Spirit Coach

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact coaches have such a short span is maybe is a clue they are doing it wrong.

Top athletes have the upper hand - teams pay a lot of money for stars and will have limited tolerance for a coach who makes them ride the bench. The best relationships are built on (often grudging) mutual respect not fear, abuse or constant drama. Some US coaches saw the "lowlight" reel of bad behavior and think that is the whole ballgame - cycle perpetuates as then attracts aholes who want an excuse to act like that so they can feel good about themselves - and people now expect coach to show "passion" and "desire to win" with such behaviors and act as apologists for them.

People used to say Harvey Weinstein was a great director and his actions were all part of the package and the "cost of doing business" - and that people just didn't understand what it takes to be a top creative - turns out that just isn't true either.

You dont get it but thats okay. Very few outside of high level sports do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well its official Snowflakes have won the war. Its been coming for a while. This dont discipline your child, Dont yell at my kid, Everyone gets a participation trophy, and every makes the team , plays equal time, without keeping score. This is why we you really never see the father and child throwing the football or baseball in the backyard anymore. The first generation of cancel culture parents are ruining the competitive nature that we have know forever. This is the type culture we have created. Soft never been in a fist fight kids who cant even be told they are wrong in anything but a soft timid voice. The kids who dont play neighborhood sports together. The Ive never played tackle football in my neighbors backyard or rode a bike without a helmet generation. Instead of making your kid better you change the rules to make everyone feel good. Welcome to its ok to finish last because I just love watching you play era....

Said someone who has NEVER played.
Go away

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sad that the teammates especially the captains did not stand against this abuse of teammates by coach

Those women / captains have sacrificed in the name of soccer for 20 or more years. No way they are making waves and losing a spot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Simply put -- being an asshole is a firing offense. People on hear talking about how college or NFL coaches communicate with players have zero clue about real life.

The world of athletics works differently than "real life" . Just like The military works different. If you have never been a high level athlete you just wouldn't understand. Im sure we won't be able to agree on this and thats ok. Just understand competitive athletes are wired different than "real life" An over abundance of testosterone from both male and female athletes as well as a field full of type A personalities. It actually turns out to be "real life". Its not for everyone. The problem is everyone wants to be a part of it but actually wants it conformed to their standards. Its just the way this culture is becoming softer.

This is flat-out bullsht. I was athlete at very highest level - coaches don't have tantrums at that level - top athletes already hold themselves to higher standards and are more critical of themselves than any outsider could ever be. Top coaches play the longer game with a nudge or readjustment. They know the difference between success and failure is tiny and won't risk messing it up with gross unfocused interventions. Looks less flashy than tipping over the Gatorade jug or throwing their cap on floor - but "real life" it turns out isn't like the movies... it is almost like DMV kiddie soccer coaches have never experienced the top level (college D1 programs and 2nd or 3rd tier pro-leagues are not it!) and are just following a script that they should let their asshole flag fly free to "toughen them up".

It's particularly sad when you see the life-defeated dads on sidelines of kiddie soccer buying into this "what it takes to be a winner" nonsense and projecting their "almost made it" baggage - and then they drive home in the 6 year old minivan to their crappy mediocre lives...

You sound bitter.

No, he sounds adjusted and accurate.

[Anonymous]

If you've ever seen the guy in action, he was boorish and inappropriate, all the way back to his FCV days. It was just a matter of time until someone called him out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are you really arguing about? You support toxic racist people?

Not racist people..
There is no room for that anywhere. If you are telling your team they're playing like $h!t Thats ok. Now if you say horse $h!t now your offending horses? The point of a coach is to get the very best out of the team. Sports are an energy and psychology driven activity. It usually gets the player motivated to shake things up make them uncomfortable even offensive to piss them off enough to get the high level performance you want from an athlete. The work hard you're doing great doesn't work for most. Imagine telling MJ or Kobe Your doing great when you want more out of them. That works with office workers and non athletes. Its hard to explain if you have never been there. True the act wears thin quick but thats why coaches have a short span at each job. The need for a new voice to motivated the team when they become too complacent. Again this is unique to sports that the average worker won't understand. Remember the Spirit is an adult professional team that are paid to win. Its not a little girls recreation team playing for fun.

