Thinking of sending my white child to Banneker

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Anonymous wrote:I would worry about bullying. Your child will be the only white kid. Will they be comfortable? Will YOU be comfortable with your kid dating black teens.

Why would you worry about bullying? Any evidence to support that?

My kid attends a majority minority school with few white kids--have never heard of any race-based bullying. Not sure why it would be any different at a high school like Banneker, filled with smart, studious kids.

NP here. I'm glad your child hasn't been singled out or bullied based on their skin color. Mine has. It has affected her quite a bit. I am not making assumptions about the social scene or potential for this to happen at Banneker but it certainly can happen, even amongst "smart, studious kids." Forgive me for not wanting my child to experience it again.

PP here. I'm sorry for your child's experience--did this happen in the DC area? I haven't heard of white kids getting bullied at any schools around here.

My kid is actually not white, but has a few close white friends. They've all been buddies since PK3. From speaking with their parents over the years, I've never heard of any race-based bullying at our school.

Not saying it couldn't happen, but I would be very, very surprised. I wouldn't automatically assume this is a systemic problem at majority minority schools.

My kid's definitely been called "cracker", "white trash", etc... but that usually starts in middle-school. Never had any issues in elementary school. I'd prefer that weren't the case, but it's all part of the middle school experience, which is generally hellish anywhere. My biggest fear is they'll respond "in-kind" at some point and end up becoming History's Greatest Villain.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would worry about bullying. Your child will be the only white kid. Will they be comfortable? Will YOU be comfortable with your kid dating black teens.

Why would you worry about bullying? Any evidence to support that?

My kid attends a majority minority school with few white kids--have never heard of any race-based bullying. Not sure why it would be any different at a high school like Banneker, filled with smart, studious kids.

NP here. I'm glad your child hasn't been singled out or bullied based on their skin color. Mine has. It has affected her quite a bit. I am not making assumptions about the social scene or potential for this to happen at Banneker but it certainly can happen, even amongst "smart, studious kids." Forgive me for not wanting my child to experience it again.

PP here. I'm sorry for your child's experience--did this happen in the DC area? I haven't heard of white kids getting bullied at any schools around here.

My kid is actually not white, but has a few close white friends. They've all been buddies since PK3. From speaking with their parents over the years, I've never heard of any race-based bullying at our school.

Not saying it couldn't happen, but I would be very, very surprised. I wouldn't automatically assume this is a systemic problem at majority minority schools.

My kid's definitely been called "cracker", "white trash", etc... but that usually starts in middle-school. Never had any issues in elementary school. I'd prefer that weren't the case, but it's all part of the middle school experience, which is generally hellish anywhere. My biggest fear is they'll respond "in-kind" at some point and end up becoming History's Greatest Villain.

Fair point, and a reason why my kids won't be in that crowd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would worry about bullying. Your child will be the only white kid. Will they be comfortable? Will YOU be comfortable with your kid dating black teens.

Why would you worry about bullying? Any evidence to support that?

My kid attends a majority minority school with few white kids--have never heard of any race-based bullying. Not sure why it would be any different at a high school like Banneker, filled with smart, studious kids.

NP here. I'm glad your child hasn't been singled out or bullied based on their skin color. Mine has. It has affected her quite a bit. I am not making assumptions about the social scene or potential for this to happen at Banneker but it certainly can happen, even amongst "smart, studious kids." Forgive me for not wanting my child to experience it again.

PP here. I'm sorry for your child's experience--did this happen in the DC area? I haven't heard of white kids getting bullied at any schools around here.

yes - you're white self is the real victim of multi-generational institutional racism
My kid is actually not white, but has a few close white friends. They've all been buddies since PK3. From speaking with their parents over the years, I've never heard of any race-based bullying at our school.

Not saying it couldn't happen, but I would be very, very surprised. I wouldn't automatically assume this is a systemic problem at majority minority schools.

