Husband Losing Interest In Me?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have been together for 5 years. We have two young children. We have always had a good sex life, even during pregnancy. Lately he doesn’t seem very interested in sex. We went from having sex everyday or every other day to 2-3 times a week. Some weeks he doesn’t seem interested more than once. He says he is still very attracted to me and is just tired, but I do worry he no longer finds me attractive. This is very different for me since he has a very high sex drive and usually wanted it everyday. I know he isn’t cheating since we are social distancing and we don’t go anywhere. We just started having sex again a couple of months ago and I thought he would be more interested. He only ever goes out for a run or to the grocery store. I don’t know if I’m over thinking this.

[Anonymous]

What are your ages and what kind of job does he have?

[Anonymous]

What do you mean you just started having sex again? Do you have a newborn?

[Anonymous]

Age, change in sex drive, maybe being in each other’s face 24/7 with the pandemic is making things lukewarm. It happens.

[Anonymous]

You are over thinking this. We are all living in boring bubbles and there is so much misery locally, nationally and globally that it’s easy to be depressed and that can manifest itself in many ways. If you are having sex 2-3 times a week you are doing better than most. Things will get better, just be sure to vote! If Biden wins, I will be so happy my husband might be worn out for days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are over thinking this. We are all living in boring bubbles and there is so much misery locally, nationally and globally that it’s easy to be depressed and that can manifest itself in many ways. If you are having sex 2-3 times a week you are doing better than most. Things will get better, just be sure to vote! If Biden wins, I will be so happy my husband might be worn out for days.

Will you think of Joe while you wear out your DH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are your ages and what kind of job does he have?

OP here. I’m 38 and he’s 40. We are both in healthcare. He’s an anesthesiologist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean you just started having sex again? Do you have a newborn?

OP here. Yes. We have a son that is turning 2 later this month and a son born in May. We started having sex at 8 weeks at he doesn’t seem very interested the last month.

[Anonymous]

My DH is this way when he is stressed out over work or the kids etc. It ebs and flows, I would try not to internalize too much. Share your concerns but sounds like you have no reason to not trust what he’s saying. It’s probably just a funk.

[Anonymous]

Does he know how often you want it? I'm a 38 year old man and would be thrilled to get it 3x per week and would also happily put out more.

Maybe he thinks you're tired. Is your sex very routine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are over thinking this. We are all living in boring bubbles and there is so much misery locally, nationally and globally that it’s easy to be depressed and that can manifest itself in many ways. If you are having sex 2-3 times a week you are doing better than most. Things will get better, just be sure to vote! If Biden wins, I will be so happy my husband might be worn out for days.

OP here. Please don’t bring politics into this. People have differing views and it’s not appropriate on this thread. I also do not want to think of creepy job Biden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he know how often you want it? I'm a 38 year old man and would be thrilled to get it 3x per week and would also happily put out more.

Maybe he thinks you're tired. Is your sex very routine?

OP here. I’m fine with less but he’s usually not. That’s why I’m worried. He normally initiates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are over thinking this. We are all living in boring bubbles and there is so much misery locally, nationally and globally that it’s easy to be depressed and that can manifest itself in many ways. If you are having sex 2-3 times a week you are doing better than most. Things will get better, just be sure to vote! If Biden wins, I will be so happy my husband might be worn out for days.

OP here. Please don’t bring politics into this. People have differing views and it’s not appropriate on this thread. I also do not want to think of creepy job Biden.

Lighten up

NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean you just started having sex again? Do you have a newborn?

OP here. Yes. We have a son that is turning 2 later this month and a son born in May. We started having sex at 8 weeks at he doesn’t seem very interested the last month.

You have a baby that is 4 months. You also have a two year old. Odds are, you may not look or feel the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean you just started having sex again? Do you have a newborn?

OP here. Yes. We have a son that is turning 2 later this month and a son born in May. We started having sex at 8 weeks at he doesn’t seem very interested the last month.

Sweetheart, you are barely 4 months postpartum. Go easy on yourself and your family.