Let Wife Decide?

[Anonymous]

My wife and I have been looking at homes to purchase. We found a couple good contenders and settled on two options. They are both very nice. I prefer one slightly over the other, but I she has fallen in love with one. I don’t like it as much as the other option, but I’m wondering if I should let her decide. She is very generous and always thinks of everyone before herself. She isn’t spoiled or anything but she has really liked this condo. I know it will make her happy. Would you buy her the home she prefers over your preference to make her happy?

[Anonymous]

You're buying her the home? Meaning she doesn't work and didn't bring any assets into the marriage?

[Anonymous]

DH here. Absolutely many times over.

[Anonymous]

Yes let her decide

[Anonymous]

All residential real estate sales are driven by keeping the woman happy. And agent will tell you this

[Anonymous]

If your preference is only slight, then yes. If you have a strong preference, I would say to keep looking.

[Anonymous]

Why has she fallen in love with it and why do you think the other house is better? This is the kind of question that requires knowing the pros and cons of both choices.

[Anonymous]

I would

[Anonymous]

In our relationship, we usually go with whoever feels more strongly about a big decision like this. Since you described your feelings as a "slight preferences" vs her "falling in love", I'd be inclined to go with her choice.

But before jumping to that, I'd sit down and have each person make a list of pros/cons of each house. Maybe one of you sees something that the other missed? Or you just care about different things, or have different style preferences. But if there is a more practical reason for wanting one house or the other, make sure you are both seeing that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're buying her the home? Meaning she doesn't work and didn't bring any assets into the marriage?

OP here. We are buying a home. She works but I make more than her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why has she fallen in love with it and why do you think the other house is better? This is the kind of question that requires knowing the pros and cons of both choices.

This. Wife here and I fell in love with a house earlier this year. DH had some misgivings about it, but even went along with putting in an offer. We didn't even get to the inspection stage, but DH did his research and logically, there were a lot of things about the house that could have been issues for us. I'm so glad he did his research and we ended up not going under contract. Soon after we found another house that we are both comfortable with. I would have to say, thinking about that house, I still love the look of it. But practically, this one that we are currently under contract for works so much better for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why has she fallen in love with it and why do you think the other house is better? This is the kind of question that requires knowing the pros and cons of both choices.

OP here. She prefers the layout to the other home. Her choice is a little smaller ( not by much) than the home I want. I like the floors and the layout of the bedrooms more in the other house. She prefers the layout and floors in the other home. She likes that her choice has a fireplace. Both are very nice and not much of a difference bedroom or size wise.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're buying her the home? Meaning she doesn't work and didn't bring any assets into the marriage?

OP here. We are buying a home. She works but I make more than her.

Then you are not buying her a home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're buying her the home? Meaning she doesn't work and didn't bring any assets into the marriage?

OP here. We are buying a home. She works but I make more than her.

Then you are not buying her a home.

Don't be an a$$ this early.

- np