Has anyone in your family screwed you over?

[Anonymous]

Op, you need to sell everything again and move to somewhere you both have always wanted to live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone in your family screwed you over? If so, tell me your story.

Here’s my story.

My husband has been a blue collar worker all his life and was able to establish a pretty successful business that employed several people. About 5 years ago, he started having really bad arthritis pain so he took a more passive/management role in his business.

We live about 3 hours from my inlaws and they asked us to move closer to them since they’re in their late 70s. This isn’t something we can just do on a whim, I’m a nurse so I can’t just pack up and WFH and my husband wouldn’t be able to manage his business from afar. So my inlaws suggested we sell our house, sell my husband’s business, use that money to buy a house close to them, and they would take care of the rest. “Take care of the rest” means my inlaws said they would make my husband an employee of theirs and then eventually my husband would take over their business. They own several million dollars worth of property in this area (all paid off btw) and their income comes from renting these properties out.

Long story short, we sold everything, packed our stuff up and moved closer to my inlaws. Once we were settled and started discussing things, my inlaws wanted to pay my husband a fraction of what they promised (in the 50k range – he netted in the 6 figure range with his business). My inlaws also mentioned selling their property so that they can “retire” in comfort and hire a private nurse when the time comes. I’m in shock. My husband’s in shock and depressed. We gave up so much to move closer to them and just got screwed. Luckily I make a decent living and our mortgage is fairly low so we can squeak by on my salary but with 2 teen kids and the COL in this area rising – I just don’t know what to do anymore.

Thanks for listening.

They are horrible jerks. The hiring a private nurse is probably a plug for you to quit your job and be their private nurse. They will bleed you dry emotionally and physically while pampering themselves. Forget any hopes of them helping you out financially or paying for your kids college.

[Anonymous]

Not in my immediate nuclear family or sibs but have seen it with a paternal uncle obtaining the deed of the grandparents properties and a maternal uncle leaving the funeral nearly to go pick over “their half” of their mothers jewelry and nice stuff.

So my grandmother got screwed and my father did.