Would you date a rich plumber?

[Anonymous]

If it meant getting away from know-it - all liberal Democrats in my current UMC circle I would marry a plumber in a heartbeat. As long as he is not a liberal Dem, also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to take an unpopular view here. But bear with me. I’ve been around a lot of the trades and while you may find yourself attracted to a specific person, it’s the entire lifestyle and their buddies that might be a problem. Construction and the trades tend to be a respectable way for people with a troubled background to make a living. Nothing wrong with that. But are you going to want to socialize with the plumber’s friends, their families, plumber’s family? It’s a different world if you’re used to a UMC background of white-collar educated people.

My friend had a high-level corp job and married a guy who owned a plumbing company. All was well until he started doing coke with his employees. They divorced and he ODd. Of course, plenty of lawyers, lobbyists, etc do coke too!

I have dated a guy who owns a construction company. He does have a past as a drug dealer, but he's turned his life around, which I find admirable.

Have to assess a person for who they are....

I think i dated this same guy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would if we were compatible. I care more about interests than degrees. But I wouldn't date a man who was negative towards me for having an advanced degree and some UMC interests. Some working class families can have these close-minded, negative attitudes and that's a deal breaker for me.

That's nearly all the "liberals" i know. And just look at some the "no" responses here! They can't deal with people who are different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a huge crush on my electrician.

I had an affair with my electrician. Latino guy 12 years younger. OMG. I will never forget him. And hell yeah i would have married him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a huge crush on my electrician.

I had an affair with my electrician. Latino guy 12 years younger. OMG. I will never forget him. And hell yeah i would have married him.

But he's like 5' 3"

[Anonymous]

The area where I live floods every time we get significant rain. I'm talking several inches of water or more in the basement. Hell yes I'd marry a rich plumber. If he had all the other qualities I was looking for (kind, attractive-to-me, and hard working) then yes. However, I already married the middle income teacher, and I love him to death, so I'm not free.

[Anonymous]

Our plumber owns a better house than we do plus a beach house and a lake house, and his kids go to private school. I often wished I had married a plumber.

[Anonymous]

Here's my dating philosophy. Give nearly everybody a chance. So if he was kind, and respectful, and I found him interesting and fun I definitely would date him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a huge crush on my electrician.

I have a huge crush on our contractor.

[Anonymous]

Depends how rich. Like "eff you rich" in the way that stomps over poor people, no, not my cup of tea. But just middle of the road upper middle class, sure.

I get it, OP -- I'm not a huge fan of rich folks, either, but sometimes you have to look for the person behind the SES strata, yanno?

That's what you were asking, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it meant getting away from know-it - all liberal Democrats in my current UMC circle I would marry a plumber in a heartbeat. As long as he is not a liberal Dem, also.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Classist DCUMs would you date a plumber who is rich because he owns his own company?

If he is well read, treats you well, likes what he does (for a living), runs the business well (competently, and not too many "favors"), responsible and emotionally sound - why not, OP? Do you like his personality? Is he funny and fun to be around? Is he respectful of you? Did his family treat him well, or not badly, so he does not have too much excruciating, weighted baggage from them? Do you have similar interests, do you relate to each other well? Does he have untreated addictions, anxiety, and/or depression (if it's untreated, good luck getting him help - which is why I pointed it out)? I would ask all of these questions no matter what the profession.

Most times the book-smart types have zero common sense, can't fix a damn thing in the house without causing chaos (more work - breaking appliances and/or vehicles and/or other big ticket items, causing floods in the house, causing hefty bills, etc.) and have zero EQ - the latter of which people on DCUM seem to brag about, to make it seem they are smart - but clearly not really. They can be selfish, too "inward"/self absorbed and self centered, not listen well, be exhausting more often than not, and require a lot of TLC - like little kids. Who needs that (in an adult companion)?

A nice, hard working guy who makes an honest living, good with his hands, is fun to be around, who appreciates me and treats me as his equal or better - why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's my dating philosophy. Give nearly everybody a chance. So if he was kind, and respectful, and I found him interesting and fun I definitely would date him.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Classist DCUMs would you date a plumber who is rich because he owns his own company?

If he is well read, treats you well, likes what he does (for a living), runs the business well (competently, and not too many "favors"), responsible and emotionally sound - why not, OP? Do you like his personality? Is he funny and fun to be around? Is he respectful of you? Did his family treat him well, or not badly, so he does not have too much excruciating, weighted baggage from them? Do you have similar interests, do you relate to each other well? Does he have untreated addictions, anxiety, and/or depression (if it's untreated, good luck getting him help - which is why I pointed it out)? I would ask all of these questions no matter what the profession.

Most times the book-smart types have zero common sense, can't fix a damn thing in the house without causing chaos (more work - breaking appliances and/or vehicles and/or other big ticket items, causing floods in the house, causing hefty bills, etc.) and have zero EQ - the latter of which people on DCUM seem to brag about, to make it seem they are smart - but clearly not really. They can be selfish, too "inward"/self absorbed and self centered, not listen well, be exhausting more often than not, and require a lot of TLC - like little kids. Who needs that (in an adult companion)?

A nice, hard working guy who makes an honest living, good with his hands, is fun to be around, who appreciates me and treats me as his equal or better - why not?

To add, no chips on his shoulder is a must.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would if we were compatible. I care more about interests than degrees. But I wouldn't date a man who was negative towards me for having an advanced degree and some UMC interests. Some working class families can have these close-minded, negative attitudes and that's a deal breaker for me.

That's nearly all the "liberals" i know. And just look at some the "no" responses here! They can't deal with people who are different.

PP you're responding to here. I don't disagree. I'm not even a liberal, but I've taken enough crap from DH's blue collar family and I see how these working class attitudes and prejudices against UMC run deep. I would never get into that kind of relationship again.