Totally crazy story: a "cult" at Sarah Lawrence College

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Anonymous wrote:How on earth did the school allow this man to live there? When you rent a house, there’s usually a clause limiting the number of times someone not in the lease can stay over. How does a college allow an adult to basically move in to a dorm?

Sophomore year, a girl on my floor was dating a much older guy. At least late 30s. Possibly early 40s. Not a hot professor type. He looked like a sad dad. He typically stayed over 1-2 nights a week. She discovered he was married (shocker) and booted him out one night around 2 am. We didn’t see him for 6 weeks. Then, he returned and actually moved into her dorm room. His wife had kicked him out. I remember that we all talked about them, but to my knowledge no one reported it to Res Life. He lived in our dorm for about 2.5 months. This was definitely not allowed, but I think we all just wanted to see how it panned out.

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Anonymous wrote:The one chick, Claudia, has a pretty nutso website - looks like it is still active:

https://claudiadrury.com/

Holy shit! That is crazy.

But it’s run bySari FEldman. Who is she?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm waiting for this story to be rolling stoned. Seems like if no one else can verify there are holes a mile wide.

Read the comments on the article-Larry seems to be posting and it is completely crazy (and consistent with the story.)

[Anonymous]

Bumping this. I do not understand why this is not getting more coverage. Are any other outlets covering it? Has the school responded?

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Anonymous wrote:How on earth did the school allow this man to live there? When you rent a house, there’s usually a clause limiting the number of times someone not in the lease can stay over. How does a college allow an adult to basically move in to a dorm?

Sophomore year, a girl on my floor was dating a much older guy. At least late 30s. Possibly early 40s. Not a hot professor type. He looked like a sad dad. He typically stayed over 1-2 nights a week. She discovered he was married (shocker) and booted him out one night around 2 am. We didn’t see him for 6 weeks. Then, he returned and actually moved into her dorm room. His wife had kicked him out. I remember that we all talked about them, but to my knowledge no one reported it to Res Life. He lived in our dorm for about 2.5 months. This was definitely not allowed, but I think we all just wanted to see how it panned out.

That's crazy. I was trying to think of how the SL thing could have worked out that way, so I ask -- was there an RA on the floor? Usually there is. Didn't that person notice? Did the building have security and security guards to check in? My dorm required a card to swipe in and there were usually security guards hanging around. They recognized most people by face. I think they would have questioned a 40-something man who kept coming in and out, as he would have stood out as not a student!

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Anonymous wrote:How on earth did the school allow this man to live there? When you rent a house, there’s usually a clause limiting the number of times someone not in the lease can stay over. How does a college allow an adult to basically move in to a dorm?

Sophomore year, a girl on my floor was dating a much older guy. At least late 30s. Possibly early 40s. Not a hot professor type. He looked like a sad dad. He typically stayed over 1-2 nights a week. She discovered he was married (shocker) and booted him out one night around 2 am. We didn’t see him for 6 weeks. Then, he returned and actually moved into her dorm room. His wife had kicked him out. I remember that we all talked about them, but to my knowledge no one reported it to Res Life. He lived in our dorm for about 2.5 months. This was definitely not allowed, but I think we all just wanted to see how it panned out.

That's crazy. I was trying to think of how the SL thing could have worked out that way, so I ask -- was there an RA on the floor? Usually there is. Didn't that person notice? Did the building have security and security guards to check in? My dorm required a card to swipe in and there were usually security guards hanging around. They recognized most people by face. I think they would have questioned a 40-something man who kept coming in and out, as he would have stood out as not a student!

I posted earlier about touring SLC last fall. The college seems to have some dorms that are actually houses right on the edge of campus (as in, single-family homes that maybe SLC bought up as they went on the market--?). I wonder if the dorm Slonim (named in the article) is one of those; they seem like they could probably house only a relative small group of students and might not have room for any "resident faculty" living quarters, which tend to be larger living spaces. Also, not every college puts an RA into every small dorm. Don't know if there was anything like a RA living in Slonim at that time (these students were at SLC in the early 2010s mostly if I read the article right).

