grandmother 'scooped' baby announcement on FB

[Anonymous]

OP is obviously one of those people who thinks she too good for Facebook and is smug about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is obviously one of those people who thinks she too good for Facebook and is smug about it.

i think if my eyes rolled any harder in my head they would fall out. there is nothing wrong with a parent wanting privacy for their child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is obviously one of those people who thinks she too good for Facebook and is smug about it.

i think if my eyes rolled any harder in my head they would fall out. there is nothing wrong with a parent wanting privacy for their child

+1. Also, NYT yesterday had a story on how kids hate their parents posting about them: http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2016/03/08/dont-post-about-me-on-social-media-children-say/?_r=0

[Anonymous]

My SIL requested no photos or mentions of her baby be made on Facebook. These days you need to explicitly state it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is obviously one of those people who thinks she too good for Facebook and is smug about it.

i think if my eyes rolled any harder in my head they would fall out. there is nothing wrong with a parent wanting privacy for their child

Wanting privacy is fine. Being smug is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's the situation, would like to get some outside feedback:

Recently had a baby, and never made a Facebook announcement about being pregnant <<pregnancy was out in the open to all those who we interact with regularly in real-life; just didn't want to put it on FB>>. My mother visited us in the hospital, took a fairly unflattering photo of me with baby, and posted in on FB with comment to the effect of "welcome grandchild #5!".

Husband and I are pretty miffed; wasn't this our announcement to make on FB, if we felt the need? FWIW, we share many FB friends with my mother, so she definitely broke the news on our behalf.

Should we say something, or just ignore and move on? I don't have the mindspace right now to deal with the a confrontation, but if this sets a precedent for what the grandparents have the right to broadcast about our child, maybe I should say something?

No this was nice of her to do, and it's her FB page with whoever is on there. Can't control that...problem with FB. She could have just as easily shown people on her phone.

Really not something you should blow out of proportion.

Exactly, and laughable the OP would even post this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My SIL requested no photos or mentions of her baby be made on Facebook. These days you need to explicitly state it.

This. I haven't read all the responses, but my friend group seems to have a good grasp of this. We don't post pictures with other kids in them unless there is agreement. And we also don't mention the names of the kids. I would never post someone else's kid on my Facebook without asking. Now that you have kids, you should set clear expectations with family and friends. Similarly, we attended a NYE party where not everyone in our friend group was invited. It was a smaller gathering of 4 couples. Upon arriving, the host was very clear in announcing that this would be a "Facebook free" evening. No posts. So it is ok to live without broadcasting via FB, and mature adults should respect this. Whatever the reason.

[Anonymous]

I can't tell if OP is really mad that the announcement was scooped, that her kid's photo was posted without her permission, or simply that the photo was unflattering.

I take my cue from the parents. My brother has NEVER posted a single photo of his now 4 yr old son on FB or any social media so I know better, no matter how much I love the pics of him snuggling me when I visit. Not my kid, not my place. But in this pic happy culture OP you really do need to make an explicit request.