Ok to leave 10 and 12yo in hotel room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I leave my 11 yo all the time (started when he was 9 I think). He has a phone and the door is locked. If there’s fire he knows to grab phone and run out and follow others to the staircase (which I also show him beforehand).
I also always put a do not disturb sign on the door

In the middle of the day on a weekday, it's most likely that there won't be "others" hanging out in their hotel rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I leave my 11 yo all the time (started when he was 9 I think). He has a phone and the door is locked. If there’s fire he knows to grab phone and run out and follow others to the staircase (which I also show him beforehand).
I also always put a do not disturb sign on the door

In the middle of the day on a weekday, it's most likely that there won't be "others" hanging out in their hotel rooms.

Most likely there won’t be a fire.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I leave my 11 yo all the time (started when he was 9 I think). He has a phone and the door is locked. If there’s fire he knows to grab phone and run out and follow others to the staircase (which I also show him beforehand).
I also always put a do not disturb sign on the door

In the middle of the day on a weekday, it's most likely that there won't be "others" hanging out in their hotel rooms.

Most likely there won’t be a fire.

True, but I'd be more wary that there will be a false alarm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I leave my 11 yo all the time (started when he was 9 I think). He has a phone and the door is locked. If there’s fire he knows to grab phone and run out and follow others to the staircase (which I also show him beforehand).
I also always put a do not disturb sign on the door

In the middle of the day on a weekday, it's most likely that there won't be "others" hanging out in their hotel rooms.

Most likely there won’t be a fire.

True, but I'd be more wary that there will be a false alarm.

How do you live your life with your crippling anxiety?

[Anonymous]

Are you all kidding me? I was a full-on babysitter at 12.

We stopped having babysitters in our family when the oldest reached that age. (we were 12, 11, 9, 7). I was the 11-year old.

[Anonymous]

For the people saying no, will you let your child drive at 16? Go to college at 18? 10 and 12 year old siblings alone in a hotel room? Of COURSE that is okay!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:people here are totally insane. the very same people that will tell you 18 year olds are adults and can do as they please.

All while keeping their 11 year old in a rear facing car seat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the people saying no, will you let your child drive at 16? Go to college at 18? 10 and 12 year old siblings alone in a hotel room? Of COURSE that is okay!!

I am a poster that said no, I would not leave them alone in the room at 10 and 12 while I was miles away all day.

My kids are older and some are already adults. Yes, they got their license at 16 and drove. Yes, they went away to college at 18.

If 10 and 12 alone in the hotel room all day is ok, OP should make sure to let the front desk know she is doing it. After all, OF COURSE it's okay--so why wouldn't she want everyone to know?

[Anonymous]

I would be ok with them being in the room by themselves but wouldn't feel comfortable being more than a few blocks away, at the most. How about finding a hotel with a nice outdoor pool area (like Eden Resort but there are lots of other options) and you can spend time there with your little one while the kids are in school. Then they can be there to join you at lunch, go back to finish school in the afternoon (and would be a good time for the little to nap if they still nap) and then maybe do an afternoon activity with all of them.

Both Sesame Place and Dutch Wonderland have hotels basically in their parking lots so that could work. Both of those parks are small enough that if you need to go back to the room for whatever reason, it wouldn't take long to get back. And the little one could take a break in the middle of the day and rest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For the people saying no, will you let your child drive at 16? Go to college at 18? 10 and 12 year old siblings alone in a hotel room? Of COURSE that is okay!!

I am a poster that said no, I would not leave them alone in the room at 10 and 12 while I was miles away all day.

My kids are older and some are already adults. Yes, they got their license at 16 and drove. Yes, they went away to college at 18.

If 10 and 12 alone in the hotel room all day is ok, OP should make sure to let the front desk know she is doing it. After all, OF COURSE it's okay--so why wouldn't she want everyone to know?

It is ok for you 16 yr old to be left alone so do you also let the hotel know he is there alone because OF COURSE it is OK?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the people saying no, will you let your child drive at 16? Go to college at 18? 10 and 12 year old siblings alone in a hotel room? Of COURSE that is okay!!

I am a poster that said no, I would not leave them alone in the room at 10 and 12 while I was miles away all day.