The Spirit are 5-5-3. Richie screaming at players wasn’t bringing results.

You can yell at players from time to time but if that is all you’ve got they simply tune you out. It at best just loses its impact at worst it erodes the team of confidence.

Smart, good coaches know when to push what buttons. He clearly lost the locker room and he is easier to replace than the players.

[Anonymous]

How many youth coaches in the DMV should be worried right about now????? I can think of a few……

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are you really arguing about? You support toxic racist people?

Not racist people..
There is no room for that anywhere. If you are telling your team they're playing like $h!t Thats ok. Now if you say horse $h!t now your offending horses? The point of a coach is to get the very best out of the team. Sports are an energy and psychology driven activity. It usually gets the player motivated to shake things up make them uncomfortable even offensive to piss them off enough to get the high level performance you want from an athlete. The work hard you're doing great doesn't work for most. Imagine telling MJ or Kobe Your doing great when you want more out of them. That works with office workers and non athletes. Its hard to explain if you have never been there. True the act wears thin quick but thats why coaches have a short span at each job. The need for a new voice to motivated the team when they become too complacent. Again this is unique to sports that the average worker won't understand. Remember the Spirit is an adult professional team that are paid to win. Its not a little girls recreation team playing for fun.

The Spirit are 5-5-3. Richie screaming at players wasn’t bringing results.

You can yell at players from time to time but if that is all you’ve got they simply tune you out. It at best just loses its impact at worst it erodes the team of confidence.

Smart, good coaches know when to push what buttons. He clearly lost the locker room and he is easier to replace than the players.

Yes once you lose them there is no coming back. But you shouldn't be shocked if the next coach uses abrasive language too. Its part of coaching sports. Sports are results driven if you win everyones with you, if you lose they find away to get rid of you. Same for players but they have a longer leash because they are harder to replace and have more money invested in them by the team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well its official Snowflakes have won the war. Its been coming for a while. This dont discipline your child, Dont yell at my kid, Everyone gets a participation trophy, and every makes the team , plays equal time, without keeping score. This is why we you really never see the father and child throwing the football or baseball in the backyard anymore. The first generation of cancel culture parents are ruining the competitive nature that we have know forever. This is the type culture we have created. Soft never been in a fist fight kids who cant even be told they are wrong in anything but a soft timid voice. The kids who dont play neighborhood sports together. The Ive never played tackle football in my neighbors backyard or rode a bike without a helmet generation. Instead of making your kid better you change the rules to make everyone feel good. Welcome to its ok to finish last because I just love watching you play era....

Love the use of the bullying tactics. Richie is that you?

Yeah, all of these professional soccer players are soft and not competitive. They got to where they are by doing the bare minimum to earn participation trophies. Do you hear yourself?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sad that the teammates especially the captains did not stand against this abuse of teammates by coach

Those women / captains have sacrificed in the name of soccer for 20 or more years. No way they are making waves and losing a spot.

Then they are girls and not women.
Stand up for others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Simply put -- being an asshole is a firing offense. People on hear talking about how college or NFL coaches communicate with players have zero clue about real life.

The world of athletics works differently than "real life" . Just like The military works different. If you have never been a high level athlete you just wouldn't understand. Im sure we won't be able to agree on this and thats ok. Just understand competitive athletes are wired different than "real life" An over abundance of testosterone from both male and female athletes as well as a field full of type A personalities. It actually turns out to be "real life". Its not for everyone. The problem is everyone wants to be a part of it but actually wants it conformed to their standards. Its just the way this culture is becoming softer.

This is flat-out bullsht. I was athlete at very highest level - coaches don't have tantrums at that level - top athletes already hold themselves to higher standards and are more critical of themselves than any outsider could ever be. Top coaches play the longer game with a nudge or readjustment. They know the difference between success and failure is tiny and won't risk messing it up with gross unfocused interventions. Looks less flashy than tipping over the Gatorade jug or throwing their cap on floor - but "real life" it turns out isn't like the movies... it is almost like DMV kiddie soccer coaches have never experienced the top level (college D1 programs and 2nd or 3rd tier pro-leagues are not it!) and are just following a script that they should let their asshole flag fly free to "toughen them up".

