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Toddlers and preschoolers using bottles and pacifiers?
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Anonymous
| It never ceases to AMAZE ME how incredibly judgemental people on this board can be. My father was a dentist, I kept my paci until I was* GASP* 3 years old. I never needed braces or a speech pathologist, and I never graduated to sucking my thumb. My son is now 14 months old, I happily let him use his pacifier as much as he wants and it hasn't delayed his speech at all. I happen to have a very good friend that is a speech pathologist and she says all this recent research to "prolonged paci use" is extremely biased sided and the results are limited by several other external factors. When my son has something to say, he removes the paci, says it, then pops it right back in his mouth. He weaned himself off his bottle at 11 months old, if he wants his damn paci until his 10 years old and looks"stupid", so be it ! It's fine if that isn't the path you want your child to follow, but quit judging others who happen to have a difference of opinion. |
Anonymous
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I found it interesting that one way to get a child to stop sucking thumb their thumb or fingers, is to switch them to a paci. Once the child has the paci, they are then timed, and use it less and less.
I think that there comes a time when baby-type behaviors are kept at home. I didn't walk around nursing my children in public after they were a year old. If they were thirsty they were quite capable of having a drink of water from a sippy cup. If they were hungry, I could give them Cheerios, or other snacks. While they did not have allergies, I still didn't want them to eat a lot of the convenience foods out there, and I always brought my own snacks. That said, I think a lot of it has to do with there being a specific way to behave in public. As adults we wear clothes, and not pajamas, when out shopping, we usually brush our hair, and have a certain standard of appearance that is acceptable. |
Anonymous
| wrong PP< you have your standards of what is acceptable public behavior and i have mine...that is the beauty of this country, we can totally disagree on this and in fact our society tolerates many forms of "socially appropriate" behavior...i've had a nose ring, sometimes dont brush my hair and nursed my 2yo in public, oh , and i have a tattoo, and i'm in a mixed race marriage-=many of these choice would not be "acceptable" to others, but oh well, i tolerate the choices others make and they typically tolerate mine...dont let the sight of a toddler sucking on a paci keep you up at night, there are many more pressing children's health issues you could tackle if you are in fact concerned about the longterm health and development of children in this country and abroad! |
Anonymous
Amen, poster! These parents preoccupied with other babies' oral issues are absolutely bizarre. |
Anonymous
Rock on, PP!! 2:00pp - you just keep worrying about whether you've brushed your hair or not and whether you look appropriate in public and leave the important issues to the rest of us. |
Anonymous
GOD...nobody here is looking for validation from you. We just want you to keep your uninformed and judgmental opinions to yourself. Yay for you that you're so proud of yourself for doing the hard, hard work of setting limits. Boo for you for assuming that a decision to allow paci or bottle use automatically means a shitty lazy parent whose only objective is to keep their child from whining. Where in hell do you get off with that crap? |
Anonymous
| what you call "setting limits and boundaries" by refusing to allow your child to meet his oral needs with a paci or blankie or breast, i call cruel...check out the attachment parenting theories, from 0-3, a child's primary needs for proximity to parent, love, oral needs etc is in fact a pure need=a drive, and not a manipulation, you may want to brush up on child development or pediatric mental health..it's not all about how good you look as a parent, it's about whats in the best interest of your child!! |
Anonymous
Talk about judgemental. Please, you can't tell me that I am wrong, and then tell me that other people have other standards of acceptence. You feel free to nurse that two year old in public, but trust me, it goes past what people are comfortable with, and it does effect them, as they are subjected to it. It is different than nursing a baby, because so many people have the perception of sexuality associated with the breast, and it fully and truly creeps people out. I nursed passed the two year mark myself, I just either nursed them in the car or had them wait until we got home. While I have not chosen to have a tattoo or nose ring, it still didn't stop me from marrying outside my race. What I am saying is that there is a certain level of acceptable behaviour in public. A normal healthy four year old, acting like an infant, isn't one of them. By most standards. The discussion isn't about one and two year olds, it's about three and four year olds, and there is a huge difference in development there. This isn't something that keeps me up at night, but it does cause me to roll my eyes a bit, and wonder why. |
Anonymous
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couldnt it just be as simple as the fact that these 3 and 4yo's are soothed by their blankie or bottle, and so who really cares? honestly, they will stop using a bottle and paci soon enough, kindergarteners are so peer influenced, that these children will decide on their own to stop doing things that make them seem "babyish"...but honestly if a younger toddler wants a blankie or paci=i really dont understand why or how this ennerves you so much...
and FYI, those who are creeped out by me nursing my 2yo in public b/c they see it as sexual=are the ones that creep me out-that kind of perverted thinking is quite dangerous yet clearly prevelant-the dominant belief that a breast is only sexual... |
Anonymous
I agree with this -- it is very creepy because it is really sexualizing toddlers isn't it? I mean, on some level, to feel that it's okay for a 6 month old to nurse but suddenly NOT okay for a 2 year old to nurse "because breasts are sexual", is to suggest or think that the innocent little toddler is having a sexual experience when he or she nurses. |
Anonymous
The toddler isn't the one having a sexual experience-I think it is the mother! And, yes, it is creepy when you are nursing a 2 year old that should be perfectly capable to eat solid foods and drink from a cup. What are you trying to prove? And at what age do you feel it is unacceptable to breastfeed in public? |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| It's never acceptable to BF in public. Like a prior poster mentioned...what are you trying to prove? It is a BOOB and men are conditioned to see boobs as toys--not a source of food. You can't change their biology, so when they are glancing at you, don't think they are thinking what a wonderfully progressive mom you are, they are just trying to catch a glimpse. BF is good-but do it privately. |
Anonymous
No one said anything about blankies, but bottles and paci's. These are things that are for babies, not for small children. You seem to keep reverting back to younger toddlers, but they are not who is being spoken about here. My children were able to clearly speak and let their needs and wants known by the age of two, one speaking as well as, and with the vocabulary of, and 8 year old. While she did't have the maturity level of an 8 year old, I couldn't see babying someone of her caliber. Many, many people are creeped out with women nursing their children in public, newborns or not. Once it gets past a year of age, it is really disturbing to some people, that's just the way it is. OTHER PEOPLE see the breast as a sexual object, and that is why they get creeped out. I don't think it has anything with the mother or the child getting any sexual kicks from it, that's just nasty. |
Anonymous
Get a grip. Pumping never worked for me, and bottles were always refused. What should I have done? Lived sequestered for a year? |