Siblings, who live abroad, didn’t respond when I reached out to them reacting to the events on Jan 6

[Anonymous]

OP here.

I think people who found out about it after it occurred are having a different reaction than those of us who watched it all live. DH and I watched everything from 2 pm on - and there was a long stretch where it seemed it would be a successful coup. We were watching I believe cnn and the newscaster started to cry on air (they cut away from her when she did).

I recognize I would have a different reaction if we hadn’t watched it all unfold, not knowing how it would end. Also, we don’t work on the hill but like many in DC have so many friends and colleagues who do.

Regardless, I’m attempting to make this not about the attack itself, as what’s hurtful is that they didn’t reply - not that they didn’t preemptively contact me.

I think I’m not melodramatic and if anything my therapist (when I used to see a therapist, before covid) would say I should be more open with my feelings to have more authentic relationships. So, that’s what I was trying to do here; and i didn’t get any response.

[Anonymous]

It costs nothing to be kind. If your sibling feels unsafe and scared, whether or not it’s reasonable, you respond and support them. So many people are afraid of things like flying (very safe), snakes (how often do you run into a snake?), holes (look it up). Fears are rarely rational. But if my sister contacted me, I would respond.

I’m sorry, op. I’m with you in spirit *hug*

[Anonymous]

So was it the middle of the night for them? And then when they woke up, they saw nothing was really amiss? What a drama queen.
I hate people that make it about themselves! How was any of this truly relevant and warranting a panic mode from YOU?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares that much and regular people do not see it as a major event. Were you in any danger on the day? Were you attacked? Did anything really happen to you?
You sound like an overreacting person and an annoying one at that.
It happened, it was over quickly and so what? My super annoying ILS family did not send a single text about it at all.

Regular people don’t see it as a major event?

You’re 10000% wrong.

[Anonymous]

People love to be dramatic and social media only gives rise to this by people "marking themselves safe" when they were never in harms way anyway. 99% of the people in the DC area were in exactly zero danger on 1/6 so there is no need to reach out to siblings and say "you were safe" unless you lived in the area immediately surrounding the Capitol.

Serious question, did you reach out to the same siblings and say you were safe during the BLM riots which were much more widespread over the summer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
1. Where do your sisters live? Depending on where they live stuff like this could be a regular occurrence and thus not be scary for them. D you text them every time something similar happens in the countries they live in?

2. While the attack was deeply disturbing, They obviously knew you were okay.Unlike 9/11 .

3. You describe your sisters as very liberally. I may be wrong but I suspect that means you are on different sides of the political aisle. They probably knew and have been daying this will happen since 2016 and didn't want to say " I told you so"

Op here,

1. They live in safer countries than ours

2. I understand in that respect it was not like 9/11 at all but I’m not the fist to make the comparison. It’s like 9/11 in historical significance, and reshaping counterterrorism.

3. No, I’m a moderate liberal and Trump hater. If anything perhaps their reaction reflects that they’ve long ago given up hope for the US.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares that much and regular people do not see it as a major event. Were you in any danger on the day? Were you attacked? Did anything really happen to you?
You sound like an overreacting person and an annoying one at that.
It happened, it was over quickly and so what? My super annoying ILS family did not send a single text about it at all.

Regular people don’t see it as a major event?

You’re 10000% wrong.

Ok, sure, it was a major event, but not something that people overseas would comment and think is relevant. Now if, they hanged Pence...

[Anonymous]

I didn’t think many people in DC were in danger but that doesn’t mean it wasn’t terrifying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
1. Where do your sisters live? Depending on where they live stuff like this could be a regular occurrence and thus not be scary for them. D you text them every time something similar happens in the countries they live in?

