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You're also not really doing a favor to your kid by pushing them into a school where they will need MORE accommodations. Teach him to accept and compensate for his weaknesses. If he's a "bright kid" and a "hardworker," he'll do just fine. |
There is a huge difference in just average kids and some of ours that have serious life long struggles. I hope my child will be more successful as he's had to fight and work harder than most other kids BUT, he can only do it as we have put a lot of time and money into getting him to where he needs to be. If a parent comes in at the 9th hour demanding accommodations for testing, then no, but some of our kids have had real challenges since birth. We've spent a fortune and put everything we have into making our kid that resilient kid who can work through it... you make it sound so simple. I wish it was. You have no idea what goes on behind the scenes in some families. We aren't talking about a parent in 9th who gets the kid tested for extra time.. that is fraud, but for some of us, instead of that nice house, fancy cars, nice vacations, we have huge therapy and tutoring bills and lucky for some of us, all that is working enough to get our kids to a higher functioning level. |
| The problem here are that the stakes are too damn high. Getting into an elite college does give you a much bigger leg up in life so parents rationally try to do whatever they can to increase the odds their kid will get in. |
My child is bright and a hard worker and is just fine right now BUT he is just fine because of all the help he gets at home and outside supports. He gets NOTHING at school. The IEP was so bad it was doing more harm than good so we removed it. But, reality is my child because of what is going on will always struggle, so fine is relative. You really don't understand some challenges and I'm not talking ASD/ADHD. |
Some of us are doing what we do just to get our kids to and through college, its not just about elite schools. |
Yes. I remember that thread. She was absolutely giddy about it. She seemed delighted in rubbing it in everyone’s faces that her ds got extra time. Something like “he would only get a 30 with no extra time”. Yes. You can take a bright kid’s 30 and turn it into 35 with extra time. But the 30 is more accurate. It’s a good score. And there’s no shame in it. |
Professor here. This is the issue I see. We should be preparing students for the real world. The real world is scary. There are people who will disagree with you. You may see a confederate flag or hear hateful words. I'm not for shoving this into students' faces, but having to put "trigger warnings" in a syllabus about how Hucleberry Finn contains the n-word seems a bit much. |
You don't do neuropsych testing if everything is ok starting in 2nd grade. Do you realize the costs involved for the average family? You have no idea what some of the challenges some of our kids face. |
Well that's the same thing. The difference in earning power between a kid who goes to college and one who doesn't is tremendous. If it was possible to make a living wage without a college degree, there would be a lot less pressure for all this maneuvering. |
| My oldest daughter took a math class at her elite NE boarding school where 40% of the kids had IEP/extra time. She found it frustrating because as she was struggling, there were many kids with bogus “disabilities” that had twice as much time to take tests. |
The problem now is kids aren't prepared because the schools are not preparing them. The curriculum at MCPS is very poor. They don't teach basics like spelling, grammar or vocabulary, which all impact writing skills. They are so focused in math on strategies that they don't teach kids just to get the problems done. There is very little literature and almost no history or science in the elementary school level. There are no tests (or none beyond standardized testing) so kids don't learn to take notes or test taking skills. There is no preparation for the real world or even college anymore. |
My husband went to a no name school and is doing very well. I know others who go to Ivy's doing far worse. It really depends on the person, degree and in some professions ability to learn and actual skill. Some do amazingly well without degrees. Degrees and Ivy's aren't anything. My husband out earns my Ivy league sibling who is a doctor. |
NP here. I think the trouble is that there's no black and white line for what constitutes a disability and where that leads you. DSM has many diagnostic criteria but its up to an individual doctor to make a qualitative assessment and it's a gray area at best for most learning and emotional issues. My personal concern isn't that your kid gets accommodations or and IEP or whatever to help him. My concern is that there are millions of other kids who don't get that help. |
Then why put a time limit on the test for any kids? My DS's processing speed score was 29th percentile, but he never got a diagnosis or accommodation for anything. He sure could use extra time on tests though. |