My kid's definitely been called "cracker", "white trash", etc... but that usually starts in middle-school. Never had any issues in elementary school. I'd prefer that weren't the case, but it's all part of the middle school experience, which is generally hellish anywhere. My biggest fear is they'll respond "in-kind" at some point and end up becoming History's Greatest Villain.

[Anonymous]

I'm white. My kids are a long ways away from high school. But, assuming they can get in, they're going to Banneker. We don't care about it being mostly black. We just want them to go to a good school and we can't afford privates or to live near Wilson. My kids have never gone to a school where they weren't in the minority. I think it's good for them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would worry about bullying. Your child will be the only white kid. Will they be comfortable? Will YOU be comfortable with your kid dating black teens.

Why would you worry about bullying? Any evidence to support that?

My kid attends a majority minority school with few white kids--have never heard of any race-based bullying. Not sure why it would be any different at a high school like Banneker, filled with smart, studious kids.

NP here. I'm glad your child hasn't been singled out or bullied based on their skin color. Mine has. It has affected her quite a bit. I am not making assumptions about the social scene or potential for this to happen at Banneker but it certainly can happen, even amongst "smart, studious kids." Forgive me for not wanting my child to experience it again.

PP here. I'm sorry for your child's experience--did this happen in the DC area? I haven't heard of white kids getting bullied at any schools around here.

My kid is actually not white, but has a few close white friends. They've all been buddies since PK3. From speaking with their parents over the years, I've never heard of any race-based bullying at our school.

Not saying it couldn't happen, but I would be very, very surprised. I wouldn't automatically assume this is a systemic problem at majority minority schools.

My kid's definitely been called "cracker", "white trash", etc... but that usually starts in middle-school. Never had any issues in elementary school. I'd prefer that weren't the case, but it's all part of the middle school experience, which is generally hellish anywhere. My biggest fear is they'll respond "in-kind" at some point and end up becoming History's Greatest Villain.

Fair point, and a reason why my kids won't be in that crowd.

(My Latino kids, before the typical SJWs start sharing the typical American racist BS)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would worry about bullying. Your child will be the only white kid. Will they be comfortable? Will YOU be comfortable with your kid dating black teens.

Why would you worry about bullying? Any evidence to support that?

My kid attends a majority minority school with few white kids--have never heard of any race-based bullying. Not sure why it would be any different at a high school like Banneker, filled with smart, studious kids.

NP here. I'm glad your child hasn't been singled out or bullied based on their skin color. Mine has. It has affected her quite a bit. I am not making assumptions about the social scene or potential for this to happen at Banneker but it certainly can happen, even amongst "smart, studious kids." Forgive me for not wanting my child to experience it again.

PP here. I'm sorry for your child's experience--did this happen in the DC area? I haven't heard of white kids getting bullied at any schools around here.


My kid is actually not white, but has a few close white friends. They've all been buddies since PK3. From speaking with their parents over the years, I've never heard of any race-based bullying at our school.

Not saying it couldn't happen, but I would be very, very surprised. I wouldn't automatically assume this is a systemic problem at majority minority schools.

My kid's definitely been called "cracker", "white trash", etc... but that usually starts in middle-school. Never had any issues in elementary school. I'd prefer that weren't the case, but it's all part of the middle school experience, which is generally hellish anywhere. My biggest fear is they'll respond "in-kind" at some point and end up becoming History's Greatest Villain.

yes - you're white self is the real victim of multi-generational institutional racism

That's not what I'm saying. Obviously the fact that my kid catches occasional shit from their middle school peers for being white isn't the crime of the century. But it's definitely a thing. If it weren't whiteness it'd be their haircut. If it wasn't the haircut, it'd be clothes. That's just what middle school is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would worry about bullying. Your child will be the only white kid. Will they be comfortable? Will YOU be comfortable with your kid dating black teens.

Why would you worry about bullying? Any evidence to support that?

My kid attends a majority minority school with few white kids--have never heard of any race-based bullying. Not sure why it would be any different at a high school like Banneker, filled with smart, studious kids.

