My friends can't even let their kids pick their own classes!

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Anonymous wrote:My friends husband would drive 2 hours each way to help his son with his economics homework. Unbelievable. He did this drive many times specifically to do/help with the economics homework.

LOL someone should have taught him how to use Zoom so he could save on gas and time!

That's why the post is ridiculous. Clearly dad wanted to go spend time with his son and used the economics help as an excuse so stepmom wouldn't object to the visits.

Projecting much?

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Anonymous wrote:Even if it’s HS seniors it’s stupid.

IDK. It will be one thing when my kid gets an advisor. But, that’s in August. He had to register for 1st semester classes without that, and then adjust once they meet with their advisor. He asked for help, and I was like: a freshman seminar you find interesting (a freshman seminar is required), a class that seems very interesting to you and that meets a divisional requirement— does not matter what class or division. The first of a sequence of 2 lab sciences that you are required to take freshman year for your major. And the gateway class to your major.

I also suggested he, balance hard classes and easy classes and reading/writing heavy and STEM heavy. And to look at each class and make sure it will translate okay to an online environment. His SLAC is starting in person, but no guarantee it ends that way.

If my kid and his advisor rework his classes, that’s fine. And after this, I don’t plan to interfere. But, he asked and IDK how a high school senior makes a plan with no guidance from the college.

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Anonymous wrote:After spending some time on a parent Facebook group, none of this surprises me. Parents are way over-involved. I've seen people trying to find roommates for their college seniors! (This is always for "a sweet young man who doesn't drink and loves studying and quiet.")

Before my son picked his freshman classes, I did make sure he had the four-year plan for his major and a list of gen ed. classes handy. For both kids, I check in once in a while to make sure they have been able to get the classes they need to stick to the four-year graduation plan, although one of them feels this is too much intervention.

That’s too much intervention. That’s what their academic advisors are for.

When their academic advisor starts paying the bill, I’ll stop checking in with my college student about his plans.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. One friend also plans to track his phone so she knows if he is in class every day. And she was also able to set it up where she will has access to log onto his college email to monitor every message he gets.

Still cool with all of you?

Really, really weird.

I think Pink Floyd's "mother" captures it perfectly. Also she needs to make sure some dirty girl doesnt give him meningitis. I think that was a TV ad that alluded to that.

Hush now, baby, baby, don't you cry
Mama's gonna make all of your nightmares come true
Mama's gonna put all of her fears into you
Mama's gonna keep you right here under her wing
She won't let you fly, but she might let you sing
Mama's gonna keep baby cozy and warm
Ooh baby, ooh baby, ooh baby
Of course mama's gonna help build the wall
Mother, do you think she's good enough?
For me?
Mother, do you think she's dangerous
To me?

That is a misogynist song if I ever heard one. No, mothers do not ruin their kids' lives with care and protection. Mothers are not dangerous to their kids at all. That song is utter BS and you know it. How come we don't have a song about abusive dad when there are so, so, so many of them? No, moms should not sign their kids for college classes, but all normal parents will look out for their kids for as long as they can. Do you know what kind of parent is the worst? The one that does not care. This is just another example of society putting women down. You are damned if you do, damned how you do, and damned if you don't.

OMG have none of the PP either attacking or defending Pink Floyd's "Mother" ever listened to or seen the movie of The Wall? It's a concept/story album and movie, and if you'd been a college student in the very late '70s, '80s, or even the early '90s, there's no way you could not know that the song is not about ALL mothers. It's about the rock star Pink's mother. You can't take the song out of context.

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Anonymous wrote:After spending some time on a parent Facebook group, none of this surprises me. Parents are way over-involved. I've seen people trying to find roommates for their college seniors! (This is always for "a sweet young man who doesn't drink and loves studying and quiet.")

Before my son picked his freshman classes, I did make sure he had the four-year plan for his major and a list of gen ed. classes handy. For both kids, I check in once in a while to make sure they have been able to get the classes they need to stick to the four-year graduation plan, although one of them feels this is too much intervention.

That’s too much intervention. That’s what their academic advisors are for.

I don’t think that’s too much intervention at all. It is minimal and no different than he would be doing checking in with his boss, who is paying him, to make sure he’s on track for projects. In this case it’s checking in with the person paying massive amounts of money for the degree to be completely in 4 years. Reasonable.

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Anonymous wrote:After spending some time on a parent Facebook group, none of this surprises me. Parents are way over-involved. I've seen people trying to find roommates for their college seniors! (This is always for "a sweet young man who doesn't drink and loves studying and quiet.")

