MIL brought pacifiers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah...sounds like you really overthink pacifiers. Mine could have them for sleep and really stressful situations...like the grocery store checkout line always set them off. They used them until they were way too old - then we went to the toy store and they got to buy a "pacifier gift" to give up their pacis. They missed them terribly for a few nights - cried themselves to sleep - but then were fine. And given that I waited so long - I didn't even know they were crying - think they were 4 or 5. They all ended up getting stuffed animals which took the place of it and for one of mine - a high schooler - is still what she sleeps with.

No orthodontist needed...no speaking issues...or whatever you think is such a bad outcome of using a pacifier. Just lots of serenity when they were babies and a great way to deal with fussy toddlers and babies in stressful situations. Think airplanes.

But, yes that would annoy me if I had said no. But, I can see why your MIL is annoyed with you Relax...

You’re a jerk.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it, it's super annoying. Could be worse... you should hear about some of the stuff my MIL has done! But yea, I would just regift them, as others have said. Not worth your energy.

Also, I really think there was no reason for the MIL to do this. I mean, if you decided to "break down" and use a pacifier, all you have to do is amazon prime one or go to target and you'd have one within 24 hours. There's no reason for your MIL to gift you them when you specifically said you didn't want them and could get them easily yourself if you change your mind.

I'm guessing MIL did it because OP is yammering on about pacifiers, and MIL assumed OP was struggling with her choice and wanted to let her know it's no big deal.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious why you are discussing this wiht MIL at all?

Unless she's going to be doing a large portion of chilcare she doesn't really need to know about the pacifiers etc.

Now if she's your caregiver and stuck with a fussy babby half the day who doesn't settle as easily as you think she does especially when she can't be nursed then maybe you need to rethink your pacifier stance or be willing to pay for childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound nutso

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[Anonymous]

Between this OP and the other thread on whether a sister in law was being vindictive by gifting a wedding photo there are a lot of crazy women posting on DCUM today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Between this OP and the other thread on whether a sister in law was being vindictive by gifting a wedding photo there are a lot of crazy women posting on DCUM today.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regift and move on. She's not giving your child a pacifier, she's giving you a tool you can choose not to use.

Why would you give a pacifier to someone else when you think it is bad? Just throw it away, op! She will never know If she asks just say the baby didn't like them but, thanks amyway.

If it’s new in packaging, regift or donate. Why add it to the landfill when another family can use it.
I am annoyed by People like PP who will throw away new items into the landfill.

Just so you know I never have thrown away items in the landfill. I assumed they were loose. Of course donate if unopenned but you made a lot of assumptions from my post.

[Anonymous]

Throw them out and move on.

[Anonymous]

Ignore, donate.

[Anonymous]

Some babies actually require a pacifier. Get educated.

[Anonymous]

I totally get how it would be annoying, especially getting a note like that, but everybody has so so so many strong opinions when it comes to babies. And the glory of it as you can ignore so much of it! if you took everyone’s advice you would be completely confused how to approach anything because there are so many contradictory points of you when it comes to pacifiers, sleep, feeding and the like.

Regift the pacifiers or drop them to a donation center. We received several baby gift items that were well meaning but donated, unopened.

[Anonymous]

I spent ages trying to get my kids to take pacifiers. I do not understand at all why you would deny your newborn the only method of soothing they have. But okay crazy lady, be mad at your MIL for attempting to help and donate the pacifiers.

[Anonymous]

Why would you not want to do everything possible to reduce the risk of your infant dying of SIDS?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah...sounds like you really overthink pacifiers. Mine could have them for sleep and really stressful situations...like the grocery store checkout line always set them off. They used them until they were way too old - then we went to the toy store and they got to buy a "pacifier gift" to give up their pacis. They missed them terribly for a few nights - cried themselves to sleep - but then were fine. And given that I waited so long - I didn't even know they were crying - think they were 4 or 5. They all ended up getting stuffed animals which took the place of it and for one of mine - a high schooler - is still what she sleeps with.

No orthodontist needed...no speaking issues...or whatever you think is such a bad outcome of using a pacifier. Just lots of serenity when they were babies and a great way to deal with fussy toddlers and babies in stressful situations. Think airplanes.

But, yes that would annoy me if I had said no. But, I can see why your MIL is annoyed with you Relax...

Many kids get speaking and/or teeth issues if they use a pacifier until 4 or 5. Great that your kids didn't. But lots of kids who didn't use seatbelts or wear bike helmets are still alive too...

[Anonymous]

OP disappeared. A troll.