and for that reason alone I wouldn't proceed with someone like that.

[Anonymous]

The Madonna-whore complex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men love a challenge.

"Be mean, keep em keen" as the saying goes.

Sound red pillish.

[Anonymous]

According to my brother: “I like women who value themselves.”

[Anonymous]

Beware. Once you start sleeping with him he will be more interested in the 20something hotties once again. You are only interesting to him until you are old news

[Anonymous]

He’s getting regular sex with 20 something hotties. So he can afford to wait a while with you.