Can I say I hate you TOO right now for being nasty to me?

[Anonymous]

So hard to be the mom. I get the I hate You’s for everything. I almost so well right now I hate you too.

Came close to saying Bitch too.

[Anonymous]

No. You are the adult. Please don't go down this road. It will be very hard to come back from.

[Anonymous]

Your brain has had much longer to develop. Yours is not still growing. You can the ability to regulate your emotions at a much greater extent. Walk away. Say nothing. Do not call your child a bitch. Do not.

Parent of a 15 & 19 year old.

[Anonymous]

Model the behavior you want to see.

[Anonymous]

The rational person must remain calm in all relationships.

Explore why you feel “hate” in that moment, it’s not hate.

What do you really feel?

[Anonymous]

Please don’t. My mom often responded in anger and told me she hated me when I was a teen. It sounds dramatic and cliche but there’s no other way to say it— it scarred me. Deep breaths and stay strong. Take care

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not, please don’t do this.

[Anonymous]

Good lord no. Wtf? Is this a serious question?

[Anonymous]

Do not use the word bitch. My dad did once and I will never forget it. I don’t know if he remembers and I also don’t remember - at ALL - what we were arguing about, but I will never forget him saying the word, how he looked when he said it, and how it made me feel. Not worth it at all to sour your relationship with your kid in a moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So hard to be the mom. I get the I hate You’s for everything. I almost so well right now I hate you too.

Came close to saying Bitch too.

How do L&D are your children?

[Anonymous]

No, you can’t say it! I would give some thought to not paying for their phone if this is happening all the time though.

[Anonymous]

^How OLD are your kids?

(I have no idea how spell check got that!!)

[Anonymous]

No teen can say IHY to me because it is disrespectful and inappropriate. He can feel whatever he wants but absolutely cannot express those feelings to me in my house. If anyone were to call me on the phone and say those things I would hang up so why would I tolerate that in my own home? I do not love the behavior of someone who is saying these kinds of things, and I feel no obligation to do extra things for him. Legally I am required to provide my child with food and shelter but nothing else. My mother made my sister wear the same shirt and pants every single day for an entire school year.

[Anonymous]

Our oldest is 13 and female. Her line recently has been "I'm so mad". I'm glad she is expressing her feelings. With 3 total daughters, I think God has a sense of humor when he assigned me kids.

My oldest: "go away" "stop talking"....wait, didnt we just bring her home from the hospital in a swaddle the other day?! AND get her heart surgery done at age 6 months? She never says she 'hates us'. 80% of the time she is just fine.

She can be frustrating, stubborn, unexplainable, and everything else that comes with having two X chromosomes. Its Katie Kaboom sometimes. Look that one up. Perfect cartoon show that explains it.

I've got a special line I use... "{name}, we love you unconditionally." Saying it reinforces it too, for me! We become what we say.

[Anonymous]

No. Try "I am sorry you feel that way".

Or, "I understand that it's frustrating when xxxxxx"