How did you decide how many kids to have?
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Anonymous
I'm so sorry. 
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Anonymous
| Due to our ages, lifestyle and my husband’s uncertainty about having kids, we thought we’d have one. After having our first, we said to each other, “This is so awesome! Let’s have another one!” After our second one, we said to each other, “This is so awesome but I’m so tired!” And we were done. Both our kids are wonderful and we think our family is perfect. |
Anonymous
| One child. One embryo left. Fate will decide with that one embryo. |
Anonymous
| I was an only child and knew I wanted to have a family with siblings. DH wanted two but was open to a third. Had two kids less than two years apart, were super overwhelmed, but then a couple years later felt like we had room/time/love for one more and went for it. Definitely done with three. |
Anonymous
| We have one, family feels complete, never had a desire to have more kids. |
Anonymous
| God decided |
Anonymous
| I'm one of three kids, DH is one of two. We thought we'd have 2-3. I really love pregnancy and the baby stage so when #2 was a newborn we were definitely having 3. Once she got to be a demanding toddler, we decided we were good with two. I have a few friends in the same boat with the first two who then had a third when the first two were in school. Might have liked that but DH is older so the timing didn't work. |
Anonymous
I think this is the wisest approach. |
Anonymous
| I thought I was done after 2 then when my second was 5, I started feeling like someone was missing. 3rd is now here and an absolute joy. My family feels complete and I don’t think I could stretch my attention further. |
Anonymous
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I want(ed) a lot of kids: 3-4 or even maybe 5. My husband would have been fine with 0-1 kids but was ok with having 2. We have 2 who are ages 5 and 3. I still long for more kids/a bigger family and my husband is still firmly against having more so we probably won’t. It occasionally makes me sad that we’ll likely never have the big family I envisioned, I do realize that practically speaking having 2 kids makes life much easier and simpler than it would be with more kids.
Basically, my husband has a practical, logical approach and my perspective is more emotional. I love kids, love being a parent, and always imagined a big family with lots of love and warmth, I saw a family life that was kind of a managed chaos, messy but fun. My husband likes things to be more quiet, calm, and orderly and he values alone time much more than I do. We balance each other well in many ways and he’s a wonderful spouse so I try not to focus on what we don’t have (the other kids I’d like to have in our family) and instead think of how fortunate we are to have each other and our 2 wonderful kids. |
Anonymous
| We left it up to God. Until we had 4. Then we just stopped having sex. |
Anonymous
| I always thought I'd have 2 kids because that's the normal thing to do, but when it was time for DH to get a vasectomy after baby #2, I freaked out and realized how much I wanted a 3rd baby. |
Anonymous
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For the people who said “god decided”, how many kids would you have before you decided to take matters into your own hands? Or would you just keep having unprotected sex forever?
My husband has the same “let god decide mindset” but the thought of 4+ kids terrifies me. |
Anonymous
| When DS was 6 months DH was presented with an amazing opportunity at work. A few months into it we realized that things like this wouldn't be possible with more than 1 kid (we got to live abroad and do a lot of traveling) which made us sit down and discuss the things we'd be able to do with one kid vs two. We realized we would rather live the life we could provide for one vs the life with 2. Ds is 8 now and zero regrets. |
Anonymous
| I come from a family of two kids. DH is an only child. We both wanted just one and one is what we have. |