2. While the attack was deeply disturbing, They obviously knew you were okay.Unlike 9/11 .

3. You describe your sisters as very liberally. I may be wrong but I suspect that means you are on different sides of the political aisle. They probably knew and have been daying this will happen since 2016 and didn't want to say " I told you so"

Op here,

1. They live in safer countries than ours

2. I understand in that respect it was not like 9/11 at all but I’m not the fist to make the comparison. It’s like 9/11 in historical significance, and reshaping counterterrorism.

3. No, I’m a moderate liberal and Trump hater. If anything perhaps their reaction reflects that they’ve long ago given up hope for the US.

My family lives in another country in Europe. I e-mail my mom every day. We text by viber. I did not send them a single text about ti nor did they text me about the events on the 6th. Get some perspective op. It might have been in the middle of the night, and you were an irritating little.... and then they saw on the morning or the next day after work that it was over and what is there to text about?

[Anonymous]

You absolutely are melodramatic! You were in zero harm. The country is falling to shit but you are no different just because you were within the city limits, my guess is miles away. Get over yourself. Or don’t acknowledge and keep messing up your relationships. Your choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People love to be dramatic and social media only gives rise to this by people "marking themselves safe" when they were never in harms way anyway. 99% of the people in the DC area were in exactly zero danger on 1/6 so there is no need to reach out to siblings and say "you were safe" unless you lived in the area immediately surrounding the Capitol.

Serious question, did you reach out to the same siblings and say you were safe during the BLM riots which were much more widespread over the summer?

It’s not just about directly being in harms way. We live near a major route used by emergency vehicles. We could hear sirens constantly. There was a sense of not knowing if it was really over or we would wake up to worse. My teens suggested we all camp out on the living floor to sleep. They wanted to be together.

[Anonymous]

Newsflash! Most of the people overseas do not watch the news and do not thrive on the constant fear pandering the CNN creates. Most people hate watching the news all the time. Only in the U.S. is this a thing.
Snow is panic, rain is panic, coronavirus is a panic, BLM is panic, elections are panic, nobody can stand the constant fear mode that some Americans and their news thrive on. I am an immigrant and I find it repulsive. All of the U.S. and its news is nothing but constant Drama Queens and Kings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Similar experience, and my family members live in other large cities on the East coast. Strangely they told me they were glued to the tv all day watching events unfold but seemed to have no thoughts or caring that people living in DC would be frightened and affected by this. I don’t get it. They actually said to me “But you don’t live near Capitol Hill.” I checked on everyone I knew in NYC on 9/11. Not just people in the World Trade Center.

Those are very different examples regarding the footprint of the attack and the number of people hurt. If you didn't live or work near Capitol Hill, you were experiencing it the same way everyone else was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I think people who found out about it after it occurred are having a different reaction than those of us who watched it all live. DH and I watched everything from 2 pm on - and there was a long stretch where it seemed it would be a successful coup. We were watching I believe cnn and the newscaster started to cry on air (they cut away from her when she did).

I recognize I would have a different reaction if we hadn’t watched it all unfold, not knowing how it would end. Also, we don’t work on the hill but like many in DC have so many friends and colleagues who do.

Regardless, I’m attempting to make this not about the attack itself, as what’s hurtful is that they didn’t reply - not that they didn’t preemptively contact me.

I think I’m not melodramatic and if anything my therapist (when I used to see a therapist, before covid) would say I should be more open with my feelings to have more authentic relationships. So, that’s what I was trying to do here; and i didn’t get any response.

You are being melodramatic and attention seeking and I guess you have done this before if you were ignored and your sisters just didn’t want to get to to some long winded over dramatic text messaging.

I watched it live as well. It wasn’t scary for me. But I am sure it was scary for the people in the Capitol at the time.

And a coup??? Please. You are just using that to be dramatic. Once the people got in they didn’t even know what to do with themselves. I watched them. They were just random people, a lot were probably just there for the excitement. They mostly wandered around, checked out offices, took selfies and then left. They didn’t try to establish power. They didn’t try and actually take over the government. They just made a mess and then left.

[Anonymous]

OP do you live in the city of DC itself, or like...Reston?