New guy wants kids

[Anonymous]

Seeing someone new and he wants kids. I already have one kid and don’t want more. When we talked about kids I told him I don’t want more, but there’s a slim chance I’d consider them if I fell in love and the guy didn’t have any kids, but wanted one. When we go out, he talks about the future a lot and his mythical kids and wife. Should I mention again that I don’t want more kids? I don’t want to waste anyone’s time.

[Anonymous]

Yes mention it and break up.

You gave him hope but you're clearly not that into him or just don't want kids

[Anonymous]

Then you may be stuck with guys who already have kids and don’t want any more. Will that work for you better than a single guy with no baggage who wants a kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then you may be stuck with guys who already have kids and don’t want any more. Will that work for you better than a single guy with no baggage who wants a kid?

+1. How old is your child OP?

[Anonymous]

How long have you been dating? If it's long enough to fall in love and you haven't, then break up with him now so you can each find someone who wants a compatible future.

[Anonymous]

You are wasting his time if you don’t want kids and he does. The thing is, you’re also wasting your time. And you’re possibly setting up your kid to be hurt if you do get serious with him and then it turns out he meant it when he said he wanted children. Break up after date 2 or after 2 years. End result is you still break up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You are wasting his time if you don’t want kids and he does. The thing is, you’re also wasting your time. And you’re possibly setting up your kid to be hurt if you do get serious with him and then it turns out he meant it when he said he wanted children. Break up after date 2 or after 2 years. End result is you still break up.

This. Stop wasting hi and your time. You know this. Him being hot, good and bed, or rich with connections isn't good enough reason to string him along.

[Anonymous]

I was in a similar position 5 years ago and I had two kids. I was in love and he was amazing with my two kids so I agreed to have another child even though I “was done”. Well, two years later we had twins and now I can’t imagine life without them even though it’s been pretty exhausting given I’m 38. A great guy is hard to find when you are a single mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar position 5 years ago and I had two kids. I was in love and he was amazing with my two kids so I agreed to have another child even though I “was done”. Well, two years later we had twins and now I can’t imagine life without them even though it’s been pretty exhausting given I’m 38. A great guy is hard to find when you are a single mom.

Thanks for this. Any tips for successfully blending families? Or how to know if they’d be good to your existing kids? I’m really nervous about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar position 5 years ago and I had two kids. I was in love and he was amazing with my two kids so I agreed to have another child even though I “was done”. Well, two years later we had twins and now I can’t imagine life without them even though it’s been pretty exhausting given I’m 38. A great guy is hard to find when you are a single mom.

Thanks for this. Any tips for successfully blending families? Or how to know if they’d be good to your existing kids? I’m really nervous about that.

What is wrong with you?

You just met this guy, how much do you really know about him to determine he's a good enough , that you should have around your child or be blending families at all It should be a big concern to you that he puts a heavy emphasis on wife and kids. There's a lot of very bad men who claim to want kids, and who date single moms. Don't put the cart before the horse and do your due diligence for your safety and the safety of your child.

[Anonymous]

OP, how old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar position 5 years ago and I had two kids. I was in love and he was amazing with my two kids so I agreed to have another child even though I “was done”. Well, two years later we had twins and now I can’t imagine life without them even though it’s been pretty exhausting given I’m 38. A great guy is hard to find when you are a single mom.

Thanks for this. Any tips for successfully blending families? Or how to know if they’d be good to your existing kids? I’m really nervous about that.

What is wrong with you?

You just met this guy, how much do you really know about him to determine he's a good enough , that you should have around your child or be blending families at all It should be a big concern to you that he puts a heavy emphasis on wife and kids. There's a lot of very bad men who claim to want kids, and who date single moms. Don't put the cart before the horse and do your due diligence for your safety and the safety of your child.

You have a lot of assumptions here. I was just curious how others who have successfully navigated blended families have done so. I didn't say I want to HAVE one with this guy. I don't even know him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you?

I'm 39. I have a 7 year old. He's 41.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar position 5 years ago and I had two kids. I was in love and he was amazing with my two kids so I agreed to have another child even though I “was done”. Well, two years later we had twins and now I can’t imagine life without them even though it’s been pretty exhausting given I’m 38. A great guy is hard to find when you are a single mom.

Thanks for this. Any tips for successfully blending families? Or how to know if they’d be good to your existing kids? I’m really nervous about that.

What is wrong with you?

You just met this guy, how much do you really know about him to determine he's a good enough , that you should have around your child or be blending families at all It should be a big concern to you that he puts a heavy emphasis on wife and kids. There's a lot of very bad men who claim to want kids, and who date single moms. Don't put the cart before the horse and do your due diligence for your safety and the safety of your child.

You have a lot of assumptions here. I was just curious how others who have successfully navigated blended families have done so. I didn't say I want to HAVE one with this guy. I don't even know him!

Blending families shouldn't be on your radar right now with him or any other guy. Grow the hell up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you?

I'm 39. I have a 7 year old. He's 41.

LOL um that ship is sailing. Girl you are old. Having kids is not likely to happen without help.