It's particularly sad when you see the life-defeated dads on sidelines of kiddie soccer buying into this "what it takes to be a winner" nonsense and projecting their "almost made it" baggage - and then they drive home in the 6 year old minivan to their crappy mediocre lives...

You sound bitter.

Was going to say something similar. The PP was making some good points until they started denigrating other parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you've ever seen the guy in action, he was boorish and inappropriate, all the way back to his FCV days. It was just a matter of time until someone called him out.

It goes back over a decade. There were issues when he was hired that were swept under the rug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you've ever seen the guy in action, he was boorish and inappropriate, all the way back to his FCV days. It was just a matter of time until someone called him out.

It goes back over a decade. There were issues when he was hired that were swept under the rug.

And if the record were !0-0-0 there wouldn't be an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you've ever seen the guy in action, he was boorish and inappropriate, all the way back to his FCV days. It was just a matter of time until someone called him out.

It goes back over a decade. There were issues when he was hired that were swept under the rug.

And if the record were !0-0-0 there wouldn't be an issue.

It becomes an issue when word gets out and signing better players becomes very difficult. When given a choice players will avoid bad organizations with a toxic culture.

Retaining talent becomes even harder. If you’re a known jerk and you don’t win it is impossible.

That said, since you’re such a fan why not reach out to your youth director and see if your club can bring Richie on board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Simply put -- being an asshole is a firing offense. People on hear talking about how college or NFL coaches communicate with players have zero clue about real life.

The world of athletics works differently than "real life" . Just like The military works different. If you have never been a high level athlete you just wouldn't understand. Im sure we won't be able to agree on this and thats ok. Just understand competitive athletes are wired different than "real life" An over abundance of testosterone from both male and female athletes as well as a field full of type A personalities. It actually turns out to be "real life". Its not for everyone. The problem is everyone wants to be a part of it but actually wants it conformed to their standards. Its just the way this culture is becoming softer.

This is flat-out bullsht. I was athlete at very highest level - coaches don't have tantrums at that level - top athletes already hold themselves to higher standards and are more critical of themselves than any outsider could ever be. Top coaches play the longer game with a nudge or readjustment. They know the difference between success and failure is tiny and won't risk messing it up with gross unfocused interventions. Looks less flashy than tipping over the Gatorade jug or throwing their cap on floor - but "real life" it turns out isn't like the movies... it is almost like DMV kiddie soccer coaches have never experienced the top level (college D1 programs and 2nd or 3rd tier pro-leagues are not it!) and are just following a script that they should let their asshole flag fly free to "toughen them up".

It's particularly sad when you see the life-defeated dads on sidelines of kiddie soccer buying into this "what it takes to be a winner" nonsense and projecting their "almost made it" baggage - and then they drive home in the 6 year old minivan to their crappy mediocre lives...

i started reading expected to get some insight, and then when i finished i understand you have none. i recommend you expand on "Top coaches play the longer game with a nudge or readjustment". while that itself is overly lacking detail, it's at least something that could be a good conversation.

but then you went and created a vision for all of the readers. and then you did a bait and switch of a professional coach and a weekend dad.

DP. Actually, I think it is relevant because the soccer dad's who embrace or at least accept the bully coaches at lower levels help to create athletes who do not feel empowered to confront abusers. I read some of the comments to one of the articles in the WaPo, and most of them were critical of the athletes who spoke up, calling them soft. Seriously? Sorry all of you mostly males who think that it is ok for coaches to scream in the face of youth or adult athletes or to constantly threaten them with no playing time or being cut from the team or to use racial slurs. It's not ok, and it doesn't need to be that way.

No sport is worth sacrificing your health and well-being as a hostage to a bully coach.

lol you started a sentence "Actually" bro she's cheating on you