I'm trying to have an affair

[Anonymous]

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DumbLoring wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could have written this OP. Unfortunately, after doing my research, a lot of married guys out there are very overweight and unattractive. I think that explains why they are out there in the first place. My sexlife has been dormant for a few years now. Should I just divorce because I am not fulfilled sexually?

Another woman in the same situation.

Tried everything but men after 40 who don't care of their bodies don't have a sex drive. Meanwhile as a younger wife who does take care of my body, I'd love intimacy again.

Not worth divorcing over.

I'll bite. I'm 48 y/o M, in shape with a high drive (seriously). Get a username and PM me...

No girl! You don’t want a middle aged, married man. If you want mind blowing sex, go to the gym or a hiking club and pick up a fit hottie in their 20s.

Maybe it's just different taste but I tried younger and it wasn't for me. I wound up going older and got my world rocked. I guess it could be expectations too as I had high hopes for my 28 year old but he just could read what I needed and might have been more into himself than I was. My current was just a nice guy that I thought would be a one and done. He pushed some buttons I didn't know I had. Part of me wants to sit down with his wife and ask her why she isn't keeping him on a leash. If he were my DH, he wouldn't have time or energy for an affair. Of course, if he were my DH, neither would I.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s easy to find affair partners if you’re a decently attractive woman. Today four different men texted me, begging to hang out.

Intermittent reinforcement works best. I ignore them most of the time, and randomly text back or send a sexy picture when I want attention. Dirty talk to build anticipation, sex them well, then ignore again.

Are you married? And you meet them for sex or just flirt/tease them?

Yes, I’m married. I only want sex, but sometimes end up in relationships with them.

As a married woman, it’s much easier now to find a boyfriend. Men love pretty, unattainable women that they can’t really have. And they love the drama and competition of “falling in love” with someone else’s wife.

So nonjudgemental question, but why aren't you having sex with your DH instead? Do you like the thrill of the chase? The taboo nature of it all? The excitement of being over the line? I'm just curious how the affair mind works to be honest...

[Anonymous]

You really don’t understand female sex drive. No married woman wants sex with her husband. Many don’t want sex at all, but those who do, it’s with pretty much any man EXCEPT her DH. And women can easily get most men (even married men, especially those) to agree to sex because, well because most men want sex anytime with any woman.

The upshot of all this is a married man has far better odds of sex with a random married woman versus his own wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really don’t understand female sex drive. No married woman wants sex with her husband. Many don’t want sex at all, but those who do, it’s with pretty much any man EXCEPT her DH. And women can easily get most men (even married men, especially those) to agree to sex because, well because most men want sex anytime with any woman.

The upshot of all this is a married man has far better odds of sex with a random married woman versus his own wife.

I think this is great explanation...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

DumbLoring wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could have written this OP. Unfortunately, after doing my research, a lot of married guys out there are very overweight and unattractive. I think that explains why they are out there in the first place. My sexlife has been dormant for a few years now. Should I just divorce because I am not fulfilled sexually?

Another woman in the same situation.

Tried everything but men after 40 who don't care of their bodies don't have a sex drive. Meanwhile as a younger wife who does take care of my body, I'd love intimacy again.

Not worth divorcing over.

I'll bite. I'm 48 y/o M, in shape with a high drive (seriously). Get a username and PM me...

No girl! You don’t want a middle aged, married man. If you want mind blowing sex, go to the gym or a hiking club and pick up a fit hottie in their 20s.

Maybe it's just different taste but I tried younger and it wasn't for me. I wound up going older and got my world rocked. I guess it could be expectations too as I had high hopes for my 28 year old but he just could read what I needed and might have been more into himself than I was. My current was just a nice guy that I thought would be a one and done. He pushed some buttons I didn't know I had. Part of me wants to sit down with his wife and ask her why she isn't keeping him on a leash. If he were my DH, he wouldn't have time or energy for an affair. Of course, if he were my DH, neither would I.

Ha ha ha ha... You have shown your colors. At some point the buzz would wear off (yes, really), you would get bored and cheat again. It is who you are.