How did you decide how many kids to have?

[Anonymous]

Question above.

[Anonymous]

Started with one and just played it by ear after that. We were good at 2.

[Anonymous]

Same as PP above. I toyed with having a third but I knew I had to decide pretty quickly (had my second at 36)... ultimately decided I liked being able to give each of my kids more attention and wasn’t ready to go back to newborn days so fast. I think certain people are more cut out for life with more than 2 and my husband And I are not those people.

[Anonymous]

I was an only child and always knew I wanted an only child. DH agreed.

[Anonymous]

We had one and it was great so why rock the boat? Neither of us had any relationship with our siblings and only having one kid allows us to give him way more opportunities than we otherwise would have.

[Anonymous]

I'll let God decide

[Anonymous]

We always knew we wanted two - both DH and I came from two-kid families and it just felt right to us.

[Anonymous]

We always wanted at least two and thought three. But 6 months after the second one I just didn’t want to go through the whole newborn stage again.

[Anonymous]

Wanted three, had a really difficult second pregnancy, pandemic happened, we’re sticking with two

[Anonymous]

Me: I'd like a kid.
DH: ok
Me: How about a second kid?
DH: if you really want to
Me: We're NOT having a third
DH: Agreed

Happy as clams

[Anonymous]

Wanted three. Had one then went through secondary infertility/miscarriages/health issues. Pregnant with second now and done after that.

[Anonymous]

Spouse died after first baby. The end.

[Anonymous]

I wanted two. DH would have been happy with 1. We have 3. Third was a surprise, but we both really secretly wanted him.

I think after seeing how great it was for my first two to have each other, we both longed for more. We are done now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We always knew we wanted two - both DH and I came from two-kid families and it just felt right to us.

This is kind of us. After one we both just had this lingering feeling that our family wasn't quite complete. But after two we knew if definitely was.

[Anonymous]

Stopping at two because of miscarriages and taking longer than we thought getting the second.

There’s some guilt over this as I always thought I’d have a big family, at least three. My mothers side of the family is Mormon and my dad’s side is Catholic and though I personally am not that religious i grew up with a giant family with tons of cousins.