Men: How often do you go on dates with a woman you are not attracted to?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Very few will. But the world will bend over backwards telling women to give chances to unattractive guys.

Bingo.

Precisely.

Oh please. I see lots of beautiful, fit women (even in their mid years) and who are married to average, at best, guys. I see that way more than the reverse.

I'm trying to figure out where your "oh please" is coming from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very few will. But the world will bend over backwards telling women to give chances to unattractive guys.

Bingo.

Precisely.

Oh please. I see lots of beautiful, fit women (even in their mid years) and who are married to average, at best, guys. I see that way more than the reverse.

Some of us get far with BDE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very few will. But the world will bend over backwards telling women to give chances to unattractive guys.

Bingo.

Precisely.

Oh please. I see lots of beautiful, fit women (even in their mid years) and who are married to average, at best, guys. I see that way more than the reverse.

Why are you saying “oh please?” You’re proving the pp’s point.

[Anonymous]

Depends how badly I've needed to get laid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel terrible about it but I actually married a woman I wasn't very attracted to and ended up having kids with her. Intellectually, logically, the relationship made a ton of sense. She had lots of great attributes. Other people thought she was very attractive and in fact several times random friends were like, "dude how did you land her?" But I just was not physically attracted and the sex was not good. I don't think that's WHY we ended up divorcing, but it certainly would have made for an overall healthier relationship if the physical chemistry and desire to be intimate were there. I feel like an idiot looking back - why did I ever let the relationship continue and even progress to marriage. But it's just like this weird slippery slope thing where you get tangled into it. So stupid. Don't do what I did

Was she just not your physical type (skinny when you prefer thick) or what?

If you list the attributes on paper, it SOUNDS like my type (thin, tall, nice legs and butt, brunette) but somehow when you put the whole package together, the way she moved, the way she smelled (not bad but just not good - I think 50% of chemistry is about smell), her mannerisms during sex, it just all came together to totally not work for me. We didn't have sex for the first time until 6 months into our relationship because we spend 99% of the first six months long distance, and that's how the slippery slope started

Curious about this. Did one of you move for the other, then you felt "obligated"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very few will. But the world will bend over backwards telling women to give chances to unattractive guys.

Bingo.

Precisely.

Oh please. I see lots of beautiful, fit women (even in their mid years) and who are married to average, at best, guys. I see that way more than the reverse.

Some of us get far with BDE.

HAHAHAHAHA. No. May as well drive a flashy sports car, and tell the world that it is exactly NOT that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who proposed to his wife of about 14 years about three months after telling me he was never attracted to her and wished he never slept with her because she became attached and he felt bad breaking it off. She’s not bad looking, but is plain and doesn’t put much effort into her looks. I’ve always felt bad having this knowledge. I’m pretty sure he married her for her money. They seem to have a great life (he has it easy- she’s very wealthy and he “works” but it’s pretty much a life of leisure while the nannies raise his kids). I suspect they don’t have much of a sex life. I don’t think he’d risk his lifestyle by sleeping around.

+1

Bingo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel terrible about it but I actually married a woman I wasn't very attracted to and ended up having kids with her. Intellectually, logically, the relationship made a ton of sense. She had lots of great attributes. Other people thought she was very attractive and in fact several times random friends were like, "dude how did you land her?" But I just was not physically attracted and the sex was not good. I don't think that's WHY we ended up divorcing, but it certainly would have made for an overall healthier relationship if the physical chemistry and desire to be intimate were there. I feel like an idiot looking back - why did I ever let the relationship continue and even progress to marriage. But it's just like this weird slippery slope thing where you get tangled into it. So stupid. Don't do what I did

Omg. I feel like this is me and my husband but we haven’t divorced yet. I think he loves me but he doesn’t seem to want to eff me. I’ve had prior relationships where the men were just constantly wanting it. My husband seems so meh about me now. Like he loves and respects me and we are friends but the heat is gone. It’s sad. I wish I’d married one of my exes.

[Anonymous]

A guy I dated once talked about doing "charity work." At first I didn't know what he meant, but it became clear he was referring to when he was between relationships and would hook up with unattractive women to fill the void.

He wasn't very nice. I didn't date him long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There have been plenty of women who were not inherently very attractive to me - i.e., just looking at them I didn’t think “gee she’s hot” - but they sent out such strong signals of wanting my D that I said “well, why not?”

Man here and me too, when I was in my 20s. Some of them turned out to be really good in bed so they ended up as more than one night of fun.

[Anonymous]

Oh please. I see lots of beautiful, fit women (even in their mid years) and who are married to average, at best, guys. I see that way more than the reverse.

This is a dumb take because physical appearance is a much more important component of women’s attractiveness than men’s. That “average” looking guy is obviously attractive, if he can pull a beautiful woman, even if his attractiveness is not mainly in his appearance.

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy for 2 years who wasn’t attracted to me. I was objectively attractive - 24-25 yo, size 2, while he was mid 30s and overweight - but he was only attracted to celebrities and porn stars. Zero interest in sex with me and constantly blabbered on about whatever celeb he thought was a hottie. Pressured me to look more like a porn star.

Weird thing was he was super resistant to breaking up. No idea why since he didn’t want sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy for 2 years who wasn’t attracted to me. I was objectively attractive - 24-25 yo, size 2, while he was mid 30s and overweight - but he was only attracted to celebrities and porn stars. Zero interest in sex with me and constantly blabbered on about whatever celeb he thought was a hottie. Pressured me to look more like a porn star.

Weird thing was he was super resistant to breaking up. No idea why since he didn’t want sex.

You were a convenient beard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very few will. But the world will bend over backwards telling women to give chances to unattractive guys.

Bingo.

Precisely.

Oh please. I see lots of beautiful, fit women (even in their mid years) and who are married to average, at best, guys. I see that way more than the reverse.

Reading comprehension isn't your thing is it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Very few will. But the world will bend over backwards telling women to give chances to unattractive guys.

50% of men find 50% of women to be "attractive" so why would any man ask out THIS (unattractive) girl when there is a different (ATTRACTIVE) girl standing 3 feet over there?
Meanwhile 80% of women find only 20% of men to be "attractive" so just do some basic math and you can see why the world tells women to adjust their standards.

Sources for any of this?