Where to find girls who would be housewives

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Anonymous wrote:You are getting a lot of unfair comments. My wife is a SAHM. A lot of women become SAHMs without knowing it is a choice they would make when they are single. My DW is a lawyer, so she has earning power.

The number 1 factor is YOUR income. You need to make a lot of money so your future wife's decision whether SHE wants to stay home is made without regard to money.

+ 1.

Most women want to stay home but can't because their spouses do not earn enough.

Ooh, please link to the source for your statement that "most women want to stay home." I'd love to see it!

Check out the stats on SAHMs. It is U shaped which means it goes up tremendously once the person with a job starts making a lot of money (say, 500k +). Rich wives have always opted to do their own thing when they can. Some have "hobby" careers, like a little boutique, but they don't expect it to make any money. Some volunteer extensively.

Thanks for looking at SAHMing so cynically. My dad was a big law partner. My mom SAHMd. She made his career earning lots of money possible. She wasn't laying around eating bon bons. She was busy taking us to schools, sports, monitoring homework, taking us to medical appointments, showing up for our events, hosting parties and playdates for us, paying bills, doing all the grocery shopping, meal planning, meal making, meal clean up, supervision of all household staff, maintenance of all family relationships, and being caretaker of all when my Dad traveled for work, hosting business associates, etc. My mom worked as hard as my dad for his Big Law salary. He never would have been able to put in the high number of billable hours required for Big Law partnership if my Mom hadn't been picking up the slack. She's never been able to "do her own thing" unless she squeezed it into the little time she had when she wasn't serving her husband or kids.

What a beautiful thing to say about your mom. I scrolled down a bit - so like DCUM to rip something like this to shreds.

Notice how the big law guy who mentioned how much he appreciates his SAHM wife was completely ignored.

I'm embarrassed to say that I didn't appreciate what my mother had done for us kids until I became a mother myself. As kids we tended to be dismissive of her since she didn't "work". My father never put a stop to our growing scorn for her. I must admit, I've lost a little respect for my Dad as I've realized as a parent how much he benefitted from her labor. While they stayed together and he has always shared his earnings with her fully, that he allowed us to disrespect her like that is a disappointment to me because it reveals his sexism.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a young guy, and I want to date( and eventually marry) a girl who would be willing to be a homemaker. Where can I find girls like this? Are there any dating sites for this kind of thing?

Girls are females under age16, you chauvinistic cretin. Thankfully, you will find it next to impossible to find a grown woman who will give you a 222nd thought. PIG!

I know, because only men who get laid are really worthwhile.

[Anonymous]

OP, here's the thing, some women won't realize that they will want to be a sahm once they have kids, and others will think they want to be a sahm but then have kids, and then decide it's not for them.

I was such a woman. I was career oriented, blah blah. Then I had DC#2 and decided that being a SAHM was important for our sanity. Two working parents, stress, activities. Something was going to give. So I quit for a couple of years. I have gone back to work PT now that kids are older ES, and will eventually go back FT when kids are *much* older because we need to save money for college. I am fortunate to be in the situation I am in.

But you are counting the chickens before they are hatched because you have no idea what your income will be in the future. Kids are expensive.

If a family can afford to have one sahp, it is super beneficial for the other parent because it reduces the stress of childcare, activities, etc.. on that other parent. Don't doubt it. My DH thinks it's great to come home and have dinner all prepared, kids done with HW, laundry done, house cleaned, grocery shopping done, etc.. Before I quit, you bet DH was doing at least half of all this. Now, after cleaning up the kitchen after dinner, he can just chill out with the kids on most nights, and the weekends are usually free. Before, it was all running errands and grocery shopping on the weekends. You better believe life is much easier for that other parent. Not saying working is stress-free, but at least the other parent doesn't have added stress.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, here's the thing, some women won't realize that they will want to be a sahm once they have kids, and others will think they want to be a sahm but then have kids, and then decide it's not for them.

I was such a woman. I was career oriented, blah blah. Then I had DC#2 and decided that being a SAHM was important for our sanity. Two working parents, stress, activities. Something was going to give. So I quit for a couple of years. I have gone back to work PT now that kids are older ES, and will eventually go back FT when kids are *much* older because we need to save money for college. I am fortunate to be in the situation I am in.

But you are counting the chickens before they are hatched because you have no idea what your income will be in the future. Kids are expensive.

If a family can afford to have one sahp, it is super beneficial for the other parent because it reduces the stress of childcare, activities, etc.. on that other parent. Don't doubt it. My DH thinks it's great to come home and have dinner all prepared, kids done with HW, laundry done, house cleaned, grocery shopping done, etc.. Before I quit, you bet DH was doing at least half of all this. Now, after cleaning up the kitchen after dinner, he can just chill out with the kids on most nights, and the weekends are usually free. Before, it was all running errands and grocery shopping on the weekends. You better believe life is much easier for that other parent. Not saying working is stress-free, but at least the other parent doesn't have added stress.

My experience was similar, too.

Someone once said here that being a SAHM, for her family, was not so much about what she did during the day, but about what she wasn't doing during the evenings and weekends.