MIL brought pacifiers

[Anonymous]

Pacifiers reduce the risk of SIDS by a significant amount.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re overreacting. She shouldn’t have done it, but it’s not a great insult. Try to move on.

To the person who asked why anybody would use pacifiers—we introduced them because there is evidence they reduce the incidence of SIDS, which was my number one fear as a new mom. But we haven’t gone through the process of getting the kid to give them up yet. Maybe that will be horrible enough that we do things differently in the future!

The problems usually come when parents wait too long to take them off of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pacifiers reduce the risk of SIDS by a significant amount.

They do. We also used them to prevent finger sucking.

[Anonymous]

She didn't actually put one in her mouth. That would be overstepping.

Do not make a mountain out of a molehill. Just ignore and don't use.

You can donate them.

If they came with a gift receipt exchange for something else.

Put them away in case you change your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regift and move on. She's not giving your child a pacifier, she's giving you a tool you can choose not to use.

Why would you give a pacifier to someone else when you think it is bad? Just throw it away, op! She will never know If she asks just say the baby didn't like them but, thanks amyway.

If it’s new in packaging, regift or donate. Why add it to the landfill when another family can use it.
I am annoyed by People like PP who will throw away new items into the landfill.

[Anonymous]

Just donate and move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regift and move on. She's not giving your child a pacifier, she's giving you a tool you can choose not to use.

Why would you give a pacifier to someone else when you think it is bad? Just throw it away, op! She will never know If she asks just say the baby didn't like them but, thanks amyway.

It’s a pacifier, not meth. Plenty of people use them - there is no need to throw them away.

And yes, OP, you are overreacting. She didn’t stick the pacifier in her mouth. Maybe she bought them because you are protesting too much. No one care if you use one or not, and the persistent discussion about it may come off as being insecure or unsure about your decision.

[Anonymous]

You sound nutso

[Anonymous]

Not worth thinking twice about. Ignore and move on.

[Anonymous]

My biggest concern here is the written note from the MIL friend telling you how you should feel (or not feel). Those are your feelings, dictated by your own thoughts and body reactions. Your thoughts and feelings are not the entitlement of your MIL (or her friend serving as scapegoat) to control and dictate.

[Anonymous]

I think your MIL is being pushy but maybe if you really talked about it three times (?!?) she thought you were having guilt issues or something and was trying to help.

Either way, not a reason to be “livid.” Just say thank you and toss the pacifiers when she leaves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After a really torturous struggle getting DS off the pacifier, we vowed to try and hold off using one with newborn DD. We were pretty vocal about this before she was born, at the hospital, and even right when we came home. Family knew what the plan was. MIL has been openly opposed from the beginning. Wonders why we we would make things harder for ourselves.

It’s been fine. DD is a little fussy at times, mainly at the “witching hour” but she’s a dream at bedtime, as far as the pacifier is concerned. MIL came over yesterday to drop off gifts, one from her and one from her BFF. Pacifiers. From the friend, a book, outfit, pack of pacifiers and a note explaining I shouldn’t feel guilty if I use one. MIL came with a bag full of stuff from Carter’s and a pack of Soothies. She didn’t stay long because we aren’t really letting people inside. DH tells me to ignore it but I’m a little livid. Could be hormones. This is where you all come in. Am I crazy or was this overstepping, even recruiting her friend.

Do you understand the purpose of pacifiers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re overreacting. She shouldn’t have done it, but it’s not a great insult. Try to move on.

To the person who asked why anybody would use pacifiers—we introduced them because there is evidence they reduce the incidence of SIDS, which was my number one fear as a new mom. But we haven’t gone through the process of getting the kid to give them up yet. Maybe that will be horrible enough that we do things differently in the future!

The problems usually come when parents wait too long to take them off of it.

They’re great when newborns still have that sucking reflex, and there’s a true physical need for that kind of soothing. Once they grow out of that, as long as you stop before it they develop a really strong emotional association, there shouldn’t be any problem.

We dropped down to only in the crib after a few months, then cut it out completely at about a year. One night of yelling that required additional parent soothing, and it was fine after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pacifiers reduce the risk of SIDS by a significant amount.

+1 OP, you should rethink this. F your MIL though.

[Anonymous]

I get it, it's super annoying. Could be worse... you should hear about some of the stuff my MIL has done! But yea, I would just regift them, as others have said. Not worth your energy.

Also, I really think there was no reason for the MIL to do this. I mean, if you decided to "break down" and use a pacifier, all you have to do is amazon prime one or go to target and you'd have one within 24 hours. There's no reason for your MIL to gift you them when you specifically said you didn't want them and could get them easily yourself if you change your mind.