How Involved Are Men in Wedding Planning?
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Anonymous
| I just got engaged and Im planning my wedding. I'm 31 and my fiancé is 35. He has some ideas for venue and food but doesn't really care about other things like color palette, floral arrangements, when it is, etc. Is this normal? |
Anonymous
You had to ask? This is very normal. He may also have strong opinions on the DJ. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely normal. I’d be surprised if it was otherwise. My MIL on the other hand had a 100,000 opinions about everything.... |
Anonymous
| It’s all a royal pain in the azz. Just pick out what you like and be done with it. We don’t give a rats azz. No one cares about the groom. All eyes, cameras and video are aimed on the bride. Also, guests don’t care about invitations. They get thrown away after the wedding. Don’t waste money on a large wedding dress, wedding and reception. Guests care for open bar so they can drink their face off on someone else’s dime. Save your money... |
Anonymous
| He cares that you are happy, he doesn’t intrinsically care at all about the colors and flowers and all that. |
Anonymous
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Keep your wedding relaxed. Enjoy it. Make it a party.
Not need to sweat the details. |
Anonymous
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My fiancé is pretty involved in helping plan. He’s found a hotel that will work for our guests, is doing that reservation, is handling the music cause he cares about that, had opinions on the date, ideas for venue (we’re getting married in his hometown), and has spoken with me to both the photographer and venue event coordinator.
Neither of us cares about colors (we won’t really have any...), but he came up with the theme idea, and we made the save the dates and invitations together. He’s also handling what he and my son wear, while I’m responsible for my dress, and hair/makeup. We’re not having a wedding party, so neither of us is worried about what anyone else wears. |
Anonymous
| Mine showed up. |
Anonymous
Lol. Success |
Anonymous
| OP here. We both picked out a venue and decided on where to cater in food. I was hoping he would be a little more involved in picking out colors for the bridesmaids. We are getting married in the fall and will have a very neutral color palette with some green. I have been having a trouble deciding between a forest/emerald greenor a wine color for bridesmaids. I thought he would have more of an opinion but he doesn't seem to care that much. |
Anonymous
| As I previously said, we don’t care. It’s your day. Pick out what you like and be done... |
Anonymous
I don't think he cares. Go with what you would like. I would say go with a forest or emerald green or maybe a wine, chianti, or quartz color. I think any of those would be nice. |
Anonymous
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Color schemes are stupid. Dial it way back.
My now-husband planned more of the wedding than me in the sense that the venue coordinator mostly planned it, and he managed the relationship with the venue. |
Anonymous
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Dh and I have been married for almost 8 years. Our aesthetic and tastes are similar so that helped.
Here is what he was most concerned about (not in order) 1. Venue 2. Music 3. Men's attire 4. Food/alcohol Things he was pretty involved in but let me take the lead: 1. Colors for decorations (linens, etc) 2. Favors 3. Overall "theme" 4. Photographer Things he did not care about at all 1. My attire/bridemaids attire 2. Flowers 3. Save the Dates/Invitations 4. Layout of small things (gift table, cake table, etc) |
Anonymous
He doesn’t care and neither will 95% of your guests. Everyone just wants to eat, drink free booze, and mingle/party and doesn’t give a $hit about your dress, your flowers, your colors, your table arrangements, etc. |