Has anyone in your family screwed you over?
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Has anyone in your family screwed you over? If so, tell me your story.
Here’s my story. My husband has been a blue collar worker all his life and was able to establish a pretty successful business that employed several people. About 5 years ago, he started having really bad arthritis pain so he took a more passive/management role in his business. We live about 3 hours from my inlaws and they asked us to move closer to them since they’re in their late 70s. This isn’t something we can just do on a whim, I’m a nurse so I can’t just pack up and WFH and my husband wouldn’t be able to manage his business from afar. So my inlaws suggested we sell our house, sell my husband’s business, use that money to buy a house close to them, and they would take care of the rest. “Take care of the rest” means my inlaws said they would make my husband an employee of theirs and then eventually my husband would take over their business. They own several million dollars worth of property in this area (all paid off btw) and their income comes from renting these properties out. Long story short, we sold everything, packed our stuff up and moved closer to my inlaws. Once we were settled and started discussing things, my inlaws wanted to pay my husband a fraction of what they promised (in the 50k range – he netted in the 6 figure range with his business). My inlaws also mentioned selling their property so that they can “retire” in comfort and hire a private nurse when the time comes. I’m in shock. My husband’s in shock and depressed. We gave up so much to move closer to them and just got screwed. Luckily I make a decent living and our mortgage is fairly low so we can squeak by on my salary but with 2 teen kids and the COL in this area rising – I just don’t know what to do anymore. Thanks for listening. |
Anonymous
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That's terrible, OP. Can you bring it up with them?
My mother stole my inheritance and is giving it to my own kids in her will. |
Anonymous
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Seriously? I would find a way to move back or somewhere entirely new for a fresh start. Living this close is only going to get worse and you are going to be resentful the whole time. Your husband is already depressed.
It happens, people cut their losses and move. I don't mean to make it sound easy, but it is probably worth it long term. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
Who left you the inheritance? |
Anonymous
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Man, I wish you had posted your plans on this board so the lawyers could have told you to get a contract first.
It's not too late. Do they need your husband for their business? If so, negotiate a contract/buy into the business or leave. If not, just leave. |
Anonymous
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If the stress of this will ruin your next 20-30 years, please speak up and re-hash your plans. It is not too late to do anything right now.
And yes, I've been screwed over by family. An uncle I no longer speak to used me to cover up his affairs, put me right in the middle of his acrimonious divorce and then told me I wasn't welcome in the business when I asked for unpaid maternity leave (I had been away for 3 months and asked for 6 more.) |
Anonymous
| Yep, by my mom. |
Anonymous
I can tell by the way you speak that it's a non-story. You're attention seeker by teasing people with little information here and there. I bet you your story has no substance. |
Anonymous
Well you don’t have very good instincts, do you? Maybe I just didn’t want to air dirty laundry for others’ amusement? 🙄 |
Anonymous
| Not me, but my mom and her sisters were swindled out of their share of their father’s estate by their brothers. My grandfather died before leaving a will but had expressed his wishes clearly and repeatedly. My grandmother was too timid to intervene. It has irreversibly fractured the family. |
Anonymous
My father. Also suspect money from a great aunt was left to me and my siblings, too, but I was too young to know at that point. |
Anonymous
Wow PP is a tad bit nuts. |
Anonymous
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I watched my mom screw my uncles out of any inheritance from their mother (my grandma).
My mom isolated grandma for years and moved her far away from my uncles. Then my mom worked hard to cultivate seeds of discord between Grandma and my Uncles. My mom never let anyone speak to grandma on the phone and nobody was ever allowed to be alone with grandma. My mom is a gambling addict. By the time grandma passed she had no money. At the start of all of this she had several million. I tried warning my uncles as well as grandma’s siblings about what was happening and suggested they get a lawyer but my mom told everyone I was crazy. I am not sure they really believed her but it just seemed like a family drama and nobody really did anything to sort it out. |
Anonymous
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Oh no OP. That is awful.
My parents tried to do this to us with guilt (but no promises of money), I knew my mom so it didn't work. It's awful your dhs parents did this to him (and you.) Is there any way you can sell and move once the kids graduate? Like start making a plan now? |