Furious at DS for spending $18 for lunch at field trip today

[Anonymous]

Please have your son call me. I would love to hear all about his field trip and how much fun he had until he got home.

[Anonymous]

yes it's real. guess i was furious also because i felt i failed to give him enough tools to make the right choices. in reality i had my expectation set to high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is such a cock block! DS bought a girl lunch trying to impress her.

Are you f'king kidding me? Is that why she is so upset??

[Anonymous]

I only gave my kid the amount of money I'd be comfortable with him spending because if I give hh $20, he'll spend $20. He's in 3rd grade so has only gone on two field trips, both of which kids brought packed lunches. I gave him $5 for the gift shop knowing he'd try to spend it all.

[Anonymous]

So you gave him money to spend on his trip, he stayed under budget, but you're mad because he spent it on food you didn't approve of?

How much of this is because of your own hangups over food and eating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you gave him money to spend on his trip, he stayed under budget, but you're mad because he spent it on food you didn't approve of?

How much of this is because of your own hangups over food and eating?

a lot.

but PP is right, this thread doesn't warrant this much attention, but thx for all who posted.

OP out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i might've overreacted a bit but i ain't gonna apologize to nobody. we worked so hard on over-spending and over-eating and just as i thought we've made some progress and actually looking forward to him following through them all, he screwed up and disappointed me big time.

yes i work downtown near penn quarters. and yes i offered to pack lunch but he chose to buy. and yes i'm local and school ends today. and yes we go out and buy lunch/dinner together at least a couple times a week. and no this is not at Smithsonian's rip off cafeteria but some lousy food court. and no i don't have 'issues' or need counseling.

Are you, or are you a relative of, Michelle Singletary?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you gave him money to spend on his trip, he stayed under budget, but you're mad because he spent it on food you didn't approve of?

How much of this is because of your own hangups over food and eating?

a lot.

but PP is right, this thread doesn't warrant this much attention, but thx for all who posted.

OP out.

It does if you are real - you're being pretty terrible to your kid and needlessly so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you gave him money to spend on his trip, he stayed under budget, but you're mad because he spent it on food you didn't approve of?

How much of this is because of your own hangups over food and eating?

a lot.

but PP is right, this thread doesn't warrant this much attention, but thx for all who posted.

OP out.

In this case, your own issues with food are hurting your child, and they might even lead to repeating the cycle of an unhealthy relationship with food.

For a boy that age, what he is ate on a fun field trip is not going to change anything, nutritionally, and you need to give him some freedom, hard as it is. I was raised in a house where there was such an emphasis on not being allowed to buy outside junky food or anything my parents looked down on (no school lunch, etc.) that it led to a really unhealthy fear of certain foods as "bad" and a lot of issues, including trust issues. I literally would think "at least it's just cigarettes and booze and
not Sonic I was caught with!"

[Anonymous]

OP, you also really need to adjust your expectations of what a growing boy eats. A burger plus a hot dog is really not abnormal.
My son easily eats 2-3x what his sister, who is 2 years older, eats. And he is by no means overweight. He just has an incredibly high need for protein. Think about what you gave your son for breakfast that morning, and how much protein was in it. If he had some toast, or a bowl of cereal, I'm not surprised he's doubling up on his proteins at lunch. (And even if he did have eggs and sausage, I can still see a boy that age doubling up on proteins at lunch.)

[Anonymous]

I still say it is a troll. No parent is this clueless. Plus, the writing is that of a teenager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you are a terrible mother. Imagine, he could have come home, told you all about what he did and saw, you could have asked questions, and really engaged and listened to him and had a real conversation. You could have smiled, given him a little squeeze, told him you are glad he had a fun day. When he told you about lunch, you could have rolled your eyes, told him he shouldn't have borrowed money for a souvenir if he spent all his money on lunch, and told him to plan a little better next time.

Instead you made your kid feel like crap and sucked the joy out of his day. He is about to go to middle school. I can just about guarantee that he will start to pull away from you and stop telling you things because he won't want to share anything with you because you will overreact to any minor infraction. Next time he will know to just lie.

My heart hurts for this little boy whose mom won't speak to him because he ate more lunch than he would have liked.

I agree. I had that mom. Like a previous poster, I do not have a relationship with her. Haven't for 15 years. Same with my siblings. It's hard enough being a kid//teen. And I'll bet it's hard as hell to live in your house. My mom was and is a huge bitch. The silent treatment was her weapon of choice. My heart hurts for your kid, and for the kid I was. Still to this day it makes me depressed to think about how all of the other kids who had moms who were generally nice, and how I had a mom who acted like she hated me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This can't be real right, people? Too hard to believe...

I kind of agree, only because I would think (maybe I am wrong), that no mom who seems to dislike her kid so much would "waste" any time on a parenting forum.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man hope he at least got a joint for that

+420

haha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i might've overreacted a bit but i ain't gonna apologize to nobody. we worked so hard on over-spending and over-eating and just as i thought we've made some progress and actually looking forward to him following through them all, he screwed up and disappointed me big time.

yes i work downtown near penn quarters. and yes i offered to pack lunch but he chose to buy. and yes i'm local and school ends today. and yes we go out and buy lunch/dinner together at least a couple times a week. and no this is not at Smithsonian's rip off cafeteria but some lousy food court. and no i don't have 'issues' or need counseling.

Are you, or are you a relative of, Michelle Singletary?

I was thinking the same thing.