Late 40s/Early 50s Divorced Ladies

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is nice that there is a lot of wishful thinking here. But as a man I can tell you that while a much younger man of course would want to have sex with you if you keep yourself fit, he generally won't be totally into you. No 38 yo guy will be proud to escort around a 45 yo divorced mother on a regular basis. I had this at 33 with a never married 40 yo. I just couldn't go through with it. I'll allow there are outliers, but generally I think what I say is the truth.

Psst I don't want the 38 year old to escort me around. I have girlfriends to hang out with outside of the bedroom.

PP makes a good point. I have 38 yr old that I "visit" with. He is cute as a button, an incredible a$$ and shoulders and arms like Hercules. We get along famously but no matter how much lipstick you put on the pig he is still only 38. He has a kid from previous relationship and divorced from very short marriage. He only serves one purpose and we are both fine with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is nice that there is a lot of wishful thinking here. But as a man I can tell you that while a much younger man of course would want to have sex with you if you keep yourself fit, he generally won't be totally into you. No 38 yo guy will be proud to escort around a 45 yo divorced mother on a regular basis. I had this at 33 with a never married 40 yo. I just couldn't go through with it. I'll allow there are outliers, but generally I think what I say is the truth.

Psst I don't want the 38 year old to escort me around. I have girlfriends to hang out with outside of the bedroom.

PP makes a good point. I have 38 yr old that I "visit" with. He is cute as a button, an incredible a$$ and shoulders and arms like Hercules. We get along famously but no matter how much lipstick you put on the pig he is still only 38. He has a kid from previous relationship and divorced from very short marriage. He only serves one purpose and we are both fine with that.

I had this, and after about two months it only made me feel shallow and highlighted how off course my life had become. Kudos to you that you can subsist with this time of shallow relationship. I couldn't do it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is nice that there is a lot of wishful thinking here. But as a man I can tell you that while a much younger man of course would want to have sex with you if you keep yourself fit, he generally won't be totally into you. No 38 yo guy will be proud to escort around a 45 yo divorced mother on a regular basis. I had this at 33 with a never married 40 yo. I just couldn't go through with it. I'll allow there are outliers, but generally I think what I say is the truth.

Psst I don't want the 38 year old to escort me around. I have girlfriends to hang out with outside of the bedroom.

PP makes a good point. I have 38 yr old that I "visit" with. He is cute as a button, an incredible a$$ and shoulders and arms like Hercules. We get along famously but no matter how much lipstick you put on the pig he is still only 38. He has a kid from previous relationship and divorced from very short marriage. He only serves one purpose and we are both fine with that.

I had this, and after about two months it only made me feel shallow and highlighted how off course my life had become. Kudos to you that you can subsist with this time of shallow relationship. I couldn't do it.

My guess is that she has deep relationships with her girlfriends. So she's not subsisting with shallow relationships. She has all the depth she needs, and she and the guy use each other for sex. Doesn't sound like subsistence at all. It sounds like abundance!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Blow off the commitment-phobe BF and call those digits, OP!

+1

OP here. I finally did it! He wasn't in a rush to jump in the sack, but thanks to the he's just horny and thought you were easy poster for playing. He prefers older women and exclusive relationships and yes, he is totally cute, strong, fit, and the sex was worth the wait, although there are a few things I need to teach him. He's actually late 20s - same age as my XH was when we got married. He's smart and fun to talk to, too. I know it won't be a forever thing but it is a good time right now. A friend of mine had a one-year relationship with a 25 year old when she was 45, so maybe it will last for a bit until I get over my recent round of "online dating sucks," which may take some time. Nice to have met someone IRL, even though it won't lead to someone for the rest of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey look at Christie Brinkley!

She is sixty-two & is much more beautiful than not only her counterparts but even women 1/3 her age!

People bring her up as an example all the time, but she has had a lot of work done! Very natural-looking, well-done work but still...most people can't afford to do that. But I do know a lot of real-world women who look great as they age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is nice that there is a lot of wishful thinking here. But as a man I can tell you that while a much younger man of course would want to have sex with you if you keep yourself fit, he generally won't be totally into you. No 38 yo guy will be proud to escort around a 45 yo divorced mother on a regular basis. I had this at 33 with a never married 40 yo. I just couldn't go through with it. I'll allow there are outliers, but generally I think what I say is the truth.

Psst I don't want the 38 year old to escort me around. I have girlfriends to hang out with outside of the bedroom.

PP makes a good point. I have 38 yr old that I "visit" with. He is cute as a button, an incredible a$$ and shoulders and arms like Hercules. We get along famously but no matter how much lipstick you put on the pig he is still only 38. He has a kid from previous relationship and divorced from very short marriage. He only serves one purpose and we are both fine with that.

I had this, and after about two months it only made me feel shallow and highlighted how off course my life had become. Kudos to you that you can subsist with this time of shallow relationship. I couldn't do it.

It isn't shallow. We get a long really well and enjoy each others company. Neither of us have delusions that this is going to go on long term or that we will marry. He would like to find SHM and that aint what I do. I make like 3X what he does and he enjoys the benefits of my homes and the life I get to lead. Shallow would be booty calls and dismissing him till I call him again. We are in constant contact and other than the one thing we really enjoy doing, we do tons of other stuff and with his child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Blow off the commitment-phobe BF and call those digits, OP!

+1

OP here. I finally did it! He wasn't in a rush to jump in the sack, but thanks to the he's just horny and thought you were easy poster for playing. He prefers older women and exclusive relationships and yes, he is totally cute, strong, fit, and the sex was worth the wait, although there are a few things I need to teach him. He's actually late 20s - same age as my XH was when we got married. He's smart and fun to talk to, too. I know it won't be a forever thing but it is a good time right now. A friend of mine had a one-year relationship with a 25 year old when she was 45, so maybe it will last for a bit until I get over my recent round of "online dating sucks," which may take some time. Nice to have met someone IRL, even though it won't lead to someone for the rest of my life.

This is great, enjoy. Take it day by day and see what happens. Don't expect to much and you might, as you already seem to be, pleasantly surprised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Blow off the commitment-phobe BF and call those digits, OP!

+1

OP here. I finally did it! He wasn't in a rush to jump in the sack, but thanks to the he's just horny and thought you were easy poster for playing. He prefers older women and exclusive relationships and yes, he is totally cute, strong, fit, and the sex was worth the wait, although there are a few things I need to teach him. He's actually late 20s - same age as my XH was when we got married. He's smart and fun to talk to, too. I know it won't be a forever thing but it is a good time right now. A friend of mine had a one-year relationship with a 25 year old when she was 45, so maybe it will last for a bit until I get over my recent round of "online dating sucks," which may take some time. Nice to have met someone IRL, even though it won't lead to someone for the rest of my life.

So happy for you! Does he have any good looking friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My STBX cheating wife imagines herself as a confident woman but she pines like a little girl for her former lover that she left me for. Pathetic. Based on my experiences with her I won't ever date a mid forties divorced woman with kids unless she has a really persuasive backstory. You can judge. But some of this mid forties "confident" women got that way from screwing over their families. I know. Judge away. It was my experience. I am not going to date only young thirties never married women instead of had been older women. Bitter? Yep.

Sorry someone cheated on you, that sucks and is deeply wrong. But, please don't judge all us 40s women with kids. Believe me we get so much judgement from everyone -- you think we must have cheated on our ex, other people think our ex left us because we didn't fulfill them sexually or we were bitches or we let ourselves go or whatever....

But, really, some of us were cheated upon, and as you know, there's never a good reason for that and it really destroys your life.

Treat others like you would want to be treated. I think you'll be sure to find someone great that way.