Men: How often do you go on dates with a woman you are not attracted to?

[Anonymous]

If you aren't initially attracted to a woman do you go out with her a few times, just to give her a chance?


How many of you married a lady you weren't initially attracted to?

[Anonymous]

Men: Please allow me to ask you yet another inane question.

(OP will probably have to look up the definition of inane, since she hasn't studied for her SATs yet.)

[Anonymous]

I feel terrible about it but I actually married a woman I wasn't very attracted to and ended up having kids with her. Intellectually, logically, the relationship made a ton of sense. She had lots of great attributes. Other people thought she was very attractive and in fact several times random friends were like, "dude how did you land her?" But I just was not physically attracted and the sex was not good. I don't think that's WHY we ended up divorcing, but it certainly would have made for an overall healthier relationship if the physical chemistry and desire to be intimate were there. I feel like an idiot looking back - why did I ever let the relationship continue and even progress to marriage. But it's just like this weird slippery slope thing where you get tangled into it. So stupid. Don't do what I did

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men: Please allow me to ask you yet another inane question.

(OP will probably have to look up the definition of inane, since she hasn't studied for her SATs yet.)

You didn't know the meaning of inane until high school? Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel terrible about it but I actually married a woman I wasn't very attracted to and ended up having kids with her. Intellectually, logically, the relationship made a ton of sense. She had lots of great attributes. Other people thought she was very attractive and in fact several times random friends were like, "dude how did you land her?" But I just was not physically attracted and the sex was not good. I don't think that's WHY we ended up divorcing, but it certainly would have made for an overall healthier relationship if the physical chemistry and desire to be intimate were there. I feel like an idiot looking back - why did I ever let the relationship continue and even progress to marriage. But it's just like this weird slippery slope thing where you get tangled into it. So stupid. Don't do what I did

Interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel terrible about it but I actually married a woman I wasn't very attracted to and ended up having kids with her. Intellectually, logically, the relationship made a ton of sense. She had lots of great attributes. Other people thought she was very attractive and in fact several times random friends were like, "dude how did you land her?" But I just was not physically attracted and the sex was not good. I don't think that's WHY we ended up divorcing, but it certainly would have made for an overall healthier relationship if the physical chemistry and desire to be intimate were there. I feel like an idiot looking back - why did I ever let the relationship continue and even progress to marriage. But it's just like this weird slippery slope thing where you get tangled into it. So stupid. Don't do what I did

How long did you stay married? Hopefully she found someone who is physically attracted to her after years of being repellent to her spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel terrible about it but I actually married a woman I wasn't very attracted to and ended up having kids with her. Intellectually, logically, the relationship made a ton of sense. She had lots of great attributes. Other people thought she was very attractive and in fact several times random friends were like, "dude how did you land her?" But I just was not physically attracted and the sex was not good. I don't think that's WHY we ended up divorcing, but it certainly would have made for an overall healthier relationship if the physical chemistry and desire to be intimate were there. I feel like an idiot looking back - why did I ever let the relationship continue and even progress to marriage. But it's just like this weird slippery slope thing where you get tangled into it. So stupid. Don't do what I did

Was she just not your physical type (skinny when you prefer thick) or what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel terrible about it but I actually married a woman I wasn't very attracted to and ended up having kids with her. Intellectually, logically, the relationship made a ton of sense. She had lots of great attributes. Other people thought she was very attractive and in fact several times random friends were like, "dude how did you land her?" But I just was not physically attracted and the sex was not good. I don't think that's WHY we ended up divorcing, but it certainly would have made for an overall healthier relationship if the physical chemistry and desire to be intimate were there. I feel like an idiot looking back - why did I ever let the relationship continue and even progress to marriage. But it's just like this weird slippery slope thing where you get tangled into it. So stupid. Don't do what I did

How long did you stay married? Hopefully she found someone who is physically attracted to her after years of being repellent to her spouse.

She never did remarry or even date. She's an odd person - I think she would have oddly been fine spending her whole life just working and not going on a single date. We were married for eight years.

[Anonymous]

Very few will. But the world will bend over backwards telling women to give chances to unattractive guys.

[Anonymous]

I wasn’t initially attracted to my now wife but we were friends for a few years and over time the attraction grew. She was cute in a girl next door way but in my early 20’s I was interested in hotter women. But she was really smart, fun and warm. So I wasn’t physically attracted to her early on but it definitely changed over time. After many years I’m still very attracted to her physically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel terrible about it but I actually married a woman I wasn't very attracted to and ended up having kids with her. Intellectually, logically, the relationship made a ton of sense. She had lots of great attributes. Other people thought she was very attractive and in fact several times random friends were like, "dude how did you land her?" But I just was not physically attracted and the sex was not good. I don't think that's WHY we ended up divorcing, but it certainly would have made for an overall healthier relationship if the physical chemistry and desire to be intimate were there. I feel like an idiot looking back - why did I ever let the relationship continue and even progress to marriage. But it's just like this weird slippery slope thing where you get tangled into it. So stupid. Don't do what I did

Was she just not your physical type (skinny when you prefer thick) or what?

If you list the attributes on paper, it SOUNDS like my type (thin, tall, nice legs and butt, brunette) but somehow when you put the whole package together, the way she moved, the way she smelled (not bad but just not good - I think 50% of chemistry is about smell), her mannerisms during sex, it just all came together to totally not work for me. We didn't have sex for the first time until 6 months into our relationship because we spend 99% of the first six months long distance, and that's how the slippery slope started

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very few will. But the world will bend over backwards telling women to give chances to unattractive guys.

Bingo.

[Anonymous]

Why would I ask someone out if I wasn’t attracted to her in some way unless she was the only other person on a deserted island?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would I ask someone out if I wasn’t attracted to her in some way unless she was the only other person on a deserted island?

^^ and by attraction I mean more than just physical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would I ask someone out if I wasn’t attracted to her in some way unless she was the only other person on a deserted island?

^^ and by attraction I mean more than just physical.

Well you wouldn't. Because you're a guy. As pp pointed out the vast majority of guys are like you, and no one tries to convince them to "give her a chance".