My SIL's Happy Birthday Jesus cake tradition

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM has spoken. We'd rather celebrate Christmas with SIL and a piece of cake than with OP and her bitter brew.

Yup! Team SIL

Totes. I'm a diabetic atheist and is still rather hang out with SIL than OP.

Whats that saying "Bitches flock together?" something like that.

Add me to team SIL.
And nope OP, you are still the biggest bitch in this story (and, I suspect, your family).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do you. If it bothers you that much, don't go. Don't accept their hospitality if you are only going to judge and dislike your hosts.

She's just being Christian, is all

[Anonymous]

My Episcopal church did this at the children's service on Christmas day for after-service coffee. In the Christmas pageant at my kid's church nursery school the youngest class sang Happy Birthday. Only thing weird is not allowing other desserts.

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This thread is very sad, especially seeing how freely and gleefully some folks feel they can mock Christianity, and also those who feel like they need to resort to insults or profanity in response.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. I've never heard of this and think it's a little eccentric but to each his own.

That said, I do think that OP is the in-law from Hell.

Aww so sweet.

NP.

OP does come off as an awful DIL. She does not share MIL's or SIL's religious beliefs and is jealous and resentful of SIL because SIL is religious and MIL approves. She needs to let it go or find other healthy ways to foster good relationships with MIL and SIL. They have to have SOME redeeming qualities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It must be the Christians wanting Christ back in Christmas (but apparently not Christ back in being Christian in general) with the nasty responses. Didn't think OP's post was nasty at all.

I've never heard of this. I think it's weird. But then I think religion is weird in general. "Let's bake a cake for Jesus, Red Riding Hood, and Walter White."

At my atheist house, I bake apple pie for dessert on December 25 because it's Newton's birthday. Not even kidding. If that makes me weird, so be it. My kids love the tradition and it gives us something that represents what we DO believe (Science is important! The universe is amazing!) rather than just focusing on what we DON'T believe.

[Anonymous]

I will be honest - my mom never did this until my cousin married a Jewish person and now it's "what we do every Christmas." I always keep an eye out and when my mom gets out the cake I see my cousin's wife quietly leave the room and I go with her and sit in another room and chat. She's never brought it up but I hope I bring some small comfort.

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Anonymous wrote:I will be honest - my mom never did this until my cousin married a Jewish person and now it's "what we do every Christmas." I always keep an eye out and when my mom gets out the cake I see my cousin's wife quietly leave the room and I go with her and sit in another room and chat. She's never brought it up but I hope I bring some small comfort.

That is taking passive-aggressive bigotry to an epic level. Holy crap.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It must be the Christians wanting Christ back in Christmas (but apparently not Christ back in being Christian in general) with the nasty responses. Didn't think OP's post was nasty at all.

I've never heard of this. I think it's weird. But then I think religion is weird in general. "Let's bake a cake for Jesus, Red Riding Hood, and Walter White."

At my atheist house, I bake apple pie for dessert on December 25 because it's Newton's birthday. Not even kidding. If that makes me weird, so be it. My kids love the tradition and it gives us something that represents what we DO believe (Science is important! The universe is amazing!) rather than just focusing on what we DON'T believe.

Let me thumb my nose at another religion on an important date that I certainly don't have to celebrate. I'm going to have a BBQ on the first day of Ramadan because eff you, Islam.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It must be the Christians wanting Christ back in Christmas (but apparently not Christ back in being Christian in general) with the nasty responses. Didn't think OP's post was nasty at all.

I've never heard of this. I think it's weird. But then I think religion is weird in general. "Let's bake a cake for Jesus, Red Riding Hood, and Walter White."

At my atheist house, I bake apple pie for dessert on December 25 because it's Newton's birthday. Not even kidding. If that makes me weird, so be it. My kids love the tradition and it gives us something that represents what we DO believe (Science is important! The universe is amazing!) rather than just focusing on what we DON'T believe.

Yeah, that's pretty fucked up I consider myself an atheist, but I don't feel the need to contradict thousands of years of tradition. Christmas is fine by me.

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Anonymous wrote:I will be honest - my mom never did this until my cousin married a Jewish person and now it's "what we do every Christmas." I always keep an eye out and when my mom gets out the cake I see my cousin's wife quietly leave the room and I go with her and sit in another room and chat. She's never brought it up but I hope I bring some small comfort.

That is taking passive-aggressive bigotry to an epic level. Holy crap.

Wow, that is obnoxious. Speaking from experience, it can be very uncomfortable to be the "other" in the room during religious celebrations, even when everyone is welcoming and well-intentioned. I can't imagine how your cousin's wife feels if she knows the new "tradition" is intended to exclude her. I think you are doing something really kind by quietly and discreetly acknowledging her discomfort and offering support.

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Pass the cake; save the judgement!

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We have always had a candle and sang happy birthday to Jesus, where is the horror in this? The kids loved it when they were younger and love it now that they are older.

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Anonymous wrote:I just talked to a friend and they do this thing where they pretend Jesus is a marshmallow and they bake it in a cresent roll which represents his tomb, and when they bake it Jesus the marshmallow disappears and this is how she celebrates Easter and explains the resurection to her kids. Whatever works.

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Wouldn't it be some weird shit to die and then when you get to the Pearly Gates, the test St. Peter gives you for whether you get into Heaven or not is:

"So did you save a piece of cake for Jesus?"