Where are people so jealous of gifted kids?

[Anonymous]

OP's 6 year old is apparently still in preschool, based on the forum location she posted.

Patterson slack.

[Anonymous]

*cut her some slack, nor Patterson.

But you can "Patterson" on the back I guess

[Anonymous]

People brag about this stuff all the time. Any kid can become an excellent reader/writer with practice and can very quickly jump through age level expectations. But you know what happens? Eventually they will be at the same level as everyone else. They just got there quicker. It doesn’t actually make them “smarter”-that’s just where this particular child and of course parents decided to spend their energy. There are super advanced kids that start k constantly. Like levels and levels beyond their peers. Typically it’s because the parents spent every single day spending time on academics instead of letting their children play. Guess what skill is more important at that age?

-signed a k teacher who has met many parents who love to tell me about their gifted child.

[Anonymous]

1. Bragging is annoying. People are reacting badly to you because of this.

2. Intelligence as a concept is culturally and politically unpopular right now. People are now taught there’s no such thing as innate intelligence—only unearned privilege. So it’s no surprise claims that giftedness exists makes people mad these days.

[Anonymous]

If you are going to talk about your kids, include the challenges as well as the successes and it may be better received, e.g. my child struggles with emotional regulation but is doing well with reading.

[Anonymous]

I have two kids in FCPS AAP. I'm not jealous of your kid.

I am impressed if I can identify a gifted on my own - with my own eyes and ears and observation. If I can't see it on my own, and have to rely on you tell me about it - I don't think it's impressive - I think you are a bragger who doesn't know how smart other kids are too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 6 y/o DS can read and wright at the level of a 7th grader. Whenever I tell my friends or coworkers, some of them are impressed, but others have literally stated out that it's really not that special and that they, as adults, can write better than them. And I'm thinking to myself, "You're about 30 years older than my son. I would hope that you can read and write write better than him." It's like they don't even consider the fact that he's only 6 years old. I would expect an adult to read and write well above the level of my son, but a lot of people don't seem to acknowledge that for his age, it's impressive.

Perhaps your gifted child can teach you to spell correctly, e.g., wright, write, right and even rite!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two kids in FCPS AAP. I'm not jealous of your kid.

I am impressed if I can identify a gifted on my own - with my own eyes and ears and observation. If I can't see it on my own, and have to rely on you tell me about it - I don't think it's impressive - I think you are a bragger who doesn't know how smart other kids are too.

Bragging is never good.

But if you think you can ID every gifted person just by looking at them, you are equally full of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 6 y/o DS can read and wright at the level of a 7th grader. Whenever I tell my friends or coworkers, some of them are impressed, but others have literally stated out that it's really not that special and that they, as adults, can write better than them. And I'm thinking to myself, "You're about 30 years older than my son. I would hope that you can read and write write better than him." It's like they don't even consider the fact that he's only 6 years old. I would expect an adult to read and write well above the level of my son, but a lot of people don't seem to acknowledge that for his age, it's impressive.

It’s a reflective reaction to your uncouth and misguided bragging. No one is jealous — they just find you distasteful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two kids in FCPS AAP. I'm not jealous of your kid.

I am impressed if I can identify a gifted on my own - with my own eyes and ears and observation. If I can't see it on my own, and have to rely on you tell me about it - I don't think it's impressive - I think you are a bragger who doesn't know how smart other kids are too.

Bragging is never good.

But if you think you can ID every gifted person just by looking at them, you are equally full of yourself.

I am a former teacher and probably better than most. And, if I can't - then who cares? Why do you need to tell people? Why not wait until it naturally comes out?

[Anonymous]

You can only brag about your kid because you are obviously an idiot. Really an idiot who can’t even write or use proper grammar. Or you are just a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not discuss my children with my co-workers. I do not particularly care to hear about theirs either. Please realize that while you love your children very much and truly believe ( as you should ) that they are fascinating, wonderful, special, gifted or whatever else, the rest of the world doesn't care one way or the other.

+1

Unfortunately, this is true, OP. Keep it in the family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People brag about this stuff all the time. Any kid can become an excellent reader/writer with practice and can very quickly jump through age level expectations. But you know what happens? Eventually they will be at the same level as everyone else. They just got there quicker. It doesn’t actually make them “smarter”-that’s just where this particular child and of course parents decided to spend their energy. There are super advanced kids that start k constantly. Like levels and levels beyond their peers. Typically it’s because the parents spent every single day spending time on academics instead of letting their children play. Guess what skill is more important at that age?

-signed a k teacher who has met many parents who love to tell me about their gifted child.

+1000. Reading early, having a large vocabulary, and doing math at a young age are not indicative of genius or later success. When my kids were 9 months and barely speaking my mom would remind me that my sister at 9 months was saying balloon and a handful of other hard words. It frustrated me because it was meant to make me feel bad as a mom about my kids’ language and because my sister did just OK academically and is now a manager at a nonprofit. She was a very advanced infant but it was in no way indicative of later academic or career success. So who cares? A lot of parents who brag about their kids seem deeply insecure and also look like they’re trying to claim ownership for their kid’s academic prowess.

[Anonymous]

Why are parents of “gifted” kids so smug and proud?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People brag about this stuff all the time. Any kid can become an excellent reader/writer with practice and can very quickly jump through age level expectations. But you know what happens? Eventually they will be at the same level as everyone else. They just got there quicker. It doesn’t actually make them “smarter”-that’s just where this particular child and of course parents decided to spend their energy. There are super advanced kids that start k constantly. Like levels and levels beyond their peers. Typically it’s because the parents spent every single day spending time on academics instead of letting their children play. Guess what skill is more important at that age?

-signed a k teacher who has met many parents who love to tell me about their gifted child.

Lol. No, we do not all end up at the same level. You think all grown adults have equivalent reading comprehension abilities?