Do mid 30s divorced women with children have any hope of finding someone in their age bracket?

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Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Traveling solo? Where were your three children?

Perhaps with their father?

Surprise! My children have two parents. As much fun as it would have been to sit at home and pine away during their weekends with their dad, I chose to go out and explore the US instead...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Traveling solo? Where were your three children?

Perhaps with their father?

Surprise! My children have two parents. As much fun as it would have been to sit at home and pine away during their weekends with their dad, I chose to go out and explore the US instead...

And I have to add - I refuse to live under some mom guilt when I'm not fawning over my children. I chose to have a full, complete life, with interests, experiences, and hobbies of my own. A father who travels for work or for pleasure isn't saddled with guilt that he isn't spending every moment with his children, and I won't either. I don't have guilt for working, and I don't have guilt for having solo parent time, while traveling or out for an evening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Traveling solo? Where were your three children?

Perhaps with their father?

Surprise! My children have two parents. As much fun as it would have been to sit at home and pine away during their weekends with their dad, I chose to go out and explore the US instead...

And I have to add - I refuse to live under some mom guilt when I'm not fawning over my children. I chose to have a full, complete life, with interests, experiences, and hobbies of my own. A father who travels for work or for pleasure isn't saddled with guilt that he isn't spending every moment with his children, and I won't either. I don't have guilt for working, and I don't have guilt for having solo parent time, while traveling or out for an evening.

It's so refreshing when awful, selfish moms are candid about putting themselves first!

[Anonymous]

If you’re ENTIRE world revolves around your children, it’s not healthy for YOU or for THEM. Balance in life, being in a place where you are taken care of too so you can put them first, and allowing them to see healthy responsible choices and healthy reactions to the real world (conflict,coping, social and personal development, etc.) helps them so much more than keeping them in a protective singular bubble of your motherhood. That close minded approach of shutting all of life off, because a relationship did not work in the way you wanted it to, is selfish, and handicaps them to have the same narrow attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Traveling solo? Where were your three children?

Perhaps with their father?

Surprise! My children have two parents. As much fun as it would have been to sit at home and pine away during their weekends with their dad, I chose to go out and explore the US instead...

And I have to add - I refuse to live under some mom guilt when I'm not fawning over my children. I chose to have a full, complete life, with interests, experiences, and hobbies of my own. A father who travels for work or for pleasure isn't saddled with guilt that he isn't spending every moment with his children, and I won't either. I don't have guilt for working, and I don't have guilt for having solo parent time, while traveling or out for an evening.

It's so refreshing when awful, selfish moms are candid about putting themselves first!

No one would ever say this about a father. Ever!

I have known women who put their children first in everything, and they are exhausted, anxious, and worn out. That's not good! You can't pour from an empty cup, and parenthood (even single parenthood!) shouldn't preclude living life on one's own terms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re ENTIRE world revolves around your children, it’s not healthy for YOU or for THEM. Balance in life, being in a place where you are taken care of too so you can put them first, and allowing them to see healthy responsible choices and healthy reactions to the real world (conflict,coping, social and personal development, etc.) helps them so much more than keeping them in a protective singular bubble of your motherhood. That close minded approach of shutting all of life off, because a relationship did not work in the way you wanted it to, is selfish, and handicaps them to have the same narrow attitude.

*stands and applauds*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Random question.
Is their any hope for them or will they have to settle for much older men?

I think there is plenty of hope, but hope isn't a strategy. There are plenty of single and divorced guys in their mid-30's, many looking to reconnect. If you are a happy person and your kids are happy, people will be attracted to you. What it leads to is up to you.

[Anonymous]

I know someone in the same boat, mid-30's with two little kids by two different men. That's a lot of baggage for any guy, especially when the guy may have his own baggage to deal with.

The answer is that your personal love life will remain on ice for the next 15 years or so, and only then will you be free to move about the dating field.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Traveling solo? Where were your three children?

