My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!

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I have several friends with seniors and they are doing everything for them since it's all online over the summer (orientation, registration, selecting classes). The hand-holding going on is jawdropping.

This generation of parents has made this generation of kids incompetent!

How much help are you giving your kid? Shouldn't they just step up and figure it out?

Myst be nice to be perfect and cast stones at others and also the free time to do so.

If it doesnt affect you why do you care? How old are your kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Some kids mature slower than others.
The kids who don’t need the help won’t let their parents help. The kids who do need coaching or organizational help should benefit from it, because ADHD-type kids can be very successful once they develop the skills.

The goal is to get everyone up to speed, recognizing that different young adults won’t all reach that point at the same time.

Moral: do what you must for family, and understand others are doing the same for theirs.

+1

I like you, PP. You can think both more subtly and more compassionately than most people on these boards.

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Anonymous wrote:My friends husband would drive 2 hours each way to help his son with his economics homework. Unbelievable. He did this drive many times specifically to do/help with the economics homework.

I think that is really sweet and helpful. He got to spend time with his son and they probably had dinner as well. Plus, if dad knew it and son needed help, why is this that different than paying for a tutor or going to tutoring center? Plus if you are paying all that money for tuition, why not help kid understand the material. Maybe his kid had a LD that you don't know about?

It was a 2 hour drive each way on multiple occasions. His wife (the step Mom) thought it was crazy but did not say anything to her husband.

Well of course step mom thought it was crazy. It sounds it was on a a few occasions not every other day. I used to drive to DS's games in college. So did many other parents of kids' on a team. I think your argument here is weak as dad most likely loved going there and probably offered. I have two kids in college, rising senior and rising sophomore, I did not help with any enrollment or do I know what is going on apart from them telling me when they want to. I agree that many parents are nuts and are doing their kids no favors, but dad probably liked going to see his son. 4 hour drive is nothing in the DMV.

Did you skip your reading comprehension classes? "The dad" drove 2 hours each way to do his --legally adult --son's homework. HOMEWORK.
There's nothing 'sweet' about it.

You sound angry for what reason, I can't fathom. Do you have kids? Are you the stepmom in question