Before my son picked his freshman classes, I did make sure he had the four-year plan for his major and a list of gen ed. classes handy. For both kids, I check in once in a while to make sure they have been able to get the classes they need to stick to the four-year graduation plan, although one of them feels this is too much intervention.

That’s too much intervention. That’s what their academic advisors are for.

I don’t think that’s too much intervention at all. It is minimal and no different than he would be doing checking in with his boss, who is paying him, to make sure he’s on track for projects. In this case it’s checking in with the person paying massive amounts of money for the degree to be completely in 4 years. Reasonable.

That’s ridiculous logic.

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Anonymous wrote:After spending some time on a parent Facebook group, none of this surprises me. Parents are way over-involved. I've seen people trying to find roommates for their college seniors! (This is always for "a sweet young man who doesn't drink and loves studying and quiet.")

Before my son picked his freshman classes, I did make sure he had the four-year plan for his major and a list of gen ed. classes handy. For both kids, I check in once in a while to make sure they have been able to get the classes they need to stick to the four-year graduation plan, although one of them feels this is too much intervention.

That’s too much intervention. That’s what their academic advisors are for.

I don’t think that’s too much intervention at all. It is minimal and no different than he would be doing checking in with his boss, who is paying him, to make sure he’s on track for projects. In this case it’s checking in with the person paying massive amounts of money for the degree to be completely in 4 years. Reasonable.

That’s ridiculous logic.

Why? I don’t give a crap what you want to do with your kid. But for the over $120K I will be spending on each of their college educations, I have NO problem going though reviewing that my kids are on track for graduating on time before each college year, and making sure they’re squared away on the classes they’re taking to graduate on time. They’re not fine with that? I’ll use the money for something else.

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For freshman year, DS took the classes suggested by his advisor. It turned out that the man was totally biased ( he’s been let go now ) and had DS take remedial classes in English and Math because DS “looked like an international student”. It wasn’t until the end of the semester when he realized the courses were auxiliary credits. Helping to avoid unnecessary mistakes is not hand holding. This past semester, I also helped with a statistics project. It was a group project where most classmates were contributing very little, if any. It was the adjunct professor’s first time teaching, and she was very nervous about distant learning. In fact I told her I would help the project and she she was very thankful to me. With

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Anonymous wrote:After spending some time on a parent Facebook group, none of this surprises me. Parents are way over-involved. I've seen people trying to find roommates for their college seniors! (This is always for "a sweet young man who doesn't drink and loves studying and quiet.")

Before my son picked his freshman classes, I did make sure he had the four-year plan for his major and a list of gen ed. classes handy. For both kids, I check in once in a while to make sure they have been able to get the classes they need to stick to the four-year graduation plan, although one of them feels this is too much intervention.

That’s too much intervention. That’s what their academic advisors are for.

I don’t think that’s too much intervention at all. It is minimal and no different than he would be doing checking in with his boss, who is paying him, to make sure he’s on track for projects. In this case it’s checking in with the person paying massive amounts of money for the degree to be completely in 4 years. Reasonable.

That’s ridiculous logic.

Why? I don’t give a crap what you want to do with your kid. But for the over $120K I will be spending on each of their college educations, I have NO problem going though reviewing that my kids are on track for graduating on time before each college year, and making sure they’re squared away on the classes they’re taking to graduate on time. They’re not fine with that? I’ll use the money for something else.

God I hope they immediately becone stay at home parents. Or artists or buskers. Ou

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My friend's niece was planning a law school after graduating in her major. Then somewhere during her 4th year of college it emerged that she had made some bad course selections, then was trying to catch up with her major, then got herself overwhelmed, ended up doing another year, and has now put off finishing her degree for 2 years in succession while working seasonally as a low level instructor in an outdoor sport and in between as a restaurant server. At some point she started to get anxiety about it all and the more anxious she got the longer she put off telling her parents, who were angry for intermittent stretches but dealing with it and do have a good relationship with her generally. Although her dad dropped out of college and was a slacker for some years before he found a way to eventually become wealthy without college.

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Op. I had one student who really-really wanted to change his major. The new major would have required competence in a foreign language. We advised: First gain the competence, Then change the major (IF he had switched majors he would not have been able to switch back - he had been a "Direct Admit" to the first major)

It's nuanced thing like this which, I imagine Op has no experience with.

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That’s what their academic advisors are for.

