Siblings, who live abroad, didn’t respond when I reached out to them reacting to the events on Jan 6

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly--I would have rolled my eyes and thought you were being over dramatic. That said--I would have responded even if I thought you were over-reacting. I'm sorry they blew you off.
Are you normally close and this was a one time thing? Are they normally dismissive? Do you send them a lot of over-wrought texts and they're tired of it? It's hard to know how to feel without more context.

(But this was nothing like 9/11. That comparison is ludicrous.)

It turned out to be nothing like 9/11. While it was going on, the fear was how big it would get.

Nah. American insurgents weren’t as scary and they had no access to mass-killing machines (like planes). But I’m sorry they weren’t supportive. You might need to be slightly less myopic and histrionic in the future, then they will pay you mind when you’re panicked. GL!

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly--I would have rolled my eyes and thought you were being over dramatic. That said--I would have responded even if I thought you were over-reacting. I'm sorry they blew you off.
Are you normally close and this was a one time thing? Are they normally dismissive? Do you send them a lot of over-wrought texts and they're tired of it? It's hard to know how to feel without more context.

(But this was nothing like 9/11. That comparison is ludicrous.)

It turned out to be nothing like 9/11. While it was going on, the fear was how big it would get.

Nah. American insurgents weren’t as scary and they had no access to mass-killing machines (like planes). But I’m sorry they weren’t supportive. You might need to be slightly less myopic and histrionic in the future, then they will pay you mind when you’re panicked. GL!

PP: and yes, I was watching it unfold live (in both instances).

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To the OP I’m sorry your sisters treated you that way. DC is VERY small so shut everyone basically lives near the Capitol in a sense.

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OP, what’s the time difference? I mean, casually texting when it’s 2pm EST makes it 8pm in parts of Europe, or much later/earlier in many other places. Could it be they are like many other people and just don’t hang onto every text coming through their phone around bedtime?

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It doesn't really sound like you're close with your sisters. Add that into your melodramatic personality and over the top reaction, I get why they may not particularly like you

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Sounds like you have anxiety and often text them wanting reassurance and/or justification for your feelings. I have a friend who is similar. I avoid responding to her texts because I don’t want to encourage her. It’s exhausting interacting with her.

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It was not a big deal to anyone in my family who is overseas. I don't think mom and sister even know it happened. I didn't even mention it to them. This is nothing to me. I am from the former Yugoslavia.

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OP, I'd be hurt too.

My brother almost never texts socially. Even he texted me on Wednesday to talk about what was happening!

I would work to get over it though, because they are your sisters. Sometimes people get involved in what's in front of them, it's ok.

I was mostly texting with 2 neighbors who aren't necessarily my closest friends. It was random, but I have to say it helped.

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Anonymous wrote:My sisters both live on different continents, and I live in DC. When the events were unfolding on Jan 6th, I texted them (our usual way of contacting each other, given the time difference) in a panic with my concerns over what was happening. I texted several times between 2 and 6 pm our time that day, and again the next day reiterating that things were crazy, it get scary, etc.

Neither of them replied to me. I never expect an immediate reply, but given the circumstances, and that it was all over the news, I thought they’d respond within a couple of days. Finally yesterday I said something to them along the lines of, I understand your not replying doesn’t mean you don’t care, but it does make me sad. I was hoping to connect with you over this, you are American, etc. (both are very liberal btw)

They responded something like, sorry, we’re just busy.

I’m upset. I’m disappointed. Putting aside whether you think it’s “reasonable” for someone in my position to be scared by Wednesdays events, I reached out to them and heard nothing back. Honesty even if I hadn’t reached out to them first I would have thought they’d have heard the news and reached out to me.

Am I crazy to be hurt here?

No. Your sisters are kind of jerks. You were scared. You asked for connection to help you get through something that was scary. Your sisters ignored you. They didn't care enough to even send a 5 second text. They are the assholes here.