I can see how this situation might happen especially if all the students were under his sway, or not under his sway but a bit scared of him, or...worst of all, apathetic. Parents, let's teach our supposedly independent young adults to BE adult and REPORT crap that seems odd (or violates rules like, no non-students living in dorms) because they may be helping someone like these vulnerable students who got sucked in by this sicko. I'm sure many college students just tell themselves, this situation might seem weird but I don't want to judge, i don't want to interfere, I might be wrong, I want to tolerate all kinds of relationships, I don't want to get the student into trouble, etc. So they do as the PP above did -- nothing-- and don't report things.

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Anonymous wrote:How on earth did the school allow this man to live there? When you rent a house, there’s usually a clause limiting the number of times someone not in the lease can stay over. How does a college allow an adult to basically move in to a dorm?

Sophomore year, a girl on my floor was dating a much older guy. At least late 30s. Possibly early 40s. Not a hot professor type. He looked like a sad dad. He typically stayed over 1-2 nights a week. She discovered he was married (shocker) and booted him out one night around 2 am. We didn’t see him for 6 weeks. Then, he returned and actually moved into her dorm room. His wife had kicked him out. I remember that we all talked about them, but to my knowledge no one reported it to Res Life. He lived in our dorm for about 2.5 months. This was definitely not allowed, but I think we all just wanted to see how it panned out.

That's crazy. I was trying to think of how the SL thing could have worked out that way, so I ask -- was there an RA on the floor? Usually there is. Didn't that person notice? Did the building have security and security guards to check in? My dorm required a card to swipe in and there were usually security guards hanging around. They recognized most people by face. I think they would have questioned a 40-something man who kept coming in and out, as he would have stood out as not a student!

I posted earlier about touring SLC last fall. The college seems to have some dorms that are actually houses right on the edge of campus (as in, single-family homes that maybe SLC bought up as they went on the market--?). I wonder if the dorm Slonim (named in the article) is one of those; they seem like they could probably house only a relative small group of students and might not have room for any "resident faculty" living quarters, which tend to be larger living spaces. Also, not every college puts an RA into every small dorm. Don't know if there was anything like a RA living in Slonim at that time (these students were at SLC in the early 2010s mostly if I read the article right).

I can see how this situation might happen especially if all the students were under his sway, or not under his sway but a bit scared of him, or...worst of all, apathetic. Parents, let's teach our supposedly independent young adults to BE adult and REPORT crap that seems odd (or violates rules like, no non-students living in dorms) because they may be helping someone like these vulnerable students who got sucked in by this sicko. I'm sure many college students just tell themselves, this situation might seem weird but I don't want to judge, i don't want to interfere, I might be wrong, I want to tolerate all kinds of relationships, I don't want to get the student into trouble, etc. So they do as the PP above did -- nothing-- and don't report things.

But this was reported to the school, by at least one of the parents. The school did nothing in response.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The one chick, Claudia, has a pretty nutso website - looks like it is still active:

https://claudiadrury.com/

Holy shit! That is crazy.

pretty sure that is the cult posting as her. so sad.

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I am surpised this hasn't been picked up - it's made for cnn clicks.

Perhaps there are problems with the reporting.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vulture.com/amp/2019/05/mark-wahlberg-to-adapt-the-stolen-kids-of-sarah-lawrence.html

wow - skip the news cycle and go strait to TV. I hope they make Walberg as gross looking as the Larry guy, 'cause you know if he comes off as attractive that will just fuel his ego mania.

Still I don't understand how no one is touching this. Fox news? Come on, they love this shit. I wonder if threats from the colleges' lawyers are making other news outlets double check things first?

and for the previous poster, I don't blame his daughter, who is his greatest victim. He alone needs to go to jail and the college needs to pay the kids' famileis for not doing the basic due dilligence in protecting them.

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Anonymous wrote:How on earth did the school allow this man to live there? When you rent a house, there’s usually a clause limiting the number of times someone not in the lease can stay over. How does a college allow an adult to basically move in to a dorm?

Seriously. A grown man (a parent no less) MOVES IN to a dorm -- nobody says anything? There are not security guards, RAs, resident deans or anything? Or other students did not complain?

It wasn't a dorm. It was off campus housing. The landlord went to court to get this guy evicted eventually.

Liar, LIAR, pants on fire!
The article says it was ON their campus!

