Husband during job interview

[Anonymous]

Today he was part of a group interviewing candidates for two positions in his division. I heard him talking about one of the female candidates with his colleagues. I couldn’t believe he wanted the group to select this female candidate “...considering how she smiles and how happy she looked during the interview. This is the kind of people you want to work with all day...”
It’s definitely not retail, not marketing, not fashion, not health, not a restaurant. The job requires a high education level, PhD for many positions.
At this point, I think this is a yellow flag in our marriage. What’s your impression?

[Anonymous]

Meh- no one wants to work with negative angry people.

[Anonymous]

OK, assuming she had the educational qualifications, I would pick the smiling happy "I want to work with her" candidate every time over equally qualified but un-likable candidates.

It is stupid to pretend that congeniality is not important in the workplace.

This is one of the reasons you have an in-person interview, and don't just hire based on "best resume".

[Anonymous]

NBD

[Anonymous]

You can't teach attitude, so yes... all thing equal you go with the nicest and hardworking person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh- no one wants to work with negative angry people.

By the way he described her....it looked like he was going to kiss her through the screen.

[Anonymous]

My impression is you seem insecure and are looking for problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh- no one wants to work with negative angry people.

By the way he described her....it looked like he was going to kiss her through the screen.

Why are you so intently watching him during an interview?! Get some help for your craziness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh- no one wants to work with negative angry people.

By the way he described her....it looked like he was going to kiss her through the screen.

Ah ok I got it. Youre trolling us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NBD

??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh- no one wants to work with negative angry people.

By the way he described her....it looked like he was going to kiss her through the screen.

Ah ok I got it. Youre trolling us

I am not a troll

[Anonymous]

I'd point out to him what he said and how he comes across and tell him you're just letting him know so that his peers don't think he's a piece of shit.. That YOU know that OBVIOUSLY he'll hire the person most QUALIFIED for the job based on their CREDENTIALS and you'd hate for anyone to think he really wants to just hire the one who smiled brightest.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he’s lining up a future AP for when Covid ends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s lining up a future AP for when Covid ends.

In that case, I better prepare a tiny microphone.

[Anonymous]

I understand your concern OP. I don’t think it’s a problem unless he’s been made aware of his perspective and still repeatedly done this. Lots of men in this generation have blind spots in this area. So point it out to him. If he responds receptively, the problem is on the way to being solved.