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Anonymous wrote:We just got back from 3 weeks of travel plus tons of office work plus virtual school for the kids. After watching BLM vandalism, curfews broken, arson, looting, squatting and various state houses and US capital infiltrated with protestors over the years trying to stop legislation, I am desensitized.

Plus mass media wasn’t quantifying the crowd outside (usually means smallish) or inside the Capitol (“dozens” they admitted 48 hours later). They were in at 2:15 and cleared by 3:30. Loved the overly dramatic photos of the evacuation protocol and smoke canister “explosions”. Those will get some mileage.

So the unhinged emails from around the states, mainly from leftist friends or relatives were ignored. In fact, many of them still owe us a note that they received their Hannakuh card or present.

What does this have to do with anything? Sounds like many people, minus the irresponsible travel. Also, no one is obligated to respond to your Hanukkah card. “Leftist” friends? Wonder if they’d still be your friends if they knew that’s how you referred to them. You sound like a real bitch.

Different poster here: I think the poster is not a “bitch” but has offered a measured view of what has been going on. Unfortunate that you need to refer to a fellow woman that you disagree with as a “bitch”

Oh please, spare me the "all women together" bull. There's nothing measured about calling people unhinged and "leftist". This is clearly a Trumpista and she will is being called out as such.

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Anonymous wrote:To the OP I’m sorry your sisters treated you that way. DC is VERY small so shut everyone basically lives near the Capitol in a sense.

No they really don't. Some of you are attention whores. What happened at the Capitol building was no where near your NWDC neighborhood. I'm sure your family doesn't call, nor do you expect them to call, every time there is a shooting. That's when you are happy to put distance between neighborhoods.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I think people who found out about it after it occurred are having a different reaction than those of us who watched it all live. DH and I watched everything from 2 pm on - and there was a long stretch where it seemed it would be a successful coup. We were watching I believe cnn and the newscaster started to cry on air (they cut away from her when she did).

I recognize I would have a different reaction if we hadn’t watched it all unfold, not knowing how it would end. Also, we don’t work on the hill but like many in DC have so many friends and colleagues who do.

Regardless, I’m attempting to make this not about the attack itself, as what’s hurtful is that they didn’t reply - not that they didn’t preemptively contact me.

I think I’m not melodramatic and if anything my therapist (when I used to see a therapist, before covid) would say I should be more open with my feelings to have more authentic relationships. So, that’s what I was trying to do here; and i didn’t get any response.

You are being melodramatic and attention seeking and I guess you have done this before if you were ignored and your sisters just didn’t want to get to to some long winded over dramatic text messaging.

I watched it live as well. It wasn’t scary for me. But I am sure it was scary for the people in the Capitol at the time.

And a coup??? Please. You are just using that to be dramatic. Once the people got in they didn’t even know what to do with themselves. I watched them. They were just random people, a lot were probably just there for the excitement. They mostly wandered around, checked out offices, took selfies and then left. They didn’t try to establish power. They didn’t try and actually take over the government. They just made a mess and then left.

+1. They didn’t even go outside the velvet red ropes!

Mass media lapped up the photos of the half naked bearded wonder in horns.

Um there's video of them dragging a police officer down the stairs and beating him with the American flag. If anything, we've been lead to believe it was harmless "milling around" when in reality it was incredibly violent.

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I would have been bothered by that too, OP. I had several family members reach out to me that day or the day after to check on me. I would have done the same.

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You were typing something live, while it was happening. Your sisters didn't get your texts live or couldn't respond at that time so the texts probably felt like they fell flat. You sound needy.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly--I would have rolled my eyes and thought you were being over dramatic. That said--I would have responded even if I thought you were over-reacting. I'm sorry they blew you off.
Are you normally close and this was a one time thing? Are they normally dismissive? Do you send them a lot of over-wrought texts and they're tired of it? It's hard to know how to feel without more context.

(But this was nothing like 9/11. That comparison is ludicrous.)

It turned out to be nothing like 9/11. While it was going on, the fear was how big it would get.

Look, watching what was happening made me both sad and scared. But at no point in time did I think a comparison with 9/11 would be appropriate. Come on.