Has a stranger ever paid you a compliment regarding your looks?

[Anonymous]

OP what you said isn't a compliment. It sounds very much like a proposition, you're accessing her goods and finding them acceptable. Shudder. I'd have looked past you like you weren't there. But I've found some compliments from strangers very nice and acceptable if they are genuine compliments, be it a man or a woman. It DOES happen and is very easy to tell.

[Anonymous]

OP you are too wordy, as others have pointed out what you say is more of a conversation not a compliment. I am a very laid back woman, but if you start saying that "may I compliment you" nonsense to me, it would creep the hell out of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw a woman today that I would imagine was likely late 50's early 60's...had a great figure, dressed well and looked very attractive. I didn't say anything to her but in the past I have on a few occasions told a women like her something along the line...may I pay you a compliment?...when she said yes, and I have never had one say no...I said something along the lines of...you do appear to be over 30...which usually gets a laugh and sometimes a yes, way over...and I just wanted to say that you have matured wonderfully and it is obvious you take good care of yourself. Often I get thank you's...or a you made my day...but the one that surprised me the most was a woman who said...thanks but I have a question for you...when I said ok...she turned around and looking over her shoulder asked...do you think my ass still looks good? It did and I told her I thought it looked great.

Now...it can be something simpler...or even sexier.

Another question...would you be receptive to such a compliment?

Men...how about you?

That's not a compliment. It's a come on.

I get compliments on my hair and my clothes all the time. I don't mind. If someone started this conversation with me, I'd be reaching for my pepper spray.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn't read the whole thread.

I am often told to smile by passersby... I have reccently taken to telling them that I'm "not here to be pretty for you" and that seems to shut them up.

On the flipside, my garbage man commented on my weight loss the other day. I cannot really tell you what he did that was so, I don't know, correct, but he did it in a way that was not creepy and totally flattering... just an observation that I've put in the work and should be proud of myself. if you must say something, and you don't but I'm not going to argue, however he did it is the right way.

Replying "go fuck yourself" works pretty well for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP seems to be recovering nicely from his anxiety about why his long-time girlfriend hasn't bitten the bullet and dumped it yet.


http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/493203.page

What a singular voice you have, sir. Humbert Humbert meets US Weekly.

OP

No connection.

Jeff can look at IP addresses but I'm sure he's too busy.

It's so you.

You can make a request in website feedback and he will usually answer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was caught in a thunderstorm once while unloading my too many grocery bags into the trunk. Damn pour down came out of no where so I had no umbrella and was using the trunk lid as cover. I had just put two bags in when I looked up to grab more and a man was standing there. Didn't see him approach. He startled me. He asked if I needed help and I said no thank you. He started walking away, turned to me and said, nice tits bitch.

The blood left my whole body and I felt paralyzed. I looked to see if anyone heard him then realized I was the only one in the parking lot in that area. Everyone was inside waiting for the rain to stop. He could have easily pushed me into the trunk, closed the lid and took me somewhere no one would ever think to look. In my mind, he had bad intent towards me. I never shopped that store again.


ANY man OP, doing what you seem comfortable doing to strange random women, is a potential sex criminal to me. You need to quit doing that shit.

I am so sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately some variation on this happens to almost all of us in our lifetimes.

As long as men feel entitled to our time and attention, as long as they feel like they can set the agendas for our days and tell us how to feel, this is going to keep happening.

OP, men like you ARE THE PROBLEM. You've got a few dozen women taking time out of our day to persuade you that we, and not you, know what we want and how we should be treated.

Get it through your head: we don't want to talk to you. We want to live our lives. We don't walk out the door giving the slightest shit whether you approve of our appearance or even if you want us to be happy. Which, by the way, would be better achieved by showing some freaking boundaries.

You're not trying to make us happy. You're trying to get access to women's attention by giving them what YOU want to give them, and rationalizing that your attention is worth more than a bucket of warm hamster vomit.

Get a hobby.

Exactly. I am the poster who got followed out of the store yesterday with the guy shouting at me that I was "speeding up." It was actually quite terrifying and in those situations you never really know if "today is the day" that you're going to become one of those headlines. like the Elliot Rodgers who shoot up women that wont pay attention to them.

It really ruined my day. And it sucks that things like that don't happen infrequently.

Just because I am out at a store, does not mean I am putting myself on "public display" to be commented on and assessed. Just because I am female and you are male, I do not owe you my time or appreciation just because my appearance is pleasing to you.

Afterwards I was upset with how the whole interaction had gone, and i was thinking of buying a fake wedding ring to wear around to get guys to stop. And then I was like- Nah, FUCK THAT. I should not to have to pretend to be attached to a man for other males to give me space and not be scary and angry when I reject them.