Ok to leave 10 and 12yo in hotel room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People on here never cease to amaze me. so many crazies.

Team they will be 100% fine left alone. Can't even believe this is a question.

Same. This is absolutely bizarre. They are in a safe space, there is a front desk to help if anything goes terribly wrong (like what?), there are protocols already there for things like fires, they have a means to contact you, they are old enough to know things like not to open the door to strangers. I guess some people here would think it's crazy and dangerous that I let my 9yo go to the playground and grocery store a few blocks away on his own!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:no and illegal in most states.

Link?

It's not illegal in most states when 39 states don't have an age limit. It would be illegal in CO, DE, IL, MI, AND MISS.

It's not illegal in Michigan.

Can you provide the link because I don't think that's true for Mississippi either?

[Anonymous]

Look at all these helicopter parents.

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Anonymous wrote:no and illegal in most states.

Link?

It's not illegal in most states when 39 states don't have an age limit. It would be illegal in CO, DE, IL, MI, AND MISS.

It's not illegal in Michigan.

Can you provide the link because I don't think that's true for Mississippi either?

People here are blow hards who think they know it all.

Only three states have minimum ages for being left *home* alone. I have not heard of any hotel laws.

“ three States currently have laws regarding a minimum age for leaving a child home alone: Illinois, 14 years old; Maryland, 8 years old; and Oregon, 10 years old.”

https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/homealone.pdf#2

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People on here never cease to amaze me. so many crazies.

Team they will be 100% fine left alone. Can't even believe this is a question.

Same. This is absolutely bizarre. They are in a safe space, there is a front desk to help if anything goes terribly wrong (like what?), there are protocols already there for things like fires, they have a means to contact you, they are old enough to know things like not to open the door to strangers. I guess some people here would think it's crazy and dangerous that I let my 9yo go to the playground and grocery store a few blocks away on his own!

I would not feel comfortable doing what OP is suggesting but whether you do it or not, please be very clear with your kids what is and is not an acceptable reason to call the front desk. They are not back-up childcare and should not be expected to be. Also, please make sure they know how to deadbolt and chain the door and that you are staying in a hotel where there is no exterior access to the room.

[Anonymous]

No way.

[Anonymous]

I was babysitting an infant when I was 12. I think leaving a 12 year old for a few hours in a hotel room (and checking in via text) is fine. It might even be safer in a hotel vs at home (sprinkler system, better locks on door, front desk, cameras everywhere). I wouldn't leave them overnight but during the day - yes.

[Anonymous]

Have you not considered that the 10 and 12yo would reasonably be annoyed that they still have DL while younger sibling not only doesn't have school, but they and you will gallivant off to do whatever else?

I homeschooled 3 this year: 4th and twin kindergarten. There was a vast difference in the time the older child NEEDED to complete their schoolwork vs the younger two. However, I also understood that it was better to have the twins do some fun educational games that the 4th grader would perceive as school while the twins would appreciate as play time. Setting up the older kids like that seems to be begging for them to skip school to watch TV instead.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. Stay home.

[Anonymous]

I would be more concerned about the Internet than the hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you not considered that the 10 and 12yo would reasonably be annoyed that they still have DL while younger sibling not only doesn't have school, but they and you will gallivant off to do whatever else?

I homeschooled 3 this year: 4th and twin kindergarten. There was a vast difference in the time the older child NEEDED to complete their schoolwork vs the younger two. However, I also understood that it was better to have the twins do some fun educational games that the 4th grader would perceive as school while the twins would appreciate as play time. Setting up the older kids like that seems to be begging for them to skip school to watch TV instead.

No, my older kids don’t get jealous or feel left out of preschool outings.

My kids are pretty good with virtual school. I was just going to leave them home but now my middle child wants to come too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not feel comfortable doing this in a place that was not my home. Especially since the kids will not know what to do if the internet goes out and they can't get into class.

Really?

Your 12 year old couldn’t figure out how to handle this? You have bigger problems than a hotel room stay. This is taught helplessness.

[Anonymous]

I leave my 11 yo all the time (started when he was 9 I think). He has a phone and the door is locked. If there’s fire he knows to grab phone and run out and follow others to the staircase (which I also show him beforehand).
I also always put a do not disturb sign on the door

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have you not considered that the 10 and 12yo would reasonably be annoyed that they still have DL while younger sibling not only doesn't have school, but they and you will gallivant off to do whatever else?

I homeschooled 3 this year: 4th and twin kindergarten. There was a vast difference in the time the older child NEEDED to complete their schoolwork vs the younger two. However, I also understood that it was better to have the twins do some fun educational games that the 4th grader would perceive as school while the twins would appreciate as play time. Setting up the older kids like that seems to be begging for them to skip school to watch TV instead.

No, my older kids don’t get jealous or feel left out of preschool outings.

My kids are pretty good with virtual school. I was just going to leave them home but now my middle child wants to come too.

Agreed. (Except my older kids are in elementary school.)

I think it’s a little bizarre that a fourth grader needed to see his kindergarten siblings do work to be convinced to do his own work. This shows a pronounced lack of emotional maturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you not considered that the 10 and 12yo would reasonably be annoyed that they still have DL while younger sibling not only doesn't have school, but they and you will gallivant off to do whatever else?

I homeschooled 3 this year: 4th and twin kindergarten. There was a vast difference in the time the older child NEEDED to complete their schoolwork vs the younger two. However, I also understood that it was better to have the twins do some fun educational games that the 4th grader would perceive as school while the twins would appreciate as play time. Setting up the older kids like that seems to be begging for them to skip school to watch TV instead.

Ugh, no. Just no. Don't be the mom who raises her kids to believe that they all should be treated 100% equally. Especially with twins. Sometimes one kid gets to go to a sleepover and the others won't. That is life.

My son's best friend growing up was a twin. They were lucky enough to be in the same class for K-2 & 5 and he had the other twin in his class for 4th. Anyway, whenever my son wanted to have a playdate with his best friend, Twin A, Twin B also always had to be invited. This was at the mom's insistence to keep things fair. My son and Twin B got along fine, but were not best friends and honestly, didn't have the same interests.

When the twins were older Twin A was playing travel baseball on the same team as my son, we still had to take Twin B with us when we chaperoned out of town for a weekend tournament in order to be fair. Same with when we wanted Twin A to go to the beach with us.