Do mid 30s divorced women with children have any hope of finding someone in their age bracket?

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Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Married a woman older than him with three kids, sucker. "incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. Friend-zoned him.........amazing connection" translates to i found a safe provider after I had the men I wanted to b.

This story would be impressive if pp was divorced at 38 and not 28. Much easier to date and find a guy when you are in your late 20ties and early 30ties and many more single, childless, never married men too.

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Yes. It makes a difference. But when you have kids, it tends to scare away men who don't have kids yet.

Looks matter too. I know divorced women with 3 kids in their twenties who have no problem at all finding men to date. All pretty and slim. The guy may not want to marry them but find them very f able.

The threshold of f able is not very high, it is the work to f ratio that counts.

[Anonymous]

No one would ever say this about a father. Ever!

yeah, I'm still waiting for all those threads about how selfish it is for divorced dads to date.

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No one would ever say this about a father. Ever!

yeah, I'm still waiting for all those threads about how selfish it is for divorced dads to date.

To be fair, "date" means different things to men and women. To me, as a divorced dad, "date" means spend just enough time with her so she f*cks.

[Anonymous]

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No one would ever say this about a father. Ever!

yeah, I'm still waiting for all those threads about how selfish it is for divorced dads to date.

To be fair, "date" means different things to men and women. To me, as a divorced dad, "date" means spend just enough time with her so she f*cks.

Did you miss the posts criticizing women for wanting sex? The definition of date is irrelevant. No one criticizes men either way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Married a woman older than him with three kids, sucker. "incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. Friend-zoned him.........amazing connection" translates to i found a safe provider after I had the men I wanted to b.

Nah, sounds like she's banging him too. Don't be mad because everyone else is winning.

pp here: Totally still banging him. 6 years of terrible sex in marriage #1 and all the fun I had post divorce helped me realize that I needed a man who had good equipment and was adventurous. Wouldn't have settled for less .

And I love the assumption that I was looking for someone to support me. I out-earn him, by a lot, probably always will, so... (remember that part where I said I have a good career?)

Perhaps he saw an attractive woman who was ambitious with a solid career, a loving mother with an adorable family, and a variety of interests and hobbies, and thought she was intriguing. Sounds like a sucker to me. *sarcasm*

--"I out-earn him, by a lot, probably always will" there it is, that is why settle for an older woman with baggage. And yes he is a sucker.

He’s got his own nice salary, but mine is higher, and has more potential for growth. But it doesn’t matter, you live in a world where people only develop relationships to benefit themselves. That’s a sad, sad way to live, but you do you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Married a woman older than him with three kids, sucker. "incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. Friend-zoned him.........amazing connection" translates to i found a safe provider after I had the men I wanted to b.

Nah, sounds like she's banging him too. Don't be mad because everyone else is winning.

pp here: Totally still banging him. 6 years of terrible sex in marriage #1 and all the fun I had post divorce helped me realize that I needed a man who had good equipment and was adventurous. Wouldn't have settled for less .

And I love the assumption that I was looking for someone to support me. I out-earn him, by a lot, probably always will, so... (remember that part where I said I have a good career?)

Perhaps he saw an attractive woman who was ambitious with a solid career, a loving mother with an adorable family, and a variety of interests and hobbies, and thought she was intriguing. Sounds like a sucker to me. *sarcasm*

--"I out-earn him, by a lot, probably always will" there it is, that is why settle for an older woman with baggage. And yes he is a sucker.

He’s got his own nice salary, but mine is higher, and has more potential for growth. But it doesn’t matter, you live in a world where people only develop relationships to benefit themselves. That’s a sad, sad way to live, but you do you.

Instead of responding to these MRAs, just hit report. The posts will be deleted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Married a woman older than him with three kids, sucker. "incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. Friend-zoned him.........amazing connection" translates to i found a safe provider after I had the men I wanted to b.

This story would be impressive if pp was divorced at 38 and not 28. Much easier to date and find a guy when you are in your late 20ties and early 30ties and many more single, childless, never married men too.

+1

Yes. It makes a difference. But when you have kids, it tends to scare away men who don't have kids yet.

Looks matter too. I know divorced women with 3 kids in their twenties who have no problem at all finding men to date. All pretty and slim. The guy may not want to marry them but find them very f able.

The threshold of f able is not very high, it is the work to f ratio that counts.

True. I know a married woman in her 20ties with 3 kids who is banging a 50 something old enough to be her daddy but it is probably because most men her age see the husband and three kids and run away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Married a woman older than him with three kids, sucker. "incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. Friend-zoned him.........amazing connection" translates to i found a safe provider after I had the men I wanted to b.

This story would be impressive if pp was divorced at 38 and not 28. Much easier to date and find a guy when you are in your late 20ties and early 30ties and many more single, childless, never married men too.

You can just write 20s and 30s. The way you are writing translates to “twenty-ties” and “thirty-ties”.