NP here. I'm glad your child hasn't been singled out or bullied based on their skin color. Mine has. It has affected her quite a bit. I am not making assumptions about the social scene or potential for this to happen at Banneker but it certainly can happen, even amongst "smart, studious kids." Forgive me for not wanting my child to experience it again.

PP here. I'm sorry for your child's experience--did this happen in the DC area? I haven't heard of white kids getting bullied at any schools around here.


My kid is actually not white, but has a few close white friends. They've all been buddies since PK3. From speaking with their parents over the years, I've never heard of any race-based bullying at our school.

Not saying it couldn't happen, but I would be very, very surprised. I wouldn't automatically assume this is a systemic problem at majority minority schools.

My kid's definitely been called "cracker", "white trash", etc... but that usually starts in middle-school. Never had any issues in elementary school. I'd prefer that weren't the case, but it's all part of the middle school experience, which is generally hellish anywhere. My biggest fear is they'll respond "in-kind" at some point and end up becoming History's Greatest Villain.

yes - you're white self is the real victim of multi-generational institutional racism

That's not what I'm saying. Obviously the fact that my kid catches occasional shit from their middle school peers for being white isn't the crime of the century. But it's definitely a thing. If it weren't whiteness it'd be their haircut. If it wasn't the haircut, it'd be clothes. That's just what middle school is.

Exactly. Saying it doesn’t happen is ignoring the truth.

A friend’s fourth grader was called a little white brat for standing up to a kid who was being mean to another kid.

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Dude white people come to DC not thinking as a majority or plurality of Americans how they can not be most of whoever is around. Then they live in Upper Upper which is still mostly white. I’m white and yeah it takes a minute to get used to being a minority - but it’s FINE. Your kid being in a school that’s mostly black or now mixed black and Hispanic is FINE. Sure. Cultural commonalities to be honest May not be as strong as some other situations but - don’t you LIKE doing new and interesting things and meeting new people? Isn’t a more unified American society something good we can pass onto our kids? It’s weird to say something like this but maybe it’s necessary: do not be afraid of black people. Just - don’t let your willingness to mix along that axis be part of your life. Move on. Your kids are going to be FINE.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude white people come to DC not thinking as a majority or plurality of Americans how they can not be most of whoever is around. Then they live in Upper Upper which is still mostly white. I’m white and yeah it takes a minute to get used to being a minority - but it’s FINE. Your kid being in a school that’s mostly black or now mixed black and Hispanic is FINE. Sure. Cultural commonalities to be honest May not be as strong as some other situations but - don’t you LIKE doing new and interesting things and meeting new people? Isn’t a more unified American society something good we can pass onto our kids? It’s weird to say something like this but maybe it’s necessary: do not be afraid of black people. Just - don’t let your willingness to mix along that axis be part of your life. Move on. Your kids are going to be FINE.

It is because at some level, the white people posting still do not see minorities as people and peers. They don’t realize that if their kids go to school with all white kids they will be picked on for being fat, or ugly, or stupid, or smart, or whatever characteristic that sets them apart from others. But the fear of being called a cracker is a worse fear...uh ok?!

[Anonymous]

Well there’s a difference between being stigmatized for an individual trait — fat, lazy, stupid, etc — and being stigmatized because you’re part of a racial or ethnic group, which is something you can’t escape no matter what you do.

[Anonymous]

This thread proves that white people are afraid of dealing with the systemic injustices they have created which may now affect their kids. "History's Greatest Villian" implies your child may use the n word. Seems like we might be using this language at home and worried it might slip out. White folks are always worried about how blacks will treat them but don't have any concerns for teaching themselves and their children about how to treat others with respect. Dcum always supports the racist and ignorant tropes about black people - even our best students are assumed to bully a white child? Why? Just because if a black kid is a minority in an all white school, the white kids will bully him/her so of course black people will do the same. Ridiculous!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would worry about bullying. Your child will be the only white kid. Will they be comfortable? Will YOU be comfortable with your kid dating black teens.

