Where are people so jealous of gifted kids?

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is advanced (test scores to prove it) started reading at 4. I do not tell people this!!!! Especially people with similar aged children. I'm proud of her and I see her doing great things but I don't need to announce it to everyone though. If it's something special yes I'll share it will family but I'm not posting on Facebook she's reading Harry Potter at 6 and writing her own plays!!! I was a teacher and have seen kids of all levels! All children learn and grow at a different pace, I remember one child I taught was off the charts gifted but was considered "below" in kindergarten/first. But by the time I had him in 2nd grade it was clear to me he was gifted (the next year it was confirmed in 3rd grade). You never know! But I guarantee people aren't jealous they just think you are bragging.

Kids also have different gifts. My 6 year old tested at a FSIQ at the 99th percentile and enjoys doing multiplication. She can do 200-300 piece puzzles without much trouble. Reading is more of a challenge for her. She isn’t behind, but certainly isn’t ahead.

The only people who know about her abilities other than my husband and I are her grandparents and her teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 6 y/o DS can read and wright at the level of a 7th grader. Whenever I tell my friends or coworkers, some of them are impressed, but others have literally stated out that it's really not that special and that they, as adults, can write better than them. And I'm thinking to myself, "You're about 30 years older than my son. I would hope that you can read and write write better than him." It's like they don't even consider the fact that he's only 6 years old. I would expect an adult to read and write well above the level of my son, but a lot of people don't seem to acknowledge that for his age, it's impressive.

I know you love your kid and this is awesome but lets not forget that child prodigies are rarely successful. However, you are right as same people who love to celebrate talents like running, hitting ball, making nice sounds from vocal chords or instrument strings etc, seems to be a bit hostile towards academic talents.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they don’t believe you?

[Anonymous]

People are petty and jealous, poor show of their true character

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they don’t believe you?

I think some people exaggerate their kids' ability(in different areas, not just academics). This results in everyone assuming that all "gifted kids" are gifted in their parents' imagination. If people see for themselves how gifted a kid is, they are usually pleasantly surprised.

[Anonymous]

It’s not the kids, it’s their parents.

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Anonymous wrote:While being gifted academically is impressive, I would also be equally impressed ( if not more ) with a child who was athletically gifted, or who was a talented actress, singer , dancer etc... so I wouldn't put so much emphasis on academics because it's just one type of "intelligence" Everyone has a strength, or something that they excel in. If you are finding that people seem jealous, perhaps it's your communication style that is rubbing people the wrong way?

Ok, but that is kind of OP's point. If she mentioned that her 6 year old was faster than the 6th graders on the swim team, people wouldn't say she was bragging; they'd be interested and duly impressed. But since she is discussing precocious reading skills, she is obnoxious and bragging? Why is that? Why is that particular type of intelligence so touchy for people? Because it absolutely is.

The bolded is not true. People would roll their eyes and consider OP one of those crazy sport parents.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While being gifted academically is impressive, I would also be equally impressed ( if not more ) with a child who was athletically gifted, or who was a talented actress, singer , dancer etc... so I wouldn't put so much emphasis on academics because it's just one type of "intelligence" Everyone has a strength, or something that they excel in. If you are finding that people seem jealous, perhaps it's your communication style that is rubbing people the wrong way?

Ok, but that is kind of OP's point. If she mentioned that her 6 year old was faster than the 6th graders on the swim team, people wouldn't say she was bragging; they'd be interested and duly impressed. But since she is discussing precocious reading skills, she is obnoxious and bragging? Why is that? Why is that particular type of intelligence so touchy for people? Because it absolutely is.

The bolded is not true. People would roll their eyes and consider OP one of those crazy sport parents.

Yes we would. There are many athletic and academic burnouts. I was a recruited athlete in college and many of the kids I was recruited with burned out freshman year. The goal was never a post-collegiate career or the Olympics, but many recruited athletes aren’t even able to hack it in college. So yes, I would roll my eyes at someone bragging about a 6 year old.

[Anonymous]

I do not think people are jealous. I think people are merely annoyed by other parents boldly advertising their kids’ achievements. It is great if one’s kids are doing well, but there is no need to broadcast that to the rest of the world.. Try a little humility and civility.

[Anonymous]

They are not jealous of your kid, they just hate you and with good reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe they don’t believe you?

I don't believe you. I think you are a troll.

[Anonymous]

I could not read before I turned sever. My school started when kids were 6 or 7 or turned seven by the end of December.
Same with my sister. My sister is a certified genius (also she is incapable of many everyday things) and I am very, very "gifted." My IQ is very high too. I look like a dumb arse compared to my sister's academic IQ. She looks like an idjiot compared to may everyday life and emotional IQ.
I am wondering where you kid got the smart genes from because obviously it was not from you as you lack both academic and emotional intelligence.

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Also, op, proof that you are pretty dumb is that you could not find a right topic forum for your 6-year-old.

[Anonymous]

Is your kids whole worth to you that they can brag about them?
I pity your kid growing up with a narc mother.

[Anonymous]

My 6yo does 6th and 7th grade math (really!). When people ask about him, I say he loves ninja class, he's nervous about the start of school, we're struggling with how competitive he is with his brothers, and he just had a great trip to visit my mom who he loves to art projects with.

Not because i'm hiding his math skills so people won't get jealous or because but because his math skill isn't the important or interesting thing about him and is not on my mind. I honestly can't fathom answering "well we're really proud of larlo b/c he's doing math so far ahead of his peers". Maybe you should question why your kids reading is the top of mind thing for you about them as a person