My kids are older and some are already adults. Yes, they got their license at 16 and drove. Yes, they went away to college at 18.

If 10 and 12 alone in the hotel room all day is ok, OP should make sure to let the front desk know she is doing it. After all, OF COURSE it's okay--so why wouldn't she want everyone to know?

It is ok for you 16 yr old to be left alone so do you also let the hotel know he is there alone because OF COURSE it is OK?

What are you talking about? I've never left my 16 year old alone in a hotel. Why would I? If we are somewhere far enough away from our house that we need a hotel room, then we are out doing things (museums, parks, whatever.)
I don't bring my kids to hotels to do their virtual school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the people saying no, will you let your child drive at 16? Go to college at 18? 10 and 12 year old siblings alone in a hotel room? Of COURSE that is okay!!

I am a poster that said no, I would not leave them alone in the room at 10 and 12 while I was miles away all day.

My kids are older and some are already adults. Yes, they got their license at 16 and drove. Yes, they went away to college at 18.

If 10 and 12 alone in the hotel room all day is ok, OP should make sure to let the front desk know she is doing it. After all, OF COURSE it's okay--so why wouldn't she want everyone to know?

It is ok for you 16 yr old to be left alone so do you also let the hotel know he is there alone because OF COURSE it is OK?

What are you talking about? I've never left my 16 year old alone in a hotel. Why would I? If we are somewhere far enough away from our house that we need a hotel room, then we are out doing things (museums, parks, whatever.)
I don't bring my kids to hotels to do their virtual school.

Just because you haven't done so doesn't mean there wouldn't be a reason to do so.

There are times kids might be left alone in a hotel. I left my 9 yr and 11yr olds alone in a condo and went off skiing. Kids were tired and done for the day, my husband and I wanted a few more runs. Really no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the people saying no, will you let your child drive at 16? Go to college at 18? 10 and 12 year old siblings alone in a hotel room? Of COURSE that is okay!!

I am a poster that said no, I would not leave them alone in the room at 10 and 12 while I was miles away all day.

My kids are older and some are already adults. Yes, they got their license at 16 and drove. Yes, they went away to college at 18.

If 10 and 12 alone in the hotel room all day is ok, OP should make sure to let the front desk know she is doing it. After all, OF COURSE it's okay--so why wouldn't she want everyone to know?

It is ok for you 16 yr old to be left alone so do you also let the hotel know he is there alone because OF COURSE it is OK?

What are you talking about? I've never left my 16 year old alone in a hotel. Why would I? If we are somewhere far enough away from our house that we need a hotel room, then we are out doing things (museums, parks, whatever.)
I don't bring my kids to hotels to do their virtual school.

So strange how a mother of adults is so against it. Most older parents are much more lax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the people saying no, will you let your child drive at 16? Go to college at 18? 10 and 12 year old siblings alone in a hotel room? Of COURSE that is okay!!

I am a poster that said no, I would not leave them alone in the room at 10 and 12 while I was miles away all day.

My kids are older and some are already adults. Yes, they got their license at 16 and drove. Yes, they went away to college at 18.

If 10 and 12 alone in the hotel room all day is ok, OP should make sure to let the front desk know she is doing it. After all, OF COURSE it's okay--so why wouldn't she want everyone to know?

It is ok for you 16 yr old to be left alone so do you also let the hotel know he is there alone because OF COURSE it is OK?

I hope you’re letting the front desk know that your kids are eating some chips and drinking a soda too. And they might even the bathroom during the day. Are you notifying the front desk if all of this? Or are you ashamed abd worried that it’s not okay? After all, OF COURSE it’s okay—so why wouldn’t you want everyone to know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've left our 10 year old son and his best friend, a girl his age alone together in a hotel room for a few hours many times (our families vacation together every year), usually just when we go for a drink at the bar in the evening with her parents. We leave a do not disturb sign on the door, we leave a phone there so we can check in with them and we remind them they need to be be quiet so they don't disturb other guests. They usually just watch a movie together on my son's tablet before we get back. There's never been any problems, so I'm fine with it.

Parenting advice from an alcoholic ladies and gentlemen...

One drink at a hotel bar in the evening means an alcoholic? great logic there.