Why would you worry about bullying? Any evidence to support that?

My kid attends a majority minority school with few white kids--have never heard of any race-based bullying. Not sure why it would be any different at a high school like Banneker, filled with smart, studious kids.

NP here. I'm glad your child hasn't been singled out or bullied based on their skin color. Mine has. It has affected her quite a bit. I am not making assumptions about the social scene or potential for this to happen at Banneker but it certainly can happen, even amongst "smart, studious kids." Forgive me for not wanting my child to experience it again.

PP here. I'm sorry for your child's experience--did this happen in the DC area? I haven't heard of white kids getting bullied at any schools around here.


My kid is actually not white, but has a few close white friends. They've all been buddies since PK3. From speaking with their parents over the years, I've never heard of any race-based bullying at our school.

Not saying it couldn't happen, but I would be very, very surprised. I wouldn't automatically assume this is a systemic problem at majority minority schools.

My kid's definitely been called "cracker", "white trash", etc... but that usually starts in middle-school. Never had any issues in elementary school. I'd prefer that weren't the case, but it's all part of the middle school experience, which is generally hellish anywhere. My biggest fear is they'll respond "in-kind" at some point and end up becoming History's Greatest Villain.

yes - you're white self is the real victim of multi-generational institutional racism

That's not what I'm saying. Obviously the fact that my kid catches occasional shit from their middle school peers for being white isn't the crime of the century. But it's definitely a thing. If it weren't whiteness it'd be their haircut. If it wasn't the haircut, it'd be clothes. That's just what middle school is.

Exactly. Saying it doesn’t happen is ignoring the truth.

A friend’s fourth grader was called a little white brat for standing up to a kid who was being mean to another kid.

+1.

Parents know what is going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread proves that white people are afraid of dealing with the systemic injustices they have created which may now affect their kids. "History's Greatest Villian" implies your child may use the n word. Seems like we might be using this language at home and worried it might slip out. White folks are always worried about how blacks will treat them but don't have any concerns for teaching themselves and their children about how to treat others with respect. Dcum always supports the racist and ignorant tropes about black people - even our best students are assumed to bully a white child? Why? Just because if a black kid is a minority in an all white school, the white kids will bully him/her so of course black people will do the same. Ridiculous!

Nobody in DC uses the “n word” at home. The only people who use are (probably elderly) good ol’ boys from Trump country, rappers, and wannabe rappers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread proves that white people are afraid of dealing with the systemic injustices they have created which may now affect their kids. "History's Greatest Villian" implies your child may use the n word. Seems like we might be using this language at home and worried it might slip out. White folks are always worried about how blacks will treat them but don't have any concerns for teaching themselves and their children about how to treat others with respect. Dcum always supports the racist and ignorant tropes about black people - even our best students are assumed to bully a white child? Why? Just because if a black kid is a minority in an all white school, the white kids will bully him/her so of course black people will do the same. Ridiculous!

You make some pretty sweeping generalizations in your post. Are you saying all white people feel and behave this way? Are you saying all black kids in majority white schools will be bullied for being black? Are you saying that no white kid in a majority black school will be bullied for being white?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread proves that white people are afraid of dealing with the systemic injustices they have created which may now affect their kids. "History's Greatest Villian" implies your child may use the n word. Seems like we might be using this language at home and worried it might slip out. White folks are always worried about how blacks will treat them but don't have any concerns for teaching themselves and their children about how to treat others with respect. Dcum always supports the racist and ignorant tropes about black people - even our best students are assumed to bully a white child? Why? Just because if a black kid is a minority in an all white school, the white kids will bully him/her so of course black people will do the same. Ridiculous!

Nobody in DC uses the “n word” at home. The only people who use are (probably elderly) good ol’ boys from Trump country, rappers, and wannabe rappers.

I can imagine the word does get used at home but to assume everyone uses it and is so worried that might get out there is just fantasy. In my neighborhood, I have heard it more from the black kids than the white kids.