Are you okay with your husband going out drinking and dining alone with other women?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In this thread: Women saying of course their husband can have solo drinks with/hang out in hotel rooms with/perform amateur pap smears on other women, he'd NEVER cheat!

In every other thread: Men saying that their wives don't put out enough and they're itching to cheat, if they haven't already.

In other threads here where a woman says "my husband went out for drinks with a female colleague, do you think it's innocent? - they work at the office all day then go out together....". the DCUM. advice is to divorce him already because he's cheating....

Glad to know you all are ok with me dating, dining and drinking with your husband after work. Eases my conscience a lot.

If you want to be with a cheater, you can have him. But he probably won't be able to afford to wine and dine you after I'm done. And he'll have to get home to take junior to little league half the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In this thread: Women saying of course their husband can have solo drinks with/hang out in hotel rooms with/perform amateur pap smears on other women, he'd NEVER cheat!

In every other thread: Men saying that their wives don't put out enough and they're itching to cheat, if they haven't already.

In other threads here where a woman says "my husband went out for drinks with a female colleague, do you think it's innocent? - they work at the office all day then go out together....". the DCUM. advice is to divorce him already because he's cheating....

Glad to know you all are ok with me dating, dining and drinking with your husband after work. Eases my conscience a lot.

If you want to be with a cheater, you can have him. But he probably won't be able to afford to wine and dine you after I'm done. And he'll have to get home to take junior to little league half the time.

PP doesn't have to worry about her AP not being able to afford her- they can afford her just fine, since the wives are in complete denial. People in this thread are saying it's totes okay for their hisband to hang out in women's hotel rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not especially comfortable with my husband going out "drinking and dining" alone with other women. It would depend on the context- work colleague, do I know the other woman, have they been friends for a long time, are we mutual friends, is there history?

There's trust and then there's being naive-- I think a DH who meets a woman while he is married/committed, decides they are "friends" and he's going drinking and dining with them alone (even a work colleague, if it's not work related)...that right there is a reason to be suspicious.

Don't marry someone you don't trust, and don't stay with someone who doesn't act in ways that promote trust.

+1000

[Anonymous]

I'm fine with it. I am not a jealous person and hate being controlled, so I don't try to control others. Also, I trust my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not especially comfortable with my husband going out "drinking and dining" alone with other women. It would depend on the context- work colleague, do I know the other woman, have they been friends for a long time, are we mutual friends, is there history?

There's trust and then there's being naive-- I think a DH who meets a woman while he is married/committed, decides they are "friends" and he's going drinking and dining with them alone (even a work colleague, if it's not work related)...that right there is a reason to be suspicious.

Don't marry someone you don't trust, and don't stay with someone who doesn't act in ways that promote trust.

+1000

That may be so but I do not think that is what Mike Pence is avoiding (or not the sole thing.) Whether his priority or not, he is avoiding professional meetings with women - which sometimes take place without escorts!!!! My husband is allowed to conduct business with women, men, dogs, whatever it takes. He does not need a chaperone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm fine with it. I am not a jealous person and hate being controlled, so I don't try to control others. Also, I trust my husband.

"I'm a cool wife! My hubby can do what he wants! I totes don't care if he meets new chicks and goes out with them cause I'm such a cool wife!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not especially comfortable with my husband going out "drinking and dining" alone with other women. It would depend on the context- work colleague, do I know the other woman, have they been friends for a long time, are we mutual friends, is there history?

There's trust and then there's being naive-- I think a DH who meets a woman while he is married/committed, decides they are "friends" and he's going drinking and dining with them alone (even a work colleague, if it's not work related)...that right there is a reason to be suspicious.

Don't marry someone you don't trust, and don't stay with someone who doesn't act in ways that promote trust.

+1000

It's a long road with many changes by all - stuff is going to change, shit is going to happen.
Get over yourself and your high and mighty road.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I was all modern and thought this kind of thing was fine.

Then my DH came home one day and said he had fallen in love with this other woman from work and he wanted a divorce. I had been working a lot and he was going out for lunches with this woman.(all you men who want successful hard working money earning women - I'm not sure some of you really do because you act like babies when it's happening). She had been flirting heavily with him and had spent plenty of time bashing me too - though I'd never met Suzy Bitch. Come to find out years later (from DH) that she didn't have feelings for him really but was more of a game of 'let's see if I can catch this married guy'. Well, she did catch him because he was really in love or at least heavily infatuated with her - he was really messed up about it for a long while. That was really fun to go through

Do I trust DH to be having lunches out alone with women? I don't really think that for him it's a great idea. Apparently he might just run off with whatever floozie presents herself if I'm otherwise occupied. He told me that it 'just happened'. Like he had no control.

We've since reconnected , had 3 beautiful kids together and had a nice time together. But this definitely colored our relationship as I doubted that he actually loved me for a long time.

For some men (and women) it's probably better to go out with a group and not personal time out with one other person.

He recently had a high school GF 'reconnecting' with him through daily emails and maybe meeting up- was that an argument? Yes it was.
If he didn't have a tendency to take things too far it would be fine, but that's not the case. What the hell - emailing every damned day?
If he wants to hit the road - fine. But I'm not dealing with his confused blubbering 'I'm in love with two women at the same time' trash again.

Did u get fat? Why is he so easily able to fall in love with whoever

He's an idiot who goes for anything new.
No, I'm not fat I'm still hot for my age.

If that's the case, he doesn't sound like a keeper.

Surprisingly, 25 years later he is.
He's a good provider, he's wickedly good in bed, we take family vacations once a year where he's wonderful to us, drives the kids to school, helps with housework, it's interesting and fun to talk to, is great with the 3 kids especially with the handicapped/special one. Turns out he is but took a while.
I did freak about the high school gal but that's more about me than him. It's hard to forget.

[Anonymous]

Joining late but I've been working as a professional (male) for 25+ years. I have had dinner and drinks many times (hundreds at least) with female colleagues and have never had an affair or even a kiss. I had a clear opportunity once--when a very young woman joined the team for a trip. She made it very clear she wanted some, and she was turned down.

[Anonymous]

Previous job I had to dinners all of the time, wife didn't care because we usually sexting each other. She knows what turns me on and used it to tease me.

[Anonymous]

I suppose it's a good thing I'm divorced because I can't imagine not being 'allowed' to do such a a thing by my spouse. Oh, and I would never act inappropriate or cross a line with someone who is married!feel lucky to have many friends make and female in my life.