Some of us know, not all advisors will be excellent. Like a PP, I am going to double-check requirements. I have the time. I'm going to double check.

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Anonymous wrote:After spending some time on a parent Facebook group, none of this surprises me. Parents are way over-involved. I've seen people trying to find roommates for their college seniors! (This is always for "a sweet young man who doesn't drink and loves studying and quiet.")

Before my son picked his freshman classes, I did make sure he had the four-year plan for his major and a list of gen ed. classes handy. For both kids, I check in once in a while to make sure they have been able to get the classes they need to stick to the four-year graduation plan, although one of them feels this is too much intervention.

That’s too much intervention. That’s what their academic advisors are for.

I don’t think that’s too much intervention at all. It is minimal and no different than he would be doing checking in with his boss, who is paying him, to make sure he’s on track for projects. In this case it’s checking in with the person paying massive amounts of money for the degree to be completely in 4 years. Reasonable.

That’s ridiculous logic.

Why? I don’t give a crap what you want to do with your kid. But for the over $120K I will be spending on each of their college educations, I have NO problem going though reviewing that my kids are on track for graduating on time before each college year, and making sure they’re squared away on the classes they’re taking to graduate on time. They’re not fine with that? I’ll use the money for something else.

God I hope they immediately becone stay at home parents. Or artists or buskers. Ou

For that amount of money, my kid better have a good academic advisor. Otherwise, you’re wasting your money if you need to micro-manage their college education.

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Anonymous wrote:After spending some time on a parent Facebook group, none of this surprises me. Parents are way over-involved. I've seen people trying to find roommates for their college seniors! (This is always for "a sweet young man who doesn't drink and loves studying and quiet.")

Before my son picked his freshman classes, I did make sure he had the four-year plan for his major and a list of gen ed. classes handy. For both kids, I check in once in a while to make sure they have been able to get the classes they need to stick to the four-year graduation plan, although one of them feels this is too much intervention.

That’s too much intervention. That’s what their academic advisors are for.

I don’t think that’s too much intervention at all. It is minimal and no different than he would be doing checking in with his boss, who is paying him, to make sure he’s on track for projects. In this case it’s checking in with the person paying massive amounts of money for the degree to be completely in 4 years. Reasonable.

That’s ridiculous logic.

Why? I don’t give a crap what you want to do with your kid. But for the over $120K I will be spending on each of their college educations, I have NO problem going though reviewing that my kids are on track for graduating on time before each college year, and making sure they’re squared away on the classes they’re taking to graduate on time. They’re not fine with that? I’ll use the money for something else.

God I hope they immediately becone stay at home parents. Or artists or buskers. Ou

For that amount of money, my kid better have a good academic advisor. Otherwise, you’re wasting your money if you need to micro-manage their college education.

I’m sorry, but checking that one thing as the payer of their education and them having independence on the rest is not micromanaging.

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Anonymous wrote:After spending some time on a parent Facebook group, none of this surprises me. Parents are way over-involved. I've seen people trying to find roommates for their college seniors! (This is always for "a sweet young man who doesn't drink and loves studying and quiet.")

Before my son picked his freshman classes, I did make sure he had the four-year plan for his major and a list of gen ed. classes handy. For both kids, I check in once in a while to make sure they have been able to get the classes they need to stick to the four-year graduation plan, although one of them feels this is too much intervention.

That’s too much intervention. That’s what their academic advisors are for.

I don’t think that’s too much intervention at all. It is minimal and no different than he would be doing checking in with his boss, who is paying him, to make sure he’s on track for projects. In this case it’s checking in with the person paying massive amounts of money for the degree to be completely in 4 years. Reasonable.

That’s ridiculous logic.

Why? I don’t give a crap what you want to do with your kid. But for the over $120K I will be spending on each of their college educations, I have NO problem going though reviewing that my kids are on track for graduating on time before each college year, and making sure they’re squared away on the classes they’re taking to graduate on time. They’re not fine with that? I’ll use the money for something else.

God I hope they immediately becone stay at home parents. Or artists or buskers. Ou

For that amount of money, my kid better have a good academic advisor. Otherwise, you’re wasting your money if you need to micro-manage their college education.

I’m sorry, but checking that one thing as the payer of their education and them having independence on the rest is not micromanaging.

And by the way, I went to an excellent very well-known school and got screwed over by my inept academic advisor’s advice, which ultimately affected my GPA. So don’t give me the “the academic advisor knows all and should be their only guidance” crap.