Furious at DS for spending $18 for lunch at field trip today

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to apologize to your son.

[Anonymous]

Next time pack the kid a damn sandwich if you're going to get all crazy about it.

[Anonymous]

I used to be a chaperone on many many field trips because I was a SAHM therefore I had nothing better to do Anyway, I can't tell you how many lunches I bought and brought extra just in case for kids that spent their money in the souvenir shop FIRST and had no money left to buy food. They're kids. They are supposed to be stupid.

Next time go on the trip or only give him $10.

One time I sent my GROWN son to the store for bread. I gave him a twenty and he bought $20 worth of bread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are cray-cray.

+1. Bat shit crazy. Come back and post when you have a real reason to be furious.

[Anonymous]

I feel so awful for your son. You act like he did something TO YOU. You take this so personally, as if he did something criminal. All he did was eat lunch.

You need therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to be a chaperone on many many field trips because I was a SAHM therefore I had nothing better to do Anyway, I can't tell you how many lunches I bought and brought extra just in case for kids that spent their money in the souvenir shop FIRST and had no money left to buy food. They're kids. They are supposed to be stupid.

Next time go on the trip or only give him $10.

One time I sent my GROWN son to the store for bread. I gave him a twenty and he bought $20 worth of bread.

Ha! I could totally see that happening!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel so awful for your son. You act like he did something TO YOU. You take this so personally, as if he did something criminal. All he did was eat lunch.

You need therapy.

I know! The poor kid ate lunch and then came home and his fun day was ruined by his shrew mom who is furious with him and not speaking to him (silent treatment for a 10 year old!!) for having the nerve to eat a burger AND dog. Op the good news for you is your son is going to have nothing to do with you once he's out of your house so you only have 8 years left of freezing him out over petty amounts of cash.

[Anonymous]

I would be happy that I did not have some junky souvenir laying around the house for a couple of years before being tossed or that broke on day 3. My kid eats 2 hamburgers any time they are served. It is not that much food for a teen.

[Anonymous]

You said he bought a burger, hot dog and soda. My active 8 year old could easily eat this plus fries and/or chips. Of course it would cost around $20 on a field trip to a tourist place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's 10, almost 11, and in 5th grade. Yes we discussed what to buy and how much it'd cost, and how the $20 was for lunch and souvenir.

Instead he bought junk - burger and hot dog and soda. Another I'm still mad...

OP, $20.00 is not enough to purchase lunch, a drink AND a souvenir. It just is not.

And the souvenier is would purchase would be actual junk, a $5.00 eraser or trinket that would end up in the trash. Maybe a postcard. But that is about it.

Be grateful he bought food instead of wasting the money on cheap trinkets.

Also, a burger and hot dog do not sound excessive for a boy on the threshold of puberty. If you are flipping out about this minor lunch how the heck are you going to handle $300.00/week grocery bills trying to feed a growing teen boy?

+1. I'd rather my kid bought food (even overpriced crap) than a crummy cheap souvenir!

[Anonymous]

OP you are being nuts. Tween boys require more calories, and this is just the beginning. He will soon. Be eating you out of house and home on a daily basis. Get used to it. It's what you signed up for.

[Anonymous]

You need therapy OP. I feel really sorry for your kid that you have anger and control issues that aren't being addressed. You sound like my mother, and I haven't spoken to her in over two years.

[Anonymous]

OP, Iagree with the others. You are overreacting. I hope you take the near unanimous advice, a rarity on DCUM, and examine your parenting. If you react this way on something that could have been a learning experience I can't imagine how you handle the important stuff. The teen years are tough so you should take a parenting class or read up on how to best manage parenting challenges.

[Anonymous]

Wow, unanimity on DCUM! OP, I hope you have gone and apologized to your son. We all go bat shit about dumb things occasionally. The best life lesson here is to teach him it's okay to apologize and admit you over-reacted. Otherwise, in 20 years, his wife will be here posting about some dumb ass thing he did that he refuses to apologize for. You don't want that. The worst quality in a spouse, friend or an employee is someone who can't admit they made a mistake.

[Anonymous]

Agreed with the others. This is no reason to get upset. If this is a one-off, then use it as an opportunity to educate your child about how money works and how much things cost. Show him what a home-cooked meal costs and compare that with a food court meal.

If there is a pattern of over-spending, then work with your child to create a budget and help him stick to it.