You're both right...the father was living in the dorms first and then they moved into an apartment. The landlord for the apartment went to court to have them evicted.

That still doesn't answer why SLC didn't get the father the hell out of dorm. I would have hoped that someone there would find it odd and disturbing that a convict father is living in a dorm - to okay on any level! SLC has some explaining to do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How on earth did the school allow this man to live there? When you rent a house, there’s usually a clause limiting the number of times someone not in the lease can stay over. How does a college allow an adult to basically move in to a dorm?

Sophomore year, a girl on my floor was dating a much older guy. At least late 30s. Possibly early 40s. Not a hot professor type. He looked like a sad dad. He typically stayed over 1-2 nights a week. She discovered he was married (shocker) and booted him out one night around 2 am. We didn’t see him for 6 weeks. Then, he returned and actually moved into her dorm room. His wife had kicked him out. I remember that we all talked about them, but to my knowledge no one reported it to Res Life. He lived in our dorm for about 2.5 months. This was definitely not allowed, but I think we all just wanted to see how it panned out.

That's crazy. I was trying to think of how the SL thing could have worked out that way, so I ask -- was there an RA on the floor? Usually there is. Didn't that person notice? Did the building have security and security guards to check in? My dorm required a card to swipe in and there were usually security guards hanging around. They recognized most people by face. I think they would have questioned a 40-something man who kept coming in and out, as he would have stood out as not a student!

I posted earlier about touring SLC last fall. The college seems to have some dorms that are actually houses right on the edge of campus (as in, single-family homes that maybe SLC bought up as they went on the market--?). I wonder if the dorm Slonim (named in the article) is one of those; they seem like they could probably house only a relative small group of students and might not have room for any "resident faculty" living quarters, which tend to be larger living spaces. Also, not every college puts an RA into every small dorm. Don't know if there was anything like a RA living in Slonim at that time (these students were at SLC in the early 2010s mostly if I read the article right).

I can see how this situation might happen especially if all the students were under his sway, or not under his sway but a bit scared of him, or...worst of all, apathetic. Parents, let's teach our supposedly independent young adults to BE adult and REPORT crap that seems odd (or violates rules like, no non-students living in dorms) because they may be helping someone like these vulnerable students who got sucked in by this sicko. I'm sure many college students just tell themselves, this situation might seem weird but I don't want to judge, i don't want to interfere, I might be wrong, I want to tolerate all kinds of relationships, I don't want to get the student into trouble, etc. So they do as the PP above did -- nothing-- and don't report things.

But this was reported to the school, by at least one of the parents. The school did nothing in response.

That does not give students a pass on reporting it themselves if they thought something was wrong.

If students had reported the guy living full-time in the dorm, the school might have finally taken a little action at the time, adding up parent complaints plus student complaints.

It's possible of course that there were some reports from students to the administration or the security staff and the article does not mention those reports. If it turns out that there were student complaints -- it makes the college look even worse for doing nothing, if it's possible for the college to look worse.

Agree with others above that I'm surprised we haven't at least seen reporting elsewhere, if only of the "New York magazine had a story that said this" type. Maybe other, bigger outlets are checking out the reporting for themselves and will cover this, or maybe they figure there's no further story to report and the magazine story had all that there is to say. But based on this thread I think MANY readers want to know what Sarah Lawrence has to say for itself. I know the events were some years ago but if I had a kid there now, I'd be very leery of anything the college said about its security or supervision of its physical facilities.

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Anyone else sorry they wasted valuable time reading this gross stupidity?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How on earth did the school allow this man to live there? When you rent a house, there’s usually a clause limiting the number of times someone not in the lease can stay over. How does a college allow an adult to basically move in to a dorm?

Seriously. A grown man (a parent no less) MOVES IN to a dorm -- nobody says anything? There are not security guards, RAs, resident deans or anything? Or other students did not complain?

It wasn't a dorm. It was off campus housing. The landlord went to court to get this guy evicted eventually.

no that was after the dorm, when they were living on 93rd street. Goodness. Please protect my kids from drugs, metal illness, and cults. I can deal with anything else.

Not a chance I’d send a child to Sarah Lawrence College. Not a chance....