Shortage of "economically attractive" men reason for marriage decline according to new study

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is there has always been a shortage, but now women don’t need to rely on a man to survive. Easier to work than be married to a loser.

This

This. I’m a single mom making $275k. Yes f I wanted another dependent, I’d have another child. Very few men make the same salary as me, which is fine for lasting or long term relationships, but I’m not marrying financially down.

So if you started dating a super attractive, fit, kind, intelligent, funny man who happened to make 50-100k, you would turn down a proposal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is there has always been a shortage, but now women don’t need to rely on a man to survive. Easier to work than be married to a loser.

This

This. I’m a single mom making $275k. Yes f I wanted another dependent, I’d have another child. Very few men make the same salary as me, which is fine for lasting or long term relationships, but I’m not marrying financially down.

So if you started dating a super attractive, fit, kind, intelligent, funny man who happened to make 50-100k, you would turn down a proposal?

Depends on his age.

If he's making 50K at 50, there is something seriously wrong. Either he blew his 20s and 30s partying and 'finding ' himself until his parents cut him off...or he's still spending 1/4th a year finding himself when he takes summers off.

There is no good reason for someone to have good emotional intelligence but not have financially literate enough to work their way out of dead-end jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of women overlook men working in the trades.
The men I know working in the trades are making
big money and seem to be much happier than
office workers.

They are not "socially acceptable"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is there has always been a shortage, but now women don’t need to rely on a man to survive. Easier to work than be married to a loser.

This

This. I’m a single mom making $275k. Yes f I wanted another dependent, I’d have another child. Very few men make the same salary as me, which is fine for lasting or long term relationships, but I’m not marrying financially down.

Woman here: what is your profession?

Non-partner accounting firm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is there has always been a shortage, but now women don’t need to rely on a man to survive. Easier to work than be married to a loser.

This

This. I’m a single mom making $275k. Yes f I wanted another dependent, I’d have another child. Very few men make the same salary as me, which is fine for lasting or long term relationships, but I’m not marrying financially down.

So if you started dating a super attractive, fit, kind, intelligent, funny man who happened to make 50-100k, you would turn down a proposal?

Op here and I reread and view my first response as harsh and inaccurate. I’d date him and consider marrying but not without a prenup

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is there has always been a shortage, but now women don’t need to rely on a man to survive. Easier to work than be married to a loser.

This

This. I’m a single mom making $275k. Yes f I wanted another dependent, I’d have another child. Very few men make the same salary as me, which is fine for lasting or long term relationships, but I’m not marrying financially down.

So if you started dating a super attractive, fit, kind, intelligent, funny man who happened to make 50-100k, you would turn down a proposal?

Op here and I reread and view my first response as harsh and inaccurate. I’d date him and consider marrying but not without a prenup

Not ‘op’ but ‘pp’

[Anonymous]

I love my husband, and I married him because he makes me laugh. We are equal earners and he is a great partner and dad. I only wish he liked cooking and cleaning!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband, and I married him because he makes me laugh. We are equal earners and he is a great partner and dad. I only wish he liked cooking and cleaning!

ha does anyone like doing those things

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is there has always been a shortage, but now women don’t need to rely on a man to survive. Easier to work than be married to a loser.

This

This. I’m a single mom making $275k. Yes f I wanted another dependent, I’d have another child. Very few men make the same salary as me, which is fine for lasting or long term relationships, but I’m not marrying financially down.

So if you started dating a super attractive, fit, kind, intelligent, funny man who happened to make 50-100k, you would turn down a proposal?

NP- I wouldn’t have started dating him in the first place, unless he was amazing in bed (with no long-term expectation)

[Anonymous]

I'd happily marry a man who didn't make much money IF... he worked hard... was in a low-paying industry (non-profit, do-gooder, artist) AND he pulled his weight around the house. It's the men who do none of those things who end up single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband, and I married him because he makes me laugh. We are equal earners and he is a great partner and dad. I only wish he liked cooking and cleaning!

ha does anyone like doing those things

I love cooking, but I don't want to also wash dishes afterward! I also think it's nice that my friends can play with their kids while their spouse cooks, so I wish cooking wasn't always my responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is there has always been a shortage, but now women don’t need to rely on a man to survive. Easier to work than be married to a loser.

This

This. I’m a single mom making $275k. Yes f I wanted another dependent, I’d have another child. Very few men make the same salary as me, which is fine for lasting or long term relationships, but I’m not marrying financially down.

So if you started dating a super attractive, fit, kind, intelligent, funny man who happened to make 50-100k, you would turn down a proposal?

Depends on his age.

If he's making 50K at 50, there is something seriously wrong. Either he blew his 20s and 30s partying and 'finding ' himself until his parents cut him off...or he's still spending 1/4th a year finding himself when he takes summers off.

There is no good reason for someone to have good emotional intelligence but not have financially literate enough to work their way out of dead-end jobs.

Maybe he’s a teacher, police officer, fire fighter, social worker, or physical therapist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men marry women who make less money because they value sexual attraction and looks so highly.

For some reason, it works less well in the reverse. Maybe because women are less visual?

Women have less of a need for sex and are attracted to power, which poorer men don't have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd happily marry a man who didn't make much money IF... he worked hard... was in a low-paying industry (non-profit, do-gooder, artist) AND he pulled his weight around the house. It's the men who do none of those things who end up single.

Ditto! ITTA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is there has always been a shortage, but now women don’t need to rely on a man to survive. Easier to work than be married to a loser.

This

This. I’m a single mom making $275k. Yes f I wanted another dependent, I’d have another child. Very few men make the same salary as me, which is fine for lasting or long term relationships, but I’m not marrying financially down.

So if you started dating a super attractive, fit, kind, intelligent, funny man who happened to make 50-100k, you would turn down a proposal?

Depends on his age.

If he's making 50K at 50, there is something seriously wrong. Either he blew his 20s and 30s partying and 'finding ' himself until his parents cut him off...or he's still spending 1/4th a year finding himself when he takes summers off.

There is no good reason for someone to have good emotional intelligence but not have financially literate enough to work their way out of dead-end jobs.

Maybe he’s a teacher, police officer, fire fighter, social worker, or physical therapist

Their ways up the professional ladder in all those professions.