MIL brought pacifiers
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Anonymous
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After a really torturous struggle getting DS off the pacifier, we vowed to try and hold off using one with newborn DD. We were pretty vocal about this before she was born, at the hospital, and even right when we came home. Family knew what the plan was. MIL has been openly opposed from the beginning. Wonders why we we would make things harder for ourselves.
It’s been fine. DD is a little fussy at times, mainly at the “witching hour” but she’s a dream at bedtime, as far as the pacifier is concerned. MIL came over yesterday to drop off gifts, one from her and one from her BFF. Pacifiers. From the friend, a book, outfit, pack of pacifiers and a note explaining I shouldn’t feel guilty if I use one. MIL came with a bag full of stuff from Carter’s and a pack of Soothies. She didn’t stay long because we aren’t really letting people inside. DH tells me to ignore it but I’m a little livid. Could be hormones. This is where you all come in. Am I crazy or was this overstepping, even recruiting her friend. |
Anonymous
| Ignore and regift. |
Anonymous
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I don't understand this pacifier thing. My kids never needed those. Why does she believe it makes life easier? And yes, overstepping your oft-stated request is rude. You must move on, but it's just another clue to what kind of person she is. |
Anonymous
| If they’re in new packaging, donate them to the diaper bank and move on! |
Anonymous
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Unless she's sticking them in the baby's mouth just STOP.
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Anonymous
| I mean...are you or DH complaining to MIL about the kid not self-soothing? If you are, you shouldn't be surprised she dropped off a cheap and effective solution. |
Anonymous
| Donate and say nothing. I bet if you make an issue of it, she sounds like a person who will just give you more things you specifically request not to. |
Anonymous
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You’re overreacting. She shouldn’t have done it, but it’s not a great insult. Try to move on.
To the person who asked why anybody would use pacifiers—we introduced them because there is evidence they reduce the incidence of SIDS, which was my number one fear as a new mom. But we haven’t gone through the process of getting the kid to give them up yet. Maybe that will be horrible enough that we do things differently in the future! |
Anonymous
| You were pretty vocal about this at three different times? You've had more than 1 conversation with people who aren't the other parent of your child about this? I don't understand. |
Anonymous
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Ah...sounds like you really overthink pacifiers. Mine could have them for sleep and really stressful situations...like the grocery store checkout line always set them off. They used them until they were way too old - then we went to the toy store and they got to buy a "pacifier gift" to give up their pacis. They missed them terribly for a few nights - cried themselves to sleep - but then were fine. And given that I waited so long - I didn't even know they were crying - think they were 4 or 5. They all ended up getting stuffed animals which took the place of it and for one of mine - a high schooler - is still what she sleeps with.
No orthodontist needed...no speaking issues...or whatever you think is such a bad outcome of using a pacifier. Just lots of serenity when they were babies and a great way to deal with fussy toddlers and babies in stressful situations. Think airplanes. But, yes that would annoy me if I had said no. But, I can see why your MIL is annoyed with you  Relax...
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Anonymous
You’re a jerk. |
Anonymous
| Regift and move on. She's not giving your child a pacifier, she's giving you a tool you can choose not to use. |
Anonymous
| Ignore and move on. No need for pacifiers. |
Anonymous
| You're overreacting OP. Just don't give the pacifier to DD, done. |
Anonymous
Why would you give a pacifier to someone else when you think it is bad? Just throw it away, op! She will never know If she asks just say the baby didn't like them but, thanks amyway. |