Would you date a rich plumber?

[Anonymous]

If he is healthy, funny, good to me and good to his employees, 100%! Over my wealthy, trust fund, Ivy educated, narcissist husband any day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Classist DCUMs would you date a plumber who is rich because he owns his own company?

If he's nice, rich and attractive, I would date him if he weren't rich...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to take an unpopular view here. But bear with me. I’ve been around a lot of the trades and while you may find yourself attracted to a specific person, it’s the entire lifestyle and their buddies that might be a problem. Construction and the trades tend to be a respectable way for people with a troubled background to make a living. Nothing wrong with that. But are you going to want to socialize with the plumber’s friends, their families, plumber’s family? It’s a different world if you’re used to a UMC background of white-collar educated people.

My friend had a high-level corp job and married a guy who owned a plumbing company. All was well until he started doing coke with his employees. They divorced and he ODd. Of course, plenty of lawyers, lobbyists, etc do coke too!

I have dated a guy who owns a construction company. He does have a past as a drug dealer, but he's turned his life around, which I find admirable.

Have to assess a person for who they are....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to take an unpopular view here. But bear with me. I’ve been around a lot of the trades and while you may find yourself attracted to a specific person, it’s the entire lifestyle and their buddies that might be a problem. Construction and the trades tend to be a respectable way for people with a troubled background to make a living. Nothing wrong with that. But are you going to want to socialize with the plumber’s friends, their families, plumber’s family? It’s a different world if you’re used to a UMC background of white-collar educated people.

If the guy is rich he will live in a nice neighborhood and hang out with rich people just like other rich people.

I live in a city that has many well-off trade and industrial workers. They have their big, expensive houses and toys but it is in a different style than the white collar UMC. There are pockets of blue-collar rich Neighborhoods and white collar rich neighborhoods. They often have different values and different ideas of fun.

My husband got tired of his desk job. He wanted to go into a field that he found more interesting and paid well without student loan debt. He wanted a chance to make more money. He loves his new job but he is mostly surrounded by guys who love Trumps, trucks, their motorcycles, and speedboats. He feels like a fish out of water but doesn’t regret changing.

I don’t think it is derogatory to say there is generally a difference between the two groups because I’m certain they would tell you so themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to take an unpopular view here. But bear with me. I’ve been around a lot of the trades and while you may find yourself attracted to a specific person, it’s the entire lifestyle and their buddies that might be a problem. Construction and the trades tend to be a respectable way for people with a troubled background to make a living. Nothing wrong with that. But are you going to want to socialize with the plumber’s friends, their families, plumber’s family? It’s a different world if you’re used to a UMC background of white-collar educated people.

+1 My parents own a water systems business for decades and have a networth of several million dollars (lot’s of big projects, including large government projects). I am married to a professor. They are significantly wealthier than us, but are strangely insecure around my husband and try to one-up us a lot regarding material things. Neither one of them went to college and are fish out of water among the educated set. You have to decide if that matters to you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if he was also kind, attractive, Good communicator and treated me w respect.

Plumbing is a solid expertise and makes good money.

[Anonymous]

People that become entrepreneurs and are successful at it become very wealthy. One of my siblings ended up with 9 pizza chains. Sold them all and is very wealthy today.


These are the people that make the real money versus the lawyers or other professions. I laugh when people talk about Big Law on here...seriously...

You could invent some silly gadget and become very rich. Or invest in a lot of real estate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People that become entrepreneurs and are successful at it become very wealthy. One of my siblings ended up with 9 pizza chains. Sold them all and is very wealthy today.


These are the people that make the real money versus the lawyers or other professions. I laugh when people talk about Big Law on here...seriously...

You could invent some silly gadget and become very rich. Or invest in a lot of real estate.

+1

And it takes real brains to build a successful business. Maybe not book smarts, but the intuitive kind of intelligence.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't date anyone if all I knew about him was his profession and his income. If the question is really would I NOT date someone because he's a plumber, that's a different question. I have a career and lots of interests and I have been involved with blue collar men before. The issue for me is whether or not he likes his job -- or at least values what it can provide him, and whether he respects mine and appreciates that my career interests genuinely drive and satisfy me. Beyond that, it's whether we share common interests and values -- which is always going to be true for any relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on his SES, not his income or net worth.

It is rare that anyone on DCUM acknowledges the "socio" aspects of SES. Pure $$$, baby.

[Anonymous]

I’m married to a trades guy who grew up in a high $$$ area in the DMV. Several of his friends from a very well regarded DMV high school also went into the trades. I think the professional aspect matters less than real compatibility factors. No regrets here! Oh and he’s not rich but we have the same salary and I’m in a white collar industry.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Would you date a rich maid???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he is healthy, funny, good to me and good to his employees, 100%! Over my wealthy, trust fund, Ivy educated, narcissist husband any day!

+1
Except my narcissist husband isn't wealthy, ivy educated, nor does he have a trust fund. So at least you got all that going for you! I literally can't afford to leave mine.