Perhaps with their father?

Surprise! My children have two parents. As much fun as it would have been to sit at home and pine away during their weekends with their dad, I chose to go out and explore the US instead...

And I have to add - I refuse to live under some mom guilt when I'm not fawning over my children. I chose to have a full, complete life, with interests, experiences, and hobbies of my own. A father who travels for work or for pleasure isn't saddled with guilt that he isn't spending every moment with his children, and I won't either. I don't have guilt for working, and I don't have guilt for having solo parent time, while traveling or out for an evening.

It's so refreshing when awful, selfish moms are candid about putting themselves first!

No one would ever say this about a father. Ever!

I have known women who put their children first in everything, and they are exhausted, anxious, and worn out. That's not good! You can't pour from an empty cup, and parenthood (even single parenthood!) shouldn't preclude living life on one's own terms.

Awful, selfish moms are highly skilled at rationalizing their awful selfishness!

[Anonymous]

^ troll. Ignore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Traveling solo? Where were your three children?

Perhaps with their father?

Surprise! My children have two parents. As much fun as it would have been to sit at home and pine away during their weekends with their dad, I chose to go out and explore the US instead...

And I have to add - I refuse to live under some mom guilt when I'm not fawning over my children. I chose to have a full, complete life, with interests, experiences, and hobbies of my own. A father who travels for work or for pleasure isn't saddled with guilt that he isn't spending every moment with his children, and I won't either. I don't have guilt for working, and I don't have guilt for having solo parent time, while traveling or out for an evening.

It's so refreshing when awful, selfish moms are candid about putting themselves first!

Hahahahahahahahahaha

[Anonymous]

Attractive people can get what they want. An attractive woman means genetic good looks, polished style and voice, happy and energetic attitude. People that make the world better by their mere presence draw everybody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She wants a high-quality, younger man who is interested in a post-fertile woman with kids.

Basically, she wants an alicorn.

+1, strange how so many women think they deserve only man in the 5% of men yet dont ask if they are a top 5% woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Married a woman older than him with three kids, sucker. "incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. Friend-zoned him.........amazing connection" translates to i found a safe provider after I had the men I wanted to b.

Nah, sounds like she's banging him too. Don't be mad because everyone else is winning.

An older woman with three kids and an ex that apparently is mess is not called winning by any stretch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was divorced at 28 with three kids. I had a blast dating, always kept my dating life and home life separated. I dated a wide range from five years younger than me to 20 years older. Men pursued me, and I was quite happy to maintain my singledom. I figured that I had had my kids, I had a good career, and I enjoyed being single.
While traveling solo I met an incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. I friend zoned him immediately because he had never been married, had no kids. As friends we developed an amazing connection, he convinced me that he didn’t want to be in the friend zone , we dated, married, and now have another kid. My children from marriage 1 love their stepdad, they get to see a loving and respectful relationship modeled every day (a far cry from what is modeled in XH’s home), and are happy kids.

Married a woman older than him with three kids, sucker. "incredible man, tall, kind, smart, handsome, great job, two years younger than I am. Friend-zoned him.........amazing connection" translates to i found a safe provider after I had the men I wanted to b.

Nah, sounds like she's banging him too. Don't be mad because everyone else is winning.

pp here: Totally still banging him. 6 years of terrible sex in marriage #1 and all the fun I had post divorce helped me realize that I needed a man who had good equipment and was adventurous. Wouldn't have settled for less .

And I love the assumption that I was looking for someone to support me. I out-earn him, by a lot, probably always will, so... (remember that part where I said I have a good career?)

Perhaps he saw an attractive woman who was ambitious with a solid career, a loving mother with an adorable family, and a variety of interests and hobbies, and thought she was intriguing. Sounds like a sucker to me. *sarcasm*

--"I out-earn him, by a lot, probably always will" there it is, that is why settle for an older woman with baggage. And yes he is a sucker.