Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am the 5' 9.5" woman who still weighs 129 lbs in middle age despite having four children. I have observed that, especially as we age, taller women seem to distribute their weight more favorably. Perhaps it is my slight frame relative to my height, but femininity has never been an issue, men have described me as "sexy" and "hot", and I often get asked if I was as dancer or ballerina in my youth, the epitome of feminine arts.
I’m a dancer, and don’t really see how dance is the epitome of “feminine arts”. I don’t even know what feminine arts are.
It’s an athletic pursuit more difficult than most others. Hours a day of practice, daily exercise, insane amounts of strength and power. Dancers work harder than almost any other profession. And many “masculine” men, including athletes, rappers, and fitness pros, take dance classes to improve their athleticism.
If you ask any female dancer why they dance, none will tell you because if “femininity”. Plus, have you feet our feet? Blistered and bleeding feet are soooo feminine
Let’s get away from this idea that feminine=thin/tall/curvy/whatever the adjective du jour is.
I understand your point. Dancers are athletes. I myself have taken many dance classes throughout my life. But ballerinas in particular tend to have a very willowy body type/frame that most would describe are lean, defined and feminine. That is all that I mean. It is my body type, so though I am tall (over 5'9"), "lean", "willowy", "small", "petite" and "slight" are words that other people have used to describe my figure. My size is in clothes falls between a 4-6, or a small, depending on the item. As I said before, my flexibility and my weight (which fluctuates between 121-129 lbs), makes others assume I dance or practice yoga, questions I am asked with some frequency. The intimate men in my life (including a Marine, a Grenadier Guard, and two college athletes, though my ex-dh is best described as a brainy nerd) have always been able to move me easily and freely during sex to any desired positions. I do not judge other women on the basis of their height and weight because I see the beauty in most of the woman around me -- (though I judge myself quite harshly) -- in different ways, in their confidence, success, ambition, their smiles, laughs, personalities, friendliness and supportiveness among other things. It has nothing to do with a perfect face or figure, though admittedly I am not evaluating women from a sexual perspective as a man would. I assume, and can observe, that many women who are much shorter than I am, particularly in middle age (45+), do appear to weigh more and be more broad of figure. And that is perfectly fine because being a beautiful person and attractive to others is not dependant on one's height, weight and beautiful face, otherwise men would only flock to Instagram models.