Oh crap block 1 need advice/encouragement

[Anonymous]

I just started the Oh crap potty training method with my 24 month old. This is our second day on block one and I have seen no progress. I catch her dribbling on the floor, and calmly transfer her to the potty. She is screaming NO! and resists being placed on potty arching back and straightening legs. I hold her on and then distract her with a book or show. But she never finishes the pee on the potty. After a several minutes, I let her off. And then she will dribble again on the floor a few minutes later.

I feel frustrated and discouraged. I want to quit. But I have 5 days off home with her and want to make it happen. Advice?

[Anonymous]

I don't have any real advice (I think your situation is slightly different than mine), but potty training my daughter at 24 months was TERRIBLE for TWO WEEKS. But then she got the hang of it. I made a lot of mistakes and only read Oh Crap after I'd been trying for several days, so you are ahead of me. Sympathy!

[Anonymous]

You're on day 2. Don't expect much. Pretty sure the book covers this.

[Anonymous]

Just keep going! Try rewards for every successful potty trip (even the dribbles). She’ll get it and it is so, so worth it to have a toilet trained kid. We did Oh Crap and 22 months and it’s been brilliant. DS, now 26 months, has been running to the potty on his own for months and not having to change a poo diaper anymore is heaven especially since he switched to the toilet with a seat insert.

But those first days of watching him like a hawk we’re do hard on me!

[Anonymous]

We just went through this a few weeks ago. Making a huge deal out of going in the potty, even if it’s just a drop or two and celebrate with high fives and excitement. Depending on what motivates her child, you can type up their achievement with rewards. We did a sticker chart and a mini marshmallow for pee and lots of praise about what a big kid she was.

Mine dribbled for a couple days and then it really clicked quickly. Remember what the author says when the dribbles happen. Don’t tell them it’s OK and also don’t admonish them. Simply state that pee goes in the potty and next time they need to put the pee in the potty.

It gets better, I promise. Keep it up!

[Anonymous]

NP- how did you get your kid on the potty for the first time? Physically put them there? That will be a complete nonstarter with mine who melts down if manhandled. I've tried bribing. We started this afternoon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP- how did you get your kid on the potty for the first time? Physically put them there? That will be a complete nonstarter with mine who melts down if manhandled. I've tried bribing. We started this afternoon.

How do you get your child into the stroller or car seat?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP- how did you get your kid on the potty for the first time? Physically put them there? That will be a complete nonstarter with mine who melts down if manhandled. I've tried bribing. We started this afternoon.

How do you get your child into the stroller or car seat?

She's been in a stroller or car seat for her entire life. The potty is new.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP- how did you get your kid on the potty for the first time? Physically put them there? That will be a complete nonstarter with mine who melts down if manhandled. I've tried bribing. We started this afternoon.

How do you get your child into the stroller or car seat?

She's been in a stroller or car seat for her entire life. The potty is new.

So she won’t let you pick her up and sit her anyplace she hasn’t been in in her whole life?! Seriously that’s insane, PP! You have to show her how to use a potty.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP- how did you get your kid on the potty for the first time? Physically put them there? That will be a complete nonstarter with mine who melts down if manhandled. I've tried bribing. We started this afternoon.

How do you get your child into the stroller or car seat?

She's been in a stroller or car seat for her entire life. The potty is new.

So she won’t let you pick her up and sit her anyplace she hasn’t been in in her whole life?! Seriously that’s insane, PP! You have to show her how to use a potty.

Omg. Of course I'm going to show her how to use the potty. I'm actually insanely strict. But I don't want her first experience of the potty to be me forcing her on it. Last week I tried to force her into her new winter bunting and it caused a 45 minute meltdown. Physically holding a kicking and crying toddler on a potty doesn't seem like the best way to start this process.

[Anonymous]

Everything about potty training is about you being a cheerleader and an ally, not an adversary.

This is a huge change but she can do it! Keep trying. Tell her what a big girl she’s becoming. Praise her when she goes.

One trick I used with my boys was to casually say something to my husband like.

After Larlo goes to the bathroom I was thinking we could xyz, where xyz was their currency. For one it was little YouTube videos. The other it was food.

It was never a direct bribe. But it motivated them to get going.

[Anonymous]

My son was also a dribbler. Most of the time I didn't catch him dribbling.
The first day was frustrating, but the second day I decided to celebrate the dribble. Whenever he had a small pee or dribble on the floor, I would clap and exclaim "Good job, you just peed! Let's see if we can get some more in the potty!" The following day it started to click.
In retrospect, I think he deliberately dribbled. He didn't want to do an actual pee in the potty, but he had to release his bladder. By celebrating the pee in all it's mess it turned into something he wanted to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son was also a dribbler. Most of the time I didn't catch him dribbling.
The first day was frustrating, but the second day I decided to celebrate the dribble. Whenever he had a small pee or dribble on the floor, I would clap and exclaim "Good job, you just peed! Let's see if we can get some more in the potty!" The following day it started to click.
In retrospect, I think he deliberately dribbled. He didn't want to do an actual pee in the potty, but he had to release his bladder. By celebrating the pee in all it's mess it turned into something he wanted to do.

Just want to add, at first he didn't want to go on the potty when I noticed the pee. I would tell him "I'm so glad you peed. But it belongs in the potty. Can you help me clean it up?" And I would give him a paper towel. Yes, it's gross but I was trying to keep super positive and make him understand that the pee doesn't belong there. And if she doesn't want to clean it up, so be it. You've got to always be positive and make it a fun experience. By the end of the 5 days your child should be really happy that she had your undivided attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP- how did you get your kid on the potty for the first time? Physically put them there? That will be a complete nonstarter with mine who melts down if manhandled. I've tried bribing. We started this afternoon.

We just said “Larlo, it’s time to go sit on the potty. Let’s go!” We went every 20 or 30 minutes the first two days. If he told us he didn’t have to go or didn’t want to, I just say that we were going to sit and try and then he could go back to playing. If they won’t stay seated, try entertainment. I put a basket of books next to the potty, including some Christmas ones he hadn’t seen since last year and had forgotten. That worked for staying seated and getting used to sitting and trying. Mine was afraid to poop on the potty and held it for overnight when he was in a diaper for the first few days. When I knew he needed to go during the day but was scared too, I let him watch a short video on my phone to get him to sit and try to go poop. The poops are typically much harder for them to sit and go for (but they all will get there; mine did on the fourth day).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP- how did you get your kid on the potty for the first time? Physically put them there? That will be a complete nonstarter with mine who melts down if manhandled. I've tried bribing. We started this afternoon.

How do you get your child into the stroller or car seat?

She's been in a stroller or car seat for her entire life. The potty is new.

So she won’t let you pick her up and sit her anyplace she hasn’t been in in her whole life?! Seriously that’s insane, PP! You have to show her how to use a potty.

Omg. Of course I'm going to show her how to use the potty. I'm actually insanely strict. But I don't want her first experience of the potty to be me forcing her on it. Last week I tried to force her into her new winter bunting and it caused a 45 minute meltdown. Physically holding a kicking and crying toddler on a potty doesn't seem like the best way to start this process.

How old is your toddler? Is